tonisherrell

I was invited to a wedding and im really torn if I should go. I really want to go buy the thought of being around alcohol and people drinking scares me. Everyone is already saying how drunk they are going to be since its open bar. I would just go to the wedding only but its not in the same city i live in ill be riding with someone else. Today is day 22 dry by the way. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

PeacefulWater12

I found I had to make my sobriety my top priority and so avoided anything that put it at risk.

Well done on day 22.

Forward12

You don't want to press anything during early sobriety so I would not attend.

least

I would not go, if it were me.

DreamCatcher17

I also would not attend if I really wanted to stay sober.

january161992

my sponsor wouldve never allowed it

Anna

Day 22 is great, and my advice is don't go to the wedding.

thomas11

If you are unable to attend just the wedding, I'd pass on it.

MyLittleHorsie

I would tell your friends it is incredibly tacky to get drunk at a wedding, free bar or not. It's just tasteless and low class.

I would go, I could go early in sobriety, but everyone is different. There ceremony will be alcohol free, you can go to that and bow out after. Stay just for the dinner, most places serve only wine or light drinks until after dinner anyways.

tonisherrell

I wish I could leave after the wedding but I would be riding with people. Its too far to take a uber or cab back also. I would have know other choice but to attend the entire event.

Kdon853

Not having an out would scare me. Any event that I go to , I drive so I can leave when I want to. Send a card and say you cannot attend.
It’s disappointing but your sobriety is more important.

Atlast9999

Not having an escape plan would cause me to pause on this one. It sounds like the best option would be to skip the event. Well done on 22 days!

thomas11

I can see your dilemma. I will tell you that I skipped stuff early on. I was solely focused on getting out from the grip of alcohol. It was going to kill me eventually.

tekink

I found I had to make the same decision. At first my AV was screaming at me about all the fun stuff I was missing out on but it settled down after a while.

Congrats on making it three weeks! That's awesome!

AnvilheadII

here's the thing about INVITES - we get to decide YES or NO. invites are not obligations and even obligations can be turned down.

the wedding will happen whether you are there or not. people miss weddings all the time for a wide variety of reasons. or for no reason at all.

skip this one. send a nice gift. wish them well.

Dee74

I would not put my newly sober self in that situation with no means of escape Toni. Make a good choice.

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DontRemember

I'd skip it in early sobriety..I hate weddings and have used my 'sobriety' to skip several,even after I had a firm footing. I sent gifts and took them to dinner after their honeymoon instead.