Boozing too much
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Boozing too much
Ive Always been a drinker , but mainly been able to control it .. just weekends .. however Ive hit a wall in life recently and cant look forward so am secretly drinking , I need some advice here .. I lost my father 18 months ago and feel trapped in my marriage
Welcome Rambler. Bereavement and relationship problems are not symptoms of alcoholism and need to be dealt with seperately. Perhaps a relationship or bereavement counsellor would be a good place to start. I found them really great when I lost my wife.
The secret drinking could be a sign of a more serious drinking problem, but I have also seen cases where bereaved folks turn to alcohol in the absence of any other solution . It was always a very common thing - get a shock, have a brandy. My ex girlfriend's mother was drunk for three days when she found out we had got engaged.Then she returned to her normal state.
Self medicating is a term sometimes used. A friend of mine did that when she lost her partner. Got drunk, crashed her car and got a DUI. Went to AA for a short time then came to terms with her grief. She was not alcoholic and now is sucessfully a social drinker, though she rarely drinks and only in small quantities.
Read around a bit including the friends and family forums and see what makes sense.
The secret drinking could be a sign of a more serious drinking problem, but I have also seen cases where bereaved folks turn to alcohol in the absence of any other solution . It was always a very common thing - get a shock, have a brandy. My ex girlfriend's mother was drunk for three days when she found out we had got engaged.Then she returned to her normal state.
Self medicating is a term sometimes used. A friend of mine did that when she lost her partner. Got drunk, crashed her car and got a DUI. Went to AA for a short time then came to terms with her grief. She was not alcoholic and now is sucessfully a social drinker, though she rarely drinks and only in small quantities.
Read around a bit including the friends and family forums and see what makes sense.
Drinking for me started as a way to lower inhibitions and feel part of. That (de)evolved into a coping mechanism for life's problems - and High Times.
When I began to understand that alcohol wasn't my problem but my solution, it was an ahh ha moment of sorts. I had to find different solutions. It is said and my experience bares witness to crossing that invisible line into alcoholism. There was no going back, though I tried and tried to slow down - moderate, etc.
Life is full of problems, it's the human experience. I learned from others that there was no problem that a drink would make better. I had to find some emotional sobriety which could only occur for me by not drinking.
Welcome
When I began to understand that alcohol wasn't my problem but my solution, it was an ahh ha moment of sorts. I had to find different solutions. It is said and my experience bares witness to crossing that invisible line into alcoholism. There was no going back, though I tried and tried to slow down - moderate, etc.
Life is full of problems, it's the human experience. I learned from others that there was no problem that a drink would make better. I had to find some emotional sobriety which could only occur for me by not drinking.
Welcome
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