He said He moves in with me or he’s moving on
 

ABF of three and half years laid it out last night.

Numb. Sad. Unsure. Hopeful for....I don’t know

I’ve been hesitant but now feel slighted.

Ugh

well gosh, with such a loving caring offer as THAT, how could you resist?

stand your ground. respect your space.

At least the decision is made. No more worrying or vacillating.

I agree with Anvil, and you. I couldn't live with him.

Next.

But. I’m NOT gonna drink.....


Thanks for responses.

Go back and read you previous thread about rethinking your relationship now that you're sober.

Once the initial pain is over, you'll realized this is a gift, really. Accept it as such.

Kind of demanding, isn't he? Good riddance to bad rubbish.

That's right.

This is an answer to all the questions you had yesterday.

Someone better is looking for you. You'll meet him if you're single.

:grouphug:

Thanks my awesome friends.—your words mean so much.

Just because I am sad, dumbfounded right now, doesn’t mean it was right for me.

Give me strength not to cave in and decide to let him move in.

I had originally said I want to wait until my kids graduate from high school next summer......now there’s a need for me to lock that in as a promise ?

Do I smell fish?

No.
No.
No.
No moving in.
It may not seem so now, but he has just given you a great gift.
Take it.
Hugs.

You had already made a decision that was right for you for next year when the kids graduate. He obviously doesn’t respect your decision and is now in essence threatening you to come to the decision he wants regardless of how you feel. Send him packing, don’t cave and stick to the boundaries you have set. xx

Furthermore, anyone who uses threats and emotional blackmail to get what they want regardless of the impact to the person they are doing it to is a total waste of oxygen. You can do better and you sure as hell deserve better! xx

What a blessing, you may not fully see it that way now but you will!

That's anything but love. Tell him to move on.

DR. So funny!

Blown, dream, manta, maud, bikini,anvil, least!!

Thank you!

You’re making me feel better!

It hurts even when a yucky is dumping you, and the minutes are like hours even busy at work....

Why does this situation feel similar to my alcohol addiction ? Hm....

Thanks Carl.


It does hurt.

I'm sorry it hurts Free but yeah I think you know whats best :)

D

Don't get it twisted...he is the one getting dumped. He gave you the ultimatum, but you made the final decision.

Thanks Dee and Opi!

My sister also is supporting my decision to hold my ground. She thinks he is manipulating me just to see if I will bend on my boundaries.

He tries to play on my financial situation, because I walk a very thin line being able to keep my house… But I do keep it! On my own!

I had a counselor once told me “do you realize when people are manipulating you?“ And I replied “no honestly I don’t because I don’t manipulate other people and so I don’t expect them to manipulate me”

He said it would be good for me to pay attention.

It sure seems a little easier to see with a clear (or clearing mind and vision) and with ‘a little help from my (SR) friends.....’

He’s texted me today. Updates on his day. ‘Hi’. And ‘do I want to join him for dinner ?’

WTH

Ugh.


He just called expecting me to call him on my way from work...wanted a ‘he said she said’ conversation. I said I’m not doing that. I briefly explained my long day. Said I ate leftovers. And he hung up quickly saying he’s going to get something to eat.....

Give me strength to take as little rent in my head as possible.

I feel the power of my sobriety.....

AND I LIKE IT!!!:)