Pajanickah

So the f###boy who stole my computer, just emailed me on my computer, that he was going to charge me for haerassment.. when i haven't had any sort of conversation with him in weeks.

Again. Another day another drama

mayabee

I am so sorry for what has been happening. You have gotten some good suggestions. In some ways your situation reminds me of things my son has gone through.

He and I fortunately don't have the issues that exist between you and your mom. Things aren't perfect, but overall we have a pretty good relationship, I think, and I have tried to show him that I accept him for who he is - a gay man with a kind heart and many talents. He too struggles with alcohol and substance abuse - he is currently clean - and is going to counseling and attending AA meetings and outpatient treatment.

Several times in the past he found himself in situations where he allowed other addicts to live with him, sometimes when they were in a relationship, other times just because he felt sorry for them. Some of these people stole from him or his neighbors or destroyed property. I think a big thing is for him learning not to substitute taking care of other people for taking care of himself. Just something to think about, and by all means pursue therapy and perhaps consider meetings. Many 12-step groups have LGBT meetings.

It may be helpful to step away from your mom for a while since the situation is so toxic.

Dee74

You can't make your recovery dependent on some elses and you can't challenge someone to get better or else you won't,

Look at this thread when you log in again.

Its full to the brim with reasons why you need to remain sober Pajanickah

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Caralara144

I totally feel for you ....
I think when the alcohol flows
Our past traumas are all to real
I know your hurting I wouldn't blame you
But drinking is making the situation a million times worse
Regarding your mum I would suggest doing what everyone else here is saying
And stand back from it
You need to sort you out first
You need to prioritise yourself
If they can't accept your gay that's there problem ...
It's your life ...not there's!!!
Do what makes you happy
But don't drink
Take care
Sending you big hugs
Cara❤