Linners820

Yeah, I agree with you Owl, Dee and Adante. Even though this is a site where we can be anonymous I still am hesitant to post sometimes. But, that is what happens when you put yourself out there, in any aspect. Someone may something you don’t like, that rubs you the wrong way, or what have you. Same with life in general, right? The upside is, for every response that pisses me off, there may be 5 that are really helpful. And maybe someone else somewhere is reading my post, relating to it, and it’s the one comment that really ticked me off that hits home with that person. Idk. Stranger things have happened Some of us have a better “bedside manner” than others but never any excuse to act like a complete wanker.

Anyway, just thinking this out and wanted to say thx to Dee and Anna for helping keep this place running. Your efforts are appreciated!!

StellaBlu

Thank you Anna and Dee.

It gives me great comfort that someone is looking out for those of us who may be vulnerable. Tho you shouldn't have to. But thank you.

bexxed

I came back to this post to say something similar. Not to take away from the seriousness of it, but because I’m in a silly mood and it made me laugh. It’s important to laugh.

It’s so important to be kind. If I can’t be kind, I try to keep my mouth shut. Then, I look at what I can’t be kind, because that is probably going to teach me something about myself and my own sobriety. And for that, the person who I was about to be unkind to, has given me something.

In Gratitude to the mods, and everyone here,

bexxed

Gerard52

I my haste I wrote an unsympathetic response to one poster. My post was too direct and blunt. Sorry I will think more in future.

Dee74

I just wanted to show my thanks for everyone who has contributed to this topic.

Some very thoughtful responses..

I appreciate it and I know Anna does too.

As great as this forum is, we can make it better

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Lipstuck

Dee and Anna, thanks for all you do. We are a reactionary culture right now, and the anonymity of online interaction makes it easy to say things we never would face to face. Thanks for your patience, and your reminder to us to maintain civility even under duress.

Anna

Absolutely! I love reading all the thoughtful comments here.

Be123

On the upside....this site my just have (helped) save my life

Anna

Oh there are lots of upsides, Ben, and I know that SR has helped many, many people. It's a home and a safe place for me, a place where others understand.

trachemys

But, then there's Dee...

Who has put up with a whole lot more of me than most people in my life.

Life. Saving.

That's what this place is.

DontRemember

Yeah..This site has be a HUGE part of my around 19mo's of sobriety and the admins and mods do a very big job around here. Like bar bouncers, at the worlds largest bar,after "last call". Thanks, ladies and gents!

columbus

What I appreciate so much is that I have NEVER seen a "cut-and-paste" response from Dee or any of the other mods.

It's always heartfelt.

Dee74

I don't see myself as a bouncer here at all, but I appreciate the sentiment DR.

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August252015

Thanks for the thoughtfulness of the thread and comments, Dee and Anna and everyone.

I'm going to work at better considering the what if I was talking to the poster in person versus online, and trying more often to ask insightful and caring questions like some around here are really good at doing.

Glad to be here and keep improving how I communicate with everyone. In my recovery group I recommend SR all the time, particularly for folks not into formal groups or AA bc I see this as a trove of info on a variety of paths to sobriety.

Free2bme888

Steely

Yes, we are a reactionary culture. No wonder, the state of the world. Lots of anger, fear out there. 🌏

Tough love has been debunked, pretty much. Can be damaging. Women particularly. Self esteem already shattered. I'm sure it happens to men too.

Doesn't mean to not be honest. To not be firm. But to be compassionate.

Free2bme888

Exactly, Steely. Amen 🤓🙏🏼

Dee74

I’m not sure specifically why this thread was bumped.
I wrote it in response to a specific period of time several years ago.

I’m not aware of any current issues - leastways I’ve had no complaints or reported posts.

please let me know by PM if there’s any specific problems.

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Eddiebuckle

It bears repeating though. I do remember what it was like when I "discovered" SR in early recovery, and I know that if I were still drinking it would have been hard to get feedback about the BS I convinced myself was truth. We move the mountain one shovel at a time, otherwise we'd be crushed by the task.

Glad SR is here, it got me through tough times and long nights just knowing there are so many of us out there. Thanks for all you do Dee, you are a force of nature!

AAPJ

I miss August.