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Old 10-15-2018, 05:06 AM
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Awesome post! congrats on 6 years!!
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Old 10-15-2018, 05:57 AM
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I really enjoyed reading your post, MidnightBlue. So much of this resonates with me! Thank you. Congratulations on six years!
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Old 10-15-2018, 06:37 AM
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Thank you so much for congrats and kind words, guys.

It means a lot to me!
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Old 10-15-2018, 12:09 PM
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MidnightBlue, Thank you for bringing up the processes that entice progress as a person. I think this a big roadblock for those that are fighting addiction. Initially, (the phase I'm in at 7months) where the main focal point being sobriety, can be a bit selfish and confusing. The main thing that I've realized recently is how deep of a hole I've dug myself into, and that I don't suddenly deserve the best things in life simply due to being sober. I feel like I need to be 100%honest with myself with regard to my life patterns, and the changes that need to be made to improve the rest of my life.

The improvements, setbacks, the struggle, and achievements... the process of growing, I feel helps with staying sober and embracing life in a more positive way. I'm putting my "I'm not sure" grandiose goals on the sidelines and focusing on learning how to live properly everyday, so that I can become a person of higher character to embrace larger goals. I feel like this process of taking care of self, diet, sleep, etc., are critical to staying sober initially, then further taking on responsibilities that may seem easy (but aren't), and continuing the journey in a positive direction are important. I haven't found the "meaning", or even a real passion at this juncture, but clarity of mind has helped me with understanding the reality of my position in my life, and toward which direction I want to take it (up.. not down).

Booze isn't really an option at all.
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Old 10-15-2018, 02:46 PM
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MB - I'm so glad you are part of us.

Thank you for sharing your feelings so eloquently. Congrats on your 6 yrs., & your wonderful new life.
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Old 10-15-2018, 03:05 PM
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MB, so well said.

Congrats on 6 yrs!!
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Great post MidnightBlue, it definitely struck a few chirds and you are quite correct in saying that there is never a perfect time to quit.

Congratulations on 6 years!
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Old 10-15-2018, 04:24 PM
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Congrats on 6 years! And thank you for sharing your wisdom.
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Old 10-15-2018, 06:37 PM
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Congratulations, MidnightBlue.

What a beautiful accomplishment!
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Originally Posted by sobersolstice View Post
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I feel like this process of taking care of self, diet, sleep, etc., are critical to staying sober initially, then further taking on responsibilities that may seem easy (but aren't), and continuing the journey in a positive direction are important. .

Booze isn't really an option at all.
Great insight, Sobersolctice, thank you for sharing.

I can't stress enough how basic stuff you mentioned is important. It's often overlooked or highbrowed because it's... basic. It should happen automatically. Right? Wrong. These are solid blocks in the foundations without which the rest of the structure develops cracks and eventually starts falling apart. And they deserves as much attention as required to foster and grow them.

Hevyn - Thank you for congrats. I remember you were one of the first people who welcomed me when I just joined. So many warm memories which were born amidst rough times of early sobriety.

Sao - Thank you for stopping by, weekender pal. Always a pleasure.

Ljc, Soberleigh, Flower - Thank you a lot for warm words
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y thanks button tells me I am undefined- so just to make sure..congrats MNB.
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Old 10-16-2018, 11:55 PM
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Thank you, Ben.

I do remember how it feels.

I remember being a week, two weeks sober and reading posts from people having months and years under their belt and thinking "They are just different. They are a totally different breed. They don't understand. I am sure I will never be able to enjoy life without wine as they do".

It's really fun to do things they you thought were impossible. It's exciting.

Best wishes to you!
Thank you for sharing MB! Your post inspires me and reminds me of how far I have come in 2 yr 8 mo (technically, 1001 days today so almost that 8 mo ) and the road I will keep traveling!
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