I made it 3 days without drinking
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I understand that very clearly, and i'm not trying to argue with you or dispute that you don't like the recovery meeting environment.
My suggestion that you can still make the choice to quit ( and do it ) is irregardless of your stance on recovery meetings. You already have what it takes built inside you, just like all of us do/did.
My suggestion that you can still make the choice to quit ( and do it ) is irregardless of your stance on recovery meetings. You already have what it takes built inside you, just like all of us do/did.
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You are very right about active alcoholics and users triggering our childhood traumas. But I don’t think that holds true of all recovering alcoholics and users at all.
I, too, disowned most of what little family I have left. My sister may be dead I don’t know, she was a heroine addict when I last spoke to her ten years ago. All I had left was my aunt and she’s addicted to Xanax and other pills that make her very selfish, ungrateful and toxic to me. I don’t have many friends either. I’ve stuck by very neglectful alcoholic boyfriends in an effort to relive my traumas but this time fix and heal them. That has never worked and it never will. My mom was an alcoholic my whole life and died from early onset Alzheimer’s. Lack of family is part of why I drank so much, usually alone because I felt I couldn’t relate to all these people I knew at the bar who had family and friends. It just made me feel even more of an outsider and a born loner.
I, too, disowned most of what little family I have left. My sister may be dead I don’t know, she was a heroine addict when I last spoke to her ten years ago. All I had left was my aunt and she’s addicted to Xanax and other pills that make her very selfish, ungrateful and toxic to me. I don’t have many friends either. I’ve stuck by very neglectful alcoholic boyfriends in an effort to relive my traumas but this time fix and heal them. That has never worked and it never will. My mom was an alcoholic my whole life and died from early onset Alzheimer’s. Lack of family is part of why I drank so much, usually alone because I felt I couldn’t relate to all these people I knew at the bar who had family and friends. It just made me feel even more of an outsider and a born loner.
It was a disease passed on from my family
you family did not intentionally GIVE you a disease. nor did having a genetic predisposition to addiction mean that you WOULD become an addict. that took active effort on your part.
now is the time to own your own stuff. in that was you can effectively deal with it. blame doesn't get us anywhere, except full of resentments.
you family did not intentionally GIVE you a disease. nor did having a genetic predisposition to addiction mean that you WOULD become an addict. that took active effort on your part.
now is the time to own your own stuff. in that was you can effectively deal with it. blame doesn't get us anywhere, except full of resentments.
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It was a disease passed on from my family
you family did not intentionally GIVE you a disease. nor did having a genetic predisposition to addiction mean that you WOULD become an addict. that took active effort on your part.
now is the time to own your own stuff. in that was you can effectively deal with it. blame doesn't get us anywhere, except full of resentments.
you family did not intentionally GIVE you a disease. nor did having a genetic predisposition to addiction mean that you WOULD become an addict. that took active effort on your part.
now is the time to own your own stuff. in that was you can effectively deal with it. blame doesn't get us anywhere, except full of resentments.
laura, i can guarantee anvilhead wasnt offended- it would take a lot more than any of us here to offend her. what she was refrring to is your statement here:
I didn't choose this life. It was a disease passed on from my family
that was blaming your family for where your at today.
ya have the choice today to keep going on like you are or get into action of recovery- whether the disease was passed on or not.
i dated a woman that was born drunk on a pool table in a bar.
she's 20 years sober now.
I didn't choose this life. It was a disease passed on from my family
that was blaming your family for where your at today.
ya have the choice today to keep going on like you are or get into action of recovery- whether the disease was passed on or not.
i dated a woman that was born drunk on a pool table in a bar.
she's 20 years sober now.
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laura, i can guarantee anvilhead wasnt offended- it would take a lot more than any of us here to offend her. what she was refrring to is your statement here:
I didn't choose this life. It was a disease passed on from my family
that was blaming your family for where your at today.
ya have the choice today to keep going on like you are or get into action of recovery- whether the disease was passed on or not.
i dated a woman that was born drunk on a pool table in a bar.
she's 20 years sober now.
I didn't choose this life. It was a disease passed on from my family
that was blaming your family for where your at today.
ya have the choice today to keep going on like you are or get into action of recovery- whether the disease was passed on or not.
i dated a woman that was born drunk on a pool table in a bar.
she's 20 years sober now.
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In the end I even broke up with a man who enjoyed their company when I wanted to knock them out. I wasn't enjoying the parties unless I had enough to get me messed up enough to not care. I've assaulted people when exes refused to get to tell friends to leave etc
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I had to quit hard drugs because I didn't trust myself with these people anymore. A dealer pursued me lately, I've been thinking of hanging him by his balls. I blocked his calls. He would call me to complain I wasn't buying anything
I made a decision a long time ago now that my past would no longer define me.
It wasn't easy to face some of that stuff - and I had some counselling help - but it was far better than drinking and using and obsessing over the past.
I wish you peace too Laura but you're not going to find it raking over old resentments again and again.
I'm not saying your pain isn't valid - but how long do you carry around the pain caused by other people?
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It wasn't easy to face some of that stuff - and I had some counselling help - but it was far better than drinking and using and obsessing over the past.
I wish you peace too Laura but you're not going to find it raking over old resentments again and again.
I'm not saying your pain isn't valid - but how long do you carry around the pain caused by other people?
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I made a decision a long time ago now that my past would no longer define me.
It wasn't easy to face some of that stuff - and I had some counselling help - but it was far better than drinking and using and obsessing over the past.
I wish you peace too Laura but you're not going to find it raking over old resentments again and again.
I'm not saying your pain isn't valid - but how long do you carry around the pain caused by other people?
D
It wasn't easy to face some of that stuff - and I had some counselling help - but it was far better than drinking and using and obsessing over the past.
I wish you peace too Laura but you're not going to find it raking over old resentments again and again.
I'm not saying your pain isn't valid - but how long do you carry around the pain caused by other people?
D
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