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Old 09-17-2018, 05:52 AM
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Now or never, day one

So today is the day and I feel relieved. I chose this date as my quitting date and from today my life will get better. There's no alcohol in my house, had my last glass of wine and poured down the sink what was left in the house last night.

It's not just about quitting it's about a whole new chapter of my life. I can make plans without having to factor in drinking days. I don't want to drink any more and I really feel that if I don't stop now my life is going to go downhill and I'm going to let the children down.

I need to quit but more importantly I want to. Alcohol has no purpose or place in my life any more.

So I'm signing up to sober October just to stop any questions from people and after that I will probably say I've decided I prefer not drinking.

So in my head I need to keep reminding myself "I don't drink". I can't do the occasional drink, I need to be completely alcohol free.
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Old 09-17-2018, 05:55 AM
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Old 09-17-2018, 06:08 AM
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Day one for me too...this weekend almost kill me...i really, really need to stop...ill try to keep up with you...wish you all the best.
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Great decision Longlady! Life really is better sober and wish you all the best xx
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Old 09-17-2018, 06:50 AM
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Thanks.

I feel that I need to get rid of my favourite wine glass too. I was looking at it this morning while emptying the dishwasher thinking to myself that I don't need this glass any more.

I've got other different wine glasses it's just that particular one that's my glass and I worry that seeing it will be a trigger. I'll take it to the charity shop tomorrow or maybe I should put it in a bag and smash it so it's gone forever.
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Old 09-17-2018, 07:01 AM
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Congratulations Longlady! It's a great day to get sober.

Getting rid of a favourite drinking glass sounds very sensible.
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Originally Posted by Longlady View Post
Thanks.

I feel that I need to get rid of my favourite wine glass too. I was looking at it this morning while emptying the dishwasher thinking to myself that I don't need this glass any more.

I've got other different wine glasses it's just that particular one that's my glass and I worry that seeing it will be a trigger. I'll take it to the charity shop tomorrow or maybe I should put it in a bag and smash it so it's gone forever.
I vote for smashing it to little tiny pieces!
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Old 09-17-2018, 07:26 AM
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I'm glad you're on Day 1! Great!

I don't have any wine glasses in my home. We never serve alcohol here, so it's always a safe place for me.
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Old 09-17-2018, 07:43 AM
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Glad the first day of a better life is here for you, Longlady!
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Old 09-17-2018, 08:06 AM
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Hi there Longlady! I thrashed my favorite wine glass two days. I think that was a very good decision for me. I will see what other drinking paraphernalia I need to toss today too. Love my margarita glasses, but they have to go too.
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I vote smashing the glass too I can't actually smash mine as they're all high value themed tiki mugs etc (plus my husband is a drinker) so I opted for making other glasses more significant. Now I have a special cup for cola, one for milkshakes lol.
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Sending prayers for your strength for staying sober. I too found packing up my wine glasses and taking them to Goodwill gave me less of a desire to drink.
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yes, smash it to smithereens. there is value in symbolic gestures.
and then you can go out and spend time finding the perfect mug for a great cup of hot chocolate or herbal chai
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Brilliant! Congratulations on your day one. Take good care of yourself 💗💗
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A good post
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Keep posting
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Old 09-18-2018, 05:18 AM
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Old 09-18-2018, 09:17 AM
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Day two and It's been a trying day with family "dramas". Would usually be an excuse to open the wine but I haven't so feels good to say that.

Have had to stop myself a few times today thinking that this is forever and getting a bit overwhelmed but I suppose after twenty years of this behaviour it does seem like a huge decision. Just thinking of today at the moment.
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Forever does seem like forever. And it did seem
that way for me at the very beginning of my recovery
journey some 28 yrs of one day at a time ago.

Staying within the day or 24 hours a day made
it easy so I wouldn't get to far a head of myself.
Kept the day contained and life's big problems
within the area I could handle and remain sober.

As long as there was no alcohol in my home
to reach for when life's daily problems got
too trying and had my program of recovery
as a guideline allowed me to continue to be
successful in my own sobriety.

I realized that life was gonna continue to
be and I had to know how to deal with it
without reaching for alcohol or any other
unhealthy devices that would be harmful
or dangerous to me and those around me.

Addiction is absolutely serious and a huge
problem for many. However, there are many
who have been taught and have learned about
it and have found a program of recovery who
can live by, incorporating it in all areas of their
lives to achieve health, happiness and honesty
in all their affairs on a continuous bases one day
at a time moving forward.

It is comforting to know that no one ever
has to go thru anything, especially learning to
remain sober one day at a time, by ourselves
again.

SR is an awesome community of caring,
supporting folks and one of many resources
to add to your recovery tool box in helping
you learn to remain sober one more day.
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Well done LongLady!
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