Not Sure What's Going On
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Not Sure What's Going On
I have no plans to go back out into the world ever right now.
I just do basics like shower. I don't want a drink. I dont want anything.
Dont know if this is a normal way to be.
Im living like a shut in. Still trying to make sense of things.
I dont know if this part of a healing process.
I just do basics like shower. I don't want a drink. I dont want anything.
Dont know if this is a normal way to be.
Im living like a shut in. Still trying to make sense of things.
I dont know if this part of a healing process.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
Morning Dandelion. 
My first 28 days sober was spent in a rehab
hospital/facility, not by decision but by loved
ones who cared for my well being.
Sure, I had many attempts to stop drinking
from age 18 to 30, but nothing ever stuck until
I entered a controlled safe environment filled
with folks trained to teach me about my addiction
and its affects on my mind and body.
As the toxins and poisons began to leave my
body by the exercises we did, sweating it out
by walking, volleyball, swimming. We weren't
allowed to just sit all day. We all had work to
do to achieve why we were there in the first
place.
There were quite a few films we watched
related to alcoholism, movies with stars
portraying alcoholics, sitting in class learning
a program of recovery consisting of steps
that we could incorporated in our daily lives
as a guideline in achieving success in remaining
sober, health, happiness and honesty.
Those first 28 days wasn't easy but, I was
determined to do whatever was necessary
because I didn't want to be sent to a halfway
house away from my family and 2 little ones
for 2 months more.
Today, I am grateful for my gift of recovery
and sobriety because I have never let go of
my wanting to be sober more than anything.
And you will hear that from other members
in SR.
We want to be sober and not chained to our
addiction. Once we came out of the fog and
saw the hope experienced by many others,
we were more determined to do the footwork
each day moving forward to continue receiving
lifes amazing gifts.
Maybe you can find your local AA central office
and call them for directions to a meeting near you,
then you will find that being around others more
helpful in staying sober.
Doing whatever you can to stop the insanity
of our addiction.
My first 28 days sober was spent in a rehab
hospital/facility, not by decision but by loved
ones who cared for my well being.
Sure, I had many attempts to stop drinking
from age 18 to 30, but nothing ever stuck until
I entered a controlled safe environment filled
with folks trained to teach me about my addiction
and its affects on my mind and body.
As the toxins and poisons began to leave my
body by the exercises we did, sweating it out
by walking, volleyball, swimming. We weren't
allowed to just sit all day. We all had work to
do to achieve why we were there in the first
place.
There were quite a few films we watched
related to alcoholism, movies with stars
portraying alcoholics, sitting in class learning
a program of recovery consisting of steps
that we could incorporated in our daily lives
as a guideline in achieving success in remaining
sober, health, happiness and honesty.
Those first 28 days wasn't easy but, I was
determined to do whatever was necessary
because I didn't want to be sent to a halfway
house away from my family and 2 little ones
for 2 months more.
Today, I am grateful for my gift of recovery
and sobriety because I have never let go of
my wanting to be sober more than anything.
And you will hear that from other members
in SR.
We want to be sober and not chained to our
addiction. Once we came out of the fog and
saw the hope experienced by many others,
we were more determined to do the footwork
each day moving forward to continue receiving
lifes amazing gifts.
Maybe you can find your local AA central office
and call them for directions to a meeting near you,
then you will find that being around others more
helpful in staying sober.
Doing whatever you can to stop the insanity
of our addiction.
Ocean Lover!
Join Date: Apr 2018
Location: You know nothing Jon Snow - UK
Posts: 2,604
Isolating and shutting yourself away isn’t going to help you feel better and give you back a passion for life, trust me I have been there and it doesn’t work.
The basics are eating 3 healthy meals a day at regular times, self care and showering putting on clean clothes daily, getting 30 minutes exercise a day even if it’s just walking and going to bed and getting up at the same sensible time each day. Your body needs a healthy routine to help it heal. Also maybe join the online SMART meetings, this way you are having regular contact with others that are going through the same struggles and you don’t have to leave the house to do this.
