Had 20 years sober
 

Want to be sober again. Looking forward to using this forum and chat rooms

Hello Italiangman and welcome to Sober Recovery.

I once had 10 years of sobriety myself and have found the forums here to be of great help.

Good luck.

J

Welcome to the family. :) I relapsed after 20 years sober too. But now I'm sober again, coming up on 9 years. So it's possible to right the ship. :)

Hey, Italiangman. Welcome to a great place for advice support and help. I had 15 years of sobriety when I relapsed. Now, with a strong plan, a good therapist and the help of the good people here at SR I have 32 months of amazing sobriety.
I hope you stick around and post often. Best Wishes.

Great to meet you, Italiangman. Talking things over really helps. We all understand. Congratulations on your 20 yrs. of sobriety. You can definitely get back there. Welcome!

Hi and welcome Italiangman -
You find a ton of support here - welcome :)

what do you think led you to drink again after 20 years?

D

I'm curios to know what happened too. What did you do to get sober in the first place and get that 20 years.

welcome, Italiangman.
phew, after 20years...that's rough. glad to hear you want sobriety again.

getting engaged with others on a daily basis was a huge part of my beginning sobriety...forum is a great place to start!

Thank you!!
 

[QUOTE=BP2;6988031]Hello Italiangman and welcome to Sober Recovery.

I once had 10 years of sobriety myself and have found the forums here to be of great

Thank you so much I just need to learn how to use this form now appreciate your guys is to be back to me thank you for welcoming me

Thank you all!!!
 

Thank you guys it's weird to say I'm on day 2 but it feels better than 2 days ago appreciate all Are you guys looking forward to supporting each other thanks

Welcome. Glad to have you join us.

Welcome Italiangman.......Pleased to meet you.

Posts like this are always a wake up call to me.

Any of us with long term sobriety need to be reminded we are only a drink away.

After 25 years sober, 6 years ago that one drink and the lie that I really didn’t have a problem...led slowly but steadily to where I am now. I have avoided SR because I felt like I was thumbing my nose at the kindness and encouragement I unfailingly got here. I still wanted to drink. Well, I can’t be moderate. So here I am again and thanks for this thread.

yeah...kindness and encouragement...hard to take:)

not making fun, Oregongirlsite, as i actually DO find it hard to take at times. I get it.

so here you are again and we are glad you are here, again or still.

😉 Still. And thank you. If I avoid SR I am lying to myself.

Welcome to SR!

You were sober for 20 years. If you decided to drink a few days in the 21'st year, you're still looking at a 99.999% adherence to sobriety. I don't think Airlines have this success rate. I would say don't look at the slip.

hmmmm...I think you have to in order to not make the same mistake again.

I think I get what you mean tho - don't get stuck on this mistake? :)

D

The thougt of a relapse scares the crop out of me. Here's why.

People tend to think that an extended period of sobriety will put you i a better position as regards alcoholism, should one ever pick up again. It would seem to make sense. In my case I had about 8 or 9 years of really insane drinking ending up with malnutrition and a doctor's warning that it was doubtful I would survive another year.

Since then I have had 38 years untinterupted sobriety so you might think my position has improved. Where before I had a years to live, based on my improved physical and mental health, I ought to be able to survive a lot longer now. But from what I have seen, the opposite is the case.

Alcoholism progresses whether I drink or not, and that is the trouble. Every alcoholic with time that relapsed did not pick up where they left off, they piced up at where they would have been if they never stopped. Therefore it is relatively rare for an alcoholic with a lot of time up, to survive more than a few months if they take the fatal first drink. Someone like me, who had perhaps a year to live, If the insanity was to return, would be dead within a couple of months.

I have not seen many old timers relapse, but in every case they either get back into the program with renewed vigour, or they deteriorate and die very quickly. That is the nature of this progressive illness.