He said He moves in with me or he’s moving on
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Update:
I have moved to the western United States about 1000 miles away. I have kept him blocked off of my phone since February 12 when he asked me for the shelving in the garage back.
He has emailed me a few times, asking me why I have blocked him and how much that hurt him and how sad he is that we had a failed relationship. Oh my goodness, did he forget that he was the one that wanted to ‘move in or move on’?
I have started seeing someone who lives about 3 1/2 hours away. In this part of the country, everyone is far away from the little town I moved to. He does not drink, is a little bit quirky like myself. Seeing him on the weekends and we plan to go camping in Utah the following weekend. He is financially stable, and has no intentions of moving from his home. It perfectly fits my needs right now.
Also getting a lot of self actualization and getting out in nature after work. My new job is pretty great except for a mean person here and there.
My new friend, Chip, had a quote from John Wayne on his computer on a post it note:
“I won’t be wronged. I won’t be insulted. I won’t be laid a hand on. I don’t do these things to other people and I require the same from them.” – John Wayne
I hope everyone out there is doing great in their Journey to becoming more whole human being—loving and treating themselves/bodies as though they are loving themselves.
I have so much less financially right now than I ever have. I am living in a 10’ x 10’ room renting from someone in a small town in western Colorado. I hardly have any of my belongings with me.
I couldn’t be happier.
I am, FREE
I have moved to the western United States about 1000 miles away. I have kept him blocked off of my phone since February 12 when he asked me for the shelving in the garage back.
He has emailed me a few times, asking me why I have blocked him and how much that hurt him and how sad he is that we had a failed relationship. Oh my goodness, did he forget that he was the one that wanted to ‘move in or move on’?
I have started seeing someone who lives about 3 1/2 hours away. In this part of the country, everyone is far away from the little town I moved to. He does not drink, is a little bit quirky like myself. Seeing him on the weekends and we plan to go camping in Utah the following weekend. He is financially stable, and has no intentions of moving from his home. It perfectly fits my needs right now.
Also getting a lot of self actualization and getting out in nature after work. My new job is pretty great except for a mean person here and there.
My new friend, Chip, had a quote from John Wayne on his computer on a post it note:
“I won’t be wronged. I won’t be insulted. I won’t be laid a hand on. I don’t do these things to other people and I require the same from them.” – John Wayne
I hope everyone out there is doing great in their Journey to becoming more whole human being—loving and treating themselves/bodies as though they are loving themselves.
I have so much less financially right now than I ever have. I am living in a 10’ x 10’ room renting from someone in a small town in western Colorado. I hardly have any of my belongings with me.
I couldn’t be happier.
I am, FREE
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It's a small town, a small room, how will they ever contain your big heart, Free? It's all a brand new road ahead of you, with the comfort of nigh upon a year of sobriety under your belt, too. Don't let the meanies drag you down.
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Yes, I reread this about a month ago, it was so scary how far into the relationship I was with this alcoholic narcissist.
Glad to say it ended almost four years ago now.
The big kicker for him was that I stopped drinking. He did NOT like that, no, not at all.
When I stopped drinking, I really began to see who he really was. It took about 7-8 months to make the complete cut off.
So worth the whole thing.
NEVER, never, EVER, going to get that numb again from alcohol. Always vigilant for my well being…..relationships, food and liquid intake, and meds.
Glad someone bumped it, as painful as this old memory is.
Hoping it helps ANYONE caught in a horrible situation. You can be free, you need absolutely NO CONTACT.
Also, be safe and get family involved. Tell ALL to someone, a counselor, a friend, a family member, because your narcissist has isolated you.
Heck, stay here and post in family and friends.
All the responders and peeps on SR helped me so much, quitting alcohol, and counseling. I also had to see the part I played.
I allowed it. Oh, that’s the painful truth.
Be well!
Glad to say it ended almost four years ago now.
The big kicker for him was that I stopped drinking. He did NOT like that, no, not at all.
When I stopped drinking, I really began to see who he really was. It took about 7-8 months to make the complete cut off.
So worth the whole thing.
NEVER, never, EVER, going to get that numb again from alcohol. Always vigilant for my well being…..relationships, food and liquid intake, and meds.
Glad someone bumped it, as painful as this old memory is.
Hoping it helps ANYONE caught in a horrible situation. You can be free, you need absolutely NO CONTACT.
Also, be safe and get family involved. Tell ALL to someone, a counselor, a friend, a family member, because your narcissist has isolated you.
Heck, stay here and post in family and friends.
All the responders and peeps on SR helped me so much, quitting alcohol, and counseling. I also had to see the part I played.
I allowed it. Oh, that’s the painful truth.
Be well!
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Thanks Hawkeye, Leigh, Bekind,and Steely.
There are some folks who might benefit from this thread, to see how you and many others here helped me in this situation.
I reread it today, sparked by some recent threads on SR.
I was in a bad place. I see it so clearly now, whereas when I was in it, it was this little voice, saying “save me, this isn’t good….”.
Yes, so much healing. Boundaries.
And the foundation of it all was putting my all into sustained sobriety. I changed. I grew.
And I am free.
There are some folks who might benefit from this thread, to see how you and many others here helped me in this situation.
I reread it today, sparked by some recent threads on SR.
I was in a bad place. I see it so clearly now, whereas when I was in it, it was this little voice, saying “save me, this isn’t good….”.
Yes, so much healing. Boundaries.
And the foundation of it all was putting my all into sustained sobriety. I changed. I grew.
And I am free.
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