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I am very discouraged but I have to post. I’ve been seriously drinking and like a fool have been doing everything imaginable to try to moderate. DOES NOT WORK. I will always get drunk. I have started journaling as I reflect on my problem. Looking back on all my history on SR and the progression of my alcoholic drinking. And I am rereading “Under the Influence”. I have a stomach pain that has started and I am certain it’s from drinking. I think about so many here who have said it took them many tries to finally get sober. Thank you for saying that. I am starting again. Tomorrow which is Monday will be another day 1. I feel terrible and I deserve it.
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It took me a very long time to realise I couldn’t moderate. Suddenly, the penny dropped and I woke up to the fact moderation is painful and difficult. My brain hurt just trying to moderate! Once you free yourself from the prison of alcohol, you will feel so much better.
My last binge before getting sober was horrible. I felt so depressed, guilty, anxious - you name it. I’d been there before, but somehow I managed to use the feelings this time to really wake me up. I stayed close to this site and took it one day at a time. You can do the same. Stop now and things will get better - that much I can guarantee.
Something has just clicked into place with me this time. I’m only 5 weeks sober and know that I have to work hard every day at staying sober. But do you know what? Even that is easier to do than try to moderate or try to deal with the withdrawals and mental trauma time and time again.
I have dreadful health anxiety when I’m drinking as well. Every single ache and pain is worse. If you’re still worried about your stomach - see your doctor. Most people find that some distance from alcohol eases lots of physical symptoms but always best to be on the safe side.
Take care xx
My last binge before getting sober was horrible. I felt so depressed, guilty, anxious - you name it. I’d been there before, but somehow I managed to use the feelings this time to really wake me up. I stayed close to this site and took it one day at a time. You can do the same. Stop now and things will get better - that much I can guarantee.
Something has just clicked into place with me this time. I’m only 5 weeks sober and know that I have to work hard every day at staying sober. But do you know what? Even that is easier to do than try to moderate or try to deal with the withdrawals and mental trauma time and time again.
I have dreadful health anxiety when I’m drinking as well. Every single ache and pain is worse. If you’re still worried about your stomach - see your doctor. Most people find that some distance from alcohol eases lots of physical symptoms but always best to be on the safe side.
Take care xx
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Hi Oregongirlsite - I merged your two threads into one here 
Its true it took me many tried to get sober and stay that way but really once I committed to not drinking again, changed my lifestyle and changed the way I dealt with situations and emotions, I've stayed sober for good.
I really believe you can do it too.
Take the option of drinking again permanently off the table
D
Its true it took me many tried to get sober and stay that way but really once I committed to not drinking again, changed my lifestyle and changed the way I dealt with situations and emotions, I've stayed sober for good.
I really believe you can do it too.
Take the option of drinking again permanently off the table
D
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Day 1 is the most important day of them all. Keep trying. Most if not all of us are stuck in the cycle for a long time... You can do it and be confident you will because one day you won't have the choice.
Make it stick this time.
Make it stick this time.
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Hi .. when I quit I quit ...I never tried to moderate as I knew I couldn't do it ..when I stopped drinking my doctor asked me could I perhaps reduce my intake of alcohol. .I could have said yeah ..I'll try ..and I'd still be on that terrible path of destruction..my answer was NO ... I know for me it wouldn't EVER WORK ..All the luck in the world to you ...I believe you can do this
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I have relapsed so many times I can't count. I have had many periods of somewhat 'decent' abstinence. Only to go back, put myself and others through hell. But it is what it is....and no doubt I have learned a tremendous amount. I'm just glad I didn't die or kill someone along the way.
I had to smash the idea that alcohol will ever work. Its a complete lie. It will not 'help' whatever it is I'm feeling. And it will most definitely make things worse. The rationalization and justification I used to keep drinking is staggering. I had to face reality, grow up and simply allow life and my feelings to happen. I had to go through them....as opposed to constantly trying to circumvent them.
I also had to commit to a way of thinking that worked for me. Not one that I was told I should think, but one that I could truly get behind. Develop a plan that includes mind, body and spirit and stick to it.
You can do this. But you have to really, really want it.
I had to smash the idea that alcohol will ever work. Its a complete lie. It will not 'help' whatever it is I'm feeling. And it will most definitely make things worse. The rationalization and justification I used to keep drinking is staggering. I had to face reality, grow up and simply allow life and my feelings to happen. I had to go through them....as opposed to constantly trying to circumvent them.
I also had to commit to a way of thinking that worked for me. Not one that I was told I should think, but one that I could truly get behind. Develop a plan that includes mind, body and spirit and stick to it.
You can do this. But you have to really, really want it.
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Originally Posted by Tarpaulin 
Bless you, I can see from your old posts you’ve been here a while. My paltry advice of 5 weeks seems so silly now, but you really CAN do this x
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Hi Oregongirlsite - I merged your two threads into one here
Its true it took me many tried to get sober and stay that way but really once I committed to not drinking again, changed my lifestyle and changed the way I dealt with situations and emotions, I've stayed sober for good.
I really believe you can do it too.
Take the option of drinking again permanently off the table
D
Its true it took me many tried to get sober and stay that way but really once I committed to not drinking again, changed my lifestyle and changed the way I dealt with situations and emotions, I've stayed sober for good.
I really believe you can do it too.
Take the option of drinking again permanently off the table
D
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Originally Posted by theVman31
Day 1 is the most important day of them all. Keep trying. Most if not all of us are stuck in the cycle for a long time... You can do it and be confident you will because one day you won't have the choice.
Make it stick this time.
Make it stick this time.
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Originally Posted by Caralara144
Hi .. when I quit I quit ...I never tried to moderate as I knew I couldn't do it ..when I stopped drinking my doctor asked me could I perhaps reduce my intake of alcohol. .I could have said yeah ..I'll try ..and I'd still be on that terrible path of destruction..my answer was NO ... I know for me it wouldn't EVER WORK ..All the luck in the world to you ...I believe you can do this
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Welcome back!
I was definitely the queen of moderation attempts. I was somehow convinced that "this time," would be the one when I finally was successful with moderating, I never was.
I am getting close to the three year mark, and this site has been one of my biggest supports. I still read and post daily, and in the beginning I found myself here a lot. I have also found exercise, especially walking outdoors, and mindfulness to be very big parts of my recovery.
You can do this. I hope Day two is a great one for you!!
❤️Delilah
I was definitely the queen of moderation attempts. I was somehow convinced that "this time," would be the one when I finally was successful with moderating, I never was.
I am getting close to the three year mark, and this site has been one of my biggest supports. I still read and post daily, and in the beginning I found myself here a lot. I have also found exercise, especially walking outdoors, and mindfulness to be very big parts of my recovery.
You can do this. I hope Day two is a great one for you!!
❤️Delilah
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