Day 14
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Day 14
Well here I am still chugging along on day 14. Since telling my girlfriend of my secret drinking when she thought I had been sober I’ve found it much easier not to drink. It’s as if a huge weight has been lifted off of me, but unfortunately dropped on her. We barely talk, and she’s not sure the trust will ever return. I had to do it.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
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Your girlfiend's problem with your recovery is not your concern. Your main priority is your plan of recovery. Be open with her about what you are doing to help you stay sober and let her know that she can get information about it, too.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 2,872
Congratulations on two weeks.
I've had the same problem as you when coming clean with people about drinking. Many people.
I don't know their thinking, but is sure does effect their way of thinking about me.
I hid it so well. Some seem to look at it s a weakness or dirty word.
In fact I just told a close friend I used to work with that I am an alcoholic and always will be.
Silence.
I don't think she had any idea. Now I don't know what she thinks about me.
So I understand your problem a little.
But, I'll keep plugging along sober it is so worth it rather than worrying what people may think of me.
They've changed their opinion about me. But that's okay. I didn't get sober for them, I did it for myself so let them think what they may.
I've had the same problem as you when coming clean with people about drinking. Many people.
I don't know their thinking, but is sure does effect their way of thinking about me.
I hid it so well. Some seem to look at it s a weakness or dirty word.
In fact I just told a close friend I used to work with that I am an alcoholic and always will be.
Silence.
I don't think she had any idea. Now I don't know what she thinks about me.
So I understand your problem a little.
But, I'll keep plugging along sober it is so worth it rather than worrying what people may think of me.
They've changed their opinion about me. But that's okay. I didn't get sober for them, I did it for myself so let them think what they may.
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Join Date: Oct 2017
Location: Minnesota, USA
Posts: 1,468
Congrats on 14 days!
All we can do is remain sober and better ourselves. Those around us will either stick around and trust us again, or they won't. Either way, it is a win, you're sober. I say it is a win because, if your partner stays, that is great. If she leaves, you will have just you to focus on and work on not making the same mistakes, lessons learned. She is probably hurting too, and really confused and hurt. If she needs to move on for HER, let her go.
All we can do is remain sober and better ourselves. Those around us will either stick around and trust us again, or they won't. Either way, it is a win, you're sober. I say it is a win because, if your partner stays, that is great. If she leaves, you will have just you to focus on and work on not making the same mistakes, lessons learned. She is probably hurting too, and really confused and hurt. If she needs to move on for HER, let her go.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: nj
Posts: 470
A lot of people don’t understand the nature of alcoholism. You may be secretive about your drinking, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re deceitful about other things. Must be hard for her too. So sorry
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