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Old 07-09-2018, 05:32 AM
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Heading home after the first Sober vacation in decades! HAHA realized prior vacations only meant drinking in a different location. This time, I was present. Hang in there everyone. Although difficult at times, sobriety is so worth it!,
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Old 07-09-2018, 06:19 AM
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Just getting back from my weekend offline. I made it through fine. By Sunday I was starting go get some things cleaned up around the house - pulling myself out of the hole I was in, slowly.

I did some reading. I'd brought some gardening books home from work. There was a little saying that gave me inspiration - "You reap what you sow." It got me to make little time investments for the future.

Looking forward to having a week of sobriety behind me, and a lifetime ahead! Thanks for the inspiration, everybody!
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Old 07-09-2018, 07:48 AM
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Thanks for the welcomes. Feeling kinda lousy on my day 1 at work. Last night finished 3 nights of drinking, starting while I was out of town. Once again, was able to conceal it, even from my wife. This makes 8 total nights in 2018. Trying to figure out what to change to make it permanent.
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Old 07-09-2018, 07:59 AM
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Another weekend in the books! I have found walking my dogs helpful when a craving hits. My dogs love their walks but are currently getting more than they bargained for...lol. The dogs and I will be in great shape soon. Iím grateful that my current ďproblemĒ is too much dog walking, rather than shame, regret, and embarrassment.
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Old 07-09-2018, 09:14 AM
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Hi, I would like to join. Day 1. I’m feeling too bad to write more than that at the moment. But I know my method of pretending like I don’t have a problem isn’t working. Will write more later.
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Welcome to the group, Juno11. Good luck on Day 1. Day 5 here. Each day gets better.

Come back and write more whenever you feel like it!
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Hi Juno!

Just finished reading all the posts from this month. A lot of us in the same situation. A lot of my problem has been accepting the never again thing. I think I can now because I've decided this is day 1, the past is gone, and I'm going to be open and honest about this, and not try to hide anything anymore. I am what I am.
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Old 07-09-2018, 12:22 PM
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Couldnít agree more

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Hi Juno!

Just finished reading all the posts from this month. A lot of us in the same situation. A lot of my problem has been accepting the never again thing. I think I can now because I've decided this is day 1, the past is gone, and I'm going to be open and honest about this, and not try to hide anything anymore. I am what I am.
Iíll join you!
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Old 07-09-2018, 01:09 PM
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One of the first things I did on my Day 1 was to look through the Books on Recovery thread and choose one to buy. I chose Marcus Aurelius' Meditations. It should arrive today.

Every 2 week pay period, I'm going to buy another book, maybe used, but always hardcover. The first few will definitely be from the Books on Recovery thread. After that, I'll have to see how I feel about subject matter.

I've made books part of my plan, though, and one of the things that will replace the space I devoted in my life to drinking. I choose books over bottles!
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Day 9 for me here

This is day 9 of my dry July! I hope it is not too late to join the class. I am managing after a 20 year beer habit, but I am still pretty exhausted at mid-day. My new happy hour is a power nap! Have never slept better, at night since I can remember, though!
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You're off to a head start, Ashteetotaler. Glad to hear you're sleeping well. Were you able to sleep better right away? or did it take a few days?

Beer was also my habit. It's my day 5. Also pretty exhausted, but I'm not sleeping well at night.
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Old 07-09-2018, 02:53 PM
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I take melatonin to sleep but so far I have not had my trouble. Beer fueled me into anxiety ridden insomnia most nights!
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Old 07-09-2018, 02:59 PM
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Originally Posted by YuriO View Post
Also pretty exhausted, but I'm not sleeping well at night.
Yuri: Iím on day 25 and just finally started sleeping better three nights ago.
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Welcome Juno, Ashteetotaler and Survivor! If I missed anyone, welcome to you, too! Day six. It was a good day. Got really angry over some fairly trivial thing, and I wish I had reacted better, but no harm was done and I've got another chance tomorrow as long as I stay sober. My AV was giving me a hard time, but not as much as yesterday, not near as much.
One of the great things that has changed for me since last time I tried to stay sober is I have a really good team at work now. We like one another and are all on the same page, just trying to make a good department. I just love them. I had a few months sober at the end of last year, but was plagued by mean people in my department. Then, my son got into some horrible trouble and my support group was so unhelpful.
I really want to build up a good support group. And, I need to make a plan on what to do if everything goes to heck in a handbasket. It can do that, and I need to be ready for it if it does.
I'm so grateful for this new chance. Tomorrow is one week! For me, that is just amazing.
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Old 07-09-2018, 06:05 PM
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Congrats Sober369! You sound really positive!

Thanks for the warm welcome, YuriO!

BobDrop, so good to see you here again. We can do this. We have to shift our way of thinking about alcohol.

I'm feeling a lot better now. I had a full bottle of wine last night and it nearly killed me. I don't say that kiddingly, I did feel like I was going to die (from about 4:00 am to 9:00 am I was constantly throwing up and unable to even move without dry heaving near the end). Thankfully I'm better now and well tonight, I went to a meeting. I use SMART Recovery and tonight's meeting was particularly helpful to me. A guy I know who has been sober for a while kind of slipped up recently with a few beers, so that made me feel comfortable confessing what happened to me last night. And I'm really glad I did because I got some great and helpful advice. Lots of hugs and good community feeling. I feel so much better and not like such a loser as I did earlier today.

The fireflies are out tonight and it's so pretty out! Look forward to everyone's posts.
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Old 07-09-2018, 10:48 PM
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Hello to everyone here! Just wanted to check in. Today marked one week sober for me and I am so relieved. I had a few uncomfortable moments earlier today where my AV was trying to tell me I could just have a couple of beers and it would be fine. The very thought created