Start writing a journal so you can get thoughts out of your head and give your mind some room to breath. Try some daily meditation, there are lots of free apps out there you can use and it really does help even if it might feel a little silly at first. Lastly do daily gratitude, there is always something to be grateful for and the more you get your mind to look for these things the gloom starts to lift bit by bit. Some days all I could be grateful for was to not be hungover, but I acknowledged it and wrote it in my journal anyhow.
It does get better and it won’t feel like this forever Dandelion I promise you. Make small changes, if you always do what you’ve always done you will always get what you always got. You can do this xx
The basics are eating 3 healthy meals a day at regular times, self care and showering putting on clean clothes daily, getting 30 minutes exercise a day even if it’s just walking and going to bed and getting up at the same sensible time each day. Your body needs a healthy routine to help it heal. Also maybe join the online SMART meetings, this way you are having regular contact with others that are going through the same struggles and you don’t have to leave the house to do this.
Start writing a journal so you can get thoughts out of your head and give your mind some room to breath. Try some daily meditation, there are lots of free apps out there you can use and it really does help even if it might feel a little silly at first. Lastly do daily gratitude, there is always something to be grateful for and the more you get your mind to look for these things the gloom starts to lift bit by bit. Some days all I could be grateful for was to not be hungover, but I acknowledged it and wrote it in my journal anyhow.
It does get better and it won’t feel like this forever Dandelion I promise you. Make small changes, if you always do what you’ve always done you will always get what you always got. You can do this xx
Member
Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: East Coast US
Posts: 1,823
I echo what MantaLady said! I have isolated and it does not help. I have spent days in the past just lying in bed and staring at the ceiling. I have come to realize that when I feel like that, that is the time I need to get out the most and I get out, even if I have to force myself to do so and just walk around the block.
It will get better. It's all part of the alcohol withdrawal depression stuff. Not sure how many days its been since your last drink, but it usually took at least a week for me to start to feel a little bit better.
Best of luck to you and keep coming back here, it does help!
It will get better. It's all part of the alcohol withdrawal depression stuff. Not sure how many days its been since your last drink, but it usually took at least a week for me to start to feel a little bit better.
Best of luck to you and keep coming back here, it does help!
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
Im hoping your power wasn't shut off today.
Hoping you find strength, courage and hope
to remain sober no matter what. Remembering
that alcohol addiction is nothing to take lightly
and wont make any situation in life better.
Hoping to hear positive news from you today.
Your support from SR is traveling with you.
Hoping you find strength, courage and hope
to remain sober no matter what. Remembering
that alcohol addiction is nothing to take lightly
and wont make any situation in life better.
Hoping to hear positive news from you today.
Your support from SR is traveling with you.
Guest
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 8,674
Dandylion, all you have posted about your early experiences are very familiar to what I went through! My first days, even weeks, started with Daily to dos like one, shower, two eat twice, three make the bed. As my energy and ability to start handling life grew, so did everything else. Being gentle with myself was necessary, sometimes felt weird, and I had to learn it was OK if "just" not drinking was my one accomplishment of the day.
Keep going and keep sharing. We get it.
Keep going and keep sharing. We get it.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
Oh it's so good to see you here today Dandelion...!!!!
Having someone, anyone who understands
us, who are/were struggling with addiction
would be comforting. Just to know they are
nearby to talk with, share with, keeping us
company.
I had the family nearby, but, because none
of them were sick with addiction, they certainly
didn't understand it and couldn't get everything
I needed and wanted from them. So, I was basically
on my own to seek out that support in recovery
needed to help me move forward in my own
recovery.
That was where many many meetings came
into play for many yrs. Even today, family is
out there doing their own thing, living life as
should be and so am I here away from them.
Many in recovery have had to deal with
people, places or things not agreeing with
them and thus have had to learn to accept
them as they are because we have no place
to change any of it.
It can be a struggle at times, but once
we understand in time, then we begin to
settle in recovery life knowing who, what,
where we fit in comfortably.
Knowing what situation, which folks,
what places will cause more harm to
our sobriety than good, remembering
that this is your program of recovery
and life and it is up to you to remain
responsible for it, because no one else
will.
Of course what I share is what has and
continues to work for me over a many
one days sober added together to get
me where I am today. One step at a time.
Having someone, anyone who understands
us, who are/were struggling with addiction
would be comforting. Just to know they are
nearby to talk with, share with, keeping us
company.
I had the family nearby, but, because none
of them were sick with addiction, they certainly
didn't understand it and couldn't get everything
I needed and wanted from them. So, I was basically
on my own to seek out that support in recovery
needed to help me move forward in my own
recovery.
That was where many many meetings came
into play for many yrs. Even today, family is
out there doing their own thing, living life as
should be and so am I here away from them.
Many in recovery have had to deal with
people, places or things not agreeing with
them and thus have had to learn to accept
them as they are because we have no place
to change any of it.
It can be a struggle at times, but once
we understand in time, then we begin to
settle in recovery life knowing who, what,
where we fit in comfortably.
Knowing what situation, which folks,
what places will cause more harm to
our sobriety than good, remembering
that this is your program of recovery
and life and it is up to you to remain
responsible for it, because no one else
will.
Of course what I share is what has and
continues to work for me over a many
one days sober added together to get
me where I am today. One step at a time.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
Dandelion....as time goes on you will realize
that you are not alone with childhood past
issues. Many of us didn't have perfect childhoods.
Then, as we grew up and carried these burdens,
these heavy crosses on our shoulders or the extra
baggage that weighed us down, we then discovered
a controlled toxic substance to numb us so we wouldn't
have to deal with whatever we endured as children.
Now that we are adults and realize that
alcohol or drugs is not taking away our past,
but killing us instead, we are having to face
not only learning how to deal with life head
on without alcohol, but also learning to come
to terms with our past.
First of all, yes, you can get better and healthy.
You can get and stay sober and yes you can
come to terms with the past and leave it where
it needs to be and live in today happy and healthy.
Sure it will take work. But you dont have to
do this alone. There are so many qualified folks
out there in the world, right close to wherever
you live, to reach out to that can help you work
thru these issues. Help you understand what
happened, the causes, whose responsible for it,
and so on.
So many folks here in SR have been thru similar
things as you that you may not be aware of right
now. In time as you open up and share more and
you continue to remain sober working to get yourself
healthy, then you realize that you are definitely
not alone.
You will learn how to understand the past and
put it behind you and move forward. So dont give
up moving forward in a positive healthy way.
Hopefully more folks will share their own experiences,
strengths and hopes on this situation so it will
help you understand a little more.
that you are not alone with childhood past
issues. Many of us didn't have perfect childhoods.
Then, as we grew up and carried these burdens,
these heavy crosses on our shoulders or the extra
baggage that weighed us down, we then discovered
a controlled toxic substance to numb us so we wouldn't
have to deal with whatever we endured as children.
Now that we are adults and realize that
alcohol or drugs is not taking away our past,
but killing us instead, we are having to face
not only learning how to deal with life head
on without alcohol, but also learning to come
to terms with our past.
First of all, yes, you can get better and healthy.
You can get and stay sober and yes you can
come to terms with the past and leave it where
it needs to be and live in today happy and healthy.
Sure it will take work. But you dont have to
do this alone. There are so many qualified folks
out there in the world, right close to wherever
you live, to reach out to that can help you work
thru these issues. Help you understand what
happened, the causes, whose responsible for it,
and so on.
So many folks here in SR have been thru similar
things as you that you may not be aware of right
now. In time as you open up and share more and
you continue to remain sober working to get yourself
healthy, then you realize that you are definitely
not alone.
You will learn how to understand the past and
put it behind you and move forward. So dont give
up moving forward in a positive healthy way.
Hopefully more folks will share their own experiences,
strengths and hopes on this situation so it will
help you understand a little more.
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