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Old 07-15-2018, 03:29 AM
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Old 07-15-2018, 03:33 AM
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There are moments when it seems totally unreal: I feel relatively normal, and nothing has changed in the way I relate to people.

There is a lot of good natured joking about my new ability to “play the cancer card”—for instance, my oldest son is now insisting upon outrageous privileges “because my mother has cancer.”

Ex: “I need the front seat of the car because my mother has cancer.”

“Sorry, I’m not lifting that furniture: my mother has cancer.”
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Old 07-15-2018, 09:11 AM
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^^^ lol

My parents went on a vacation to Guatemala in 1976 and got caught in a huge earthquake. My sister and I were home alone, not sure what had happened to them. (As it turns out, they and another couple stole a rental car and drove out.) It was sick of us, but man, we played that!
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Old 07-15-2018, 01:04 PM
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Love your son's sense of humor, Kathy.

How have you been sleeping?
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Old 07-15-2018, 01:35 PM
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Gilmer, rootin for ya.

How do tell if there is an elephant hiding in your refridgerator?
footprints in the jello.
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Old 07-15-2018, 03:35 PM
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I can understand the surreal feelings Gilly. I went through that- and still do. That is why it is sooo good you have a good family and support base. An anchor. Support, as ever- t oyu.

NOW!
Elephants sometimes paint their toe nails red so they can hide in Cherry trees.
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Old 07-15-2018, 03:41 PM
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Gilmer sending loving thoughts to you.
You are in my prayers dear Gilmer.
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Old 07-15-2018, 05:12 PM
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Q: Why do ducks have flat feet?
A: To stamp out forest fires.

Q: Why do elephants have flat feet?
A: To stamp out flaming ducks.

Q: What's grey and puts out flaming ducks?
A: Smokey the Elephant.
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Old 07-15-2018, 06:12 PM
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Thanks, you guys!

In the hotel I kept waking up in the night either because my back hurt or I was roasting.

But last night I slept like a rock!
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Old 07-15-2018, 09:50 PM
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Morning Kathy

I’ve never tried or made Anzac biscuits but intrigued to maybe have a go myself.

I’m rubbish at telling jokes, I could probably win for the biggest groan I’d get!
Though I may be able to dig one out from my memory somewhere, so be prepared to Groan!

Hope today is a good day. xx
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Old 07-16-2018, 01:35 AM
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Remember Dr HALTS, Gilly. And now I have offered support and very obvious advice.....

Why is it that elephants do not like wearing army boots?
Because

(wait for it)

they feel much more comfortable in ballet shoes.
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Old 07-16-2018, 02:19 AM
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I’m doing okay so far with the temptation to drink, PJ.

I used to pose myself the hypothetical question, “If I knew I was destined to die soon, would I go back to drinking?”

I thought about the pros—and then the cons—and decided no.

The thought of a glass or two of wine for conviviality’s sake is an illusion for me. Just like the rest of us, I might be moderate for a time—but soon I’d be back guzzling—probably with all the more fervor if I knew I was a short timer.

That would be so damaging to my family and to my own personal growth.

I think I’m heading through some unique, uncharted waters here, and there is a spiritual lesson for me to learn. If I make myself drunk, I will be obscuring it.

My drinking was always a method of 1) feeling sorry for myself, and 2) running away from unpleasantness.

I do not currently feel sorry for myself, and I do not want to run away from upcoming unpleasantness—at least not mentally (I will be very grateful to have pain-reducing medicine prescribed by a doctor).

Plus (and maybe this is fanciful or over-dramatic), in being a part of SR, I really feel that I’ve become part of a sacred trust.

That’s probably way overstating it—by no means is SR cultish or demanding, and nobody needs to take a loyalty oath to post here—but it is how I’ve come to feel.

For me to betray myself and drink at this point, I would feel that I was also betraying my beloved “brothers and sisters.”

So no to alcohol.
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Old 07-16-2018, 03:40 AM
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Good morning, Gilmer. You remind me that every part of our journey is a gift of learning and sometimes more.

Thank you and have a beautiful day.

O
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Old 07-16-2018, 04:28 AM
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You too, O!
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Old 07-16-2018, 06:21 AM
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Gilly, you have thought about that tempt bit.

I was not meaning that btw...I know you are made of stronger stuff..I just meant pace yourself and remember to rest, eat and hydrate.
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I know, PJ.

I just thought it was germane.
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Old 07-16-2018, 08:42 AM
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What do you call an elephant at the North Pole?

Lost.
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Old 07-16-2018, 08:45 AM
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Kathy, your son’s sense of humor is heartwarming.

I know that I sound like a broken record but you are so very inspirational.

Sending love and wishing you a good day.
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Gilmer, I have always enjoyed your kind and thoughtful posts and this thread is no exception.

I am keeping you in my prayers
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I used to pose myself the hypothetical question, “If I knew I was destined to die soon, would I go back to drinking?”

it's interesting, isn't it, this question.
if we omit "soon", it holds for all of us now.
and eventually it will all be "soon" for each of us, whether we will know ahead of time or not.
and the idea might creep in that "in that case, if it's soon, it won't really matter".
so glad that's not where you're at, Kathy. not only because it has you saying "no" to the idea, but because you have a life such that it matters; you are the person who it matters to, in your life, that you want and choose to live it soberly no matter what.
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