Ekohe

Big fights with the mother, her being very aggressive. Basically calling me lazy and (I have my own landscaping company, in my second year and in a bit of a dry spell) I'm just coming off my latest binge and trying my best to alter old plans I had to better beef up my defenses.

I realize I don't handle things right now and my thinking quickly tries to shut me down. "What's the point" "Ugh this sucks" Which I've been getting better at countering, and I realize it's my AV trying to drag me down the wormhole to spring a "Just drink it away" Thought.

Any recommendations on dealing with the day to day stress's especially now in the fresh period of my sobriety.

Hope you're all having a great day!

Dee74

I gave people a lot of ammunition to use against me as a drinker. but the biggest thing I ever learned sober is I'm not what other people tell me I am - not my friends, not my family, not some guy on the street or another member on a website.



Befriend yourself- get to know who you are - fix the bits you don;t like, and then listen to your internal compass.

I'm sorry I don;t remember your domestic arrangements.

If you have your own place, leave a bit of a buffer of a few days before you talk to your mom again.

If you live together, find your own spot for a while and try and get over the argument.

above all, recognise that drinking can only make stuff like this worse.

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