Back to catch up but very bitter sweet
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Back to catch up but very bitter sweet
Hi
I've not been on here in a while. 26th September marked my one year sober and I had plans to write an uplifting thread but life has decided otherwise. Just found out my mum has terminal cancer after being given the all clear only 3 months ago.
My main aim tonight? Do. Not. Drink.
I promise I'll post more about the benefits of the one year when my head is less jumbled!!
Life is definitely for living, but not drunk living, that is no life.
I've not been on here in a while. 26th September marked my one year sober and I had plans to write an uplifting thread but life has decided otherwise. Just found out my mum has terminal cancer after being given the all clear only 3 months ago.
My main aim tonight? Do. Not. Drink.
I promise I'll post more about the benefits of the one year when my head is less jumbled!!
Life is definitely for living, but not drunk living, that is no life.
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I’m sorry, JJ. Spend as much time as you can with her. She is probably proud of you.
My dad died suddenly 22 years ago and he only knew me as a drunken idiot. I never got to say goodbye.
Glad you are sober.....take advantage of it!
My dad died suddenly 22 years ago and he only knew me as a drunken idiot. I never got to say goodbye.
Glad you are sober.....take advantage of it!
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JJ - Congratulations on your one year sober. That's something to be so proud of.
Prayers going up for your mum - it's heartbreaking.
I'm glad that you're clear headed as you go through this.
Prayers going up for your mum - it's heartbreaking.
I'm glad that you're clear headed as you go through this.
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Thanks for the messages of support, I can always rely on it from this lovely community.
I can honestly say that it hasn't crossed my mind to pick up a drink, I know it won't solve anything. I live over 300 miles away from my mum but I'm going to visit next week. We can chat without me having a drink in my hand and I will remember it all.
I can honestly say that it hasn't crossed my mind to pick up a drink, I know it won't solve anything. I live over 300 miles away from my mum but I'm going to visit next week. We can chat without me having a drink in my hand and I will remember it all.
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I'm so sorry, jj. sounds like you got sober right when I did. You still deserve congratulations for your year (awesome work!) And also for your choice to remain sober in the face of very difficult circumstances. Would be tough for your mom to see you relapse during this time. Your continued sobriety is a gift to her. Our sobriety ripples out to every interaction we make in life, everyone in our lives is affected by this decision. If it's too hard for you right now, just keep in mind it's also for her.
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Thanks everyone. I'm so proud of my first sober year. I think I'd be an absolute wreck right now if I was still drinking... I'd definitely be at the bottom of a bottle.
Yes Sassy, we have the same sober time, I remember you, always so good with words!
I'll try to log in more often and chip in on other threads if I can help.
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Yes Sassy, we have the same sober time, I remember you, always so good with words!
I'll try to log in more often and chip in on other threads if I can help.
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I am so sorry JJ. What a gift you have given your mom. . I am sending hugs over the miles.
Great job on the year! Sassy is so right, your sobriety helps others of us.
There is strength in numbers.. I am sending my thoughts and prayers as well.
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Great job on the year! Sassy is so right, your sobriety helps others of us.
There is strength in numbers.. I am sending my thoughts and prayers as well.
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Hey JJ--congratulations on a year of sobriety and warmest best wishes. I'm very sorry about your mom, though. It's a rough situation. I had been sober for 8 years when my mom died in 1998, and she told me those were such happy years for her because the drunk me was not fun to be around. Staying sober and present for your mom is the best way you can honor her at this stage of her life. Sending you thoughts of strength.
Record your mom's voice. Before Betty died I gave her a little tape recorder and she talked about our family history--now when hear her voice it makes me feel better; I recently read an article online that says hearing a loved one's voice after their passing is of great psychological help.
Record your mom's voice. Before Betty died I gave her a little tape recorder and she talked about our family history--now when hear her voice it makes me feel better; I recently read an article online that says hearing a loved one's voice after their passing is of great psychological help.
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