My boyfriend cheated
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My boyfriend cheated
Good Morning,
I have not slept all night because I found out yesterday that my boyfriend of three years had cheated on me. I trusted my instincts and checked his laptop to discover the truth. What's worse is that I caught him, he didn't even confess on his own. Im a complete mess, i havent slept and I would love to drink but I keep reminding myself that I need to be strong during this time and that alcohol will only set me back. It will not help me trough this battle, it'll only make me weaker and make things worse. I just needed to vent.
I have not slept all night because I found out yesterday that my boyfriend of three years had cheated on me. I trusted my instincts and checked his laptop to discover the truth. What's worse is that I caught him, he didn't even confess on his own. Im a complete mess, i havent slept and I would love to drink but I keep reminding myself that I need to be strong during this time and that alcohol will only set me back. It will not help me trough this battle, it'll only make me weaker and make things worse. I just needed to vent.
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I'm sorry you're going through this.. One of my triggers and weaknesses is to drink AT somebody if I'm angry or they have caused an upsetting situation for me. It's almost like I'm thinking, "See what you made me do!". I'm getting better and learning to get through these situations and believe me, I seem to have plenty. Hang in there Tara. Drinking isn't going to undo the cheating. Stay strong! 
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation Targaryen.
I'm glad to hear that you are taking the high road and not drinking about this.
Stick to your plan and stay strong!
Sending you positive energy and thoughts.
-sb
I'm glad to hear that you are taking the high road and not drinking about this.
Stick to your plan and stay strong!
Sending you positive energy and thoughts.
-sb
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Targaryen, you are so right that drinking would make everything so much worse. As a sober person, you are able to detach somewhat, reflect, pick and choose your words and reactions, at least to SOME extent. Drunk, you would be likely to go off the rails emotionally, lose control, make the problem about your behavior instead of where it belongs...on his deceit and actions. It must be incredibly hard, but it's absolutely possible to weather this storm sober. We are here with you.
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Can't you just turn your dragons on him?
Kidding aside - this is a great and supportive place to come and vent. It's good that you realize alcohol is not the answer. When I'm having a moment of weakness, just reading this forums helps a ton.
Kidding aside - this is a great and supportive place to come and vent. It's good that you realize alcohol is not the answer. When I'm having a moment of weakness, just reading this forums helps a ton.
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Yes, drinking would be the worst thing to do. In my experience, I've been cheated on a couple times in the past and wish my coping method didn't include alcohol. It caused me to over react and say things out of anger and regretted after some time had past.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
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I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling, Tar. I'd be deeply hurt too. It is true that drinking to ease the pain will backfire. We're just numb for a while & then it all hits us doubly hard. Staying clear headed to deal with this is the only way to go.
You're among friends. I'm glad you posted.
You're among friends. I'm glad you posted.
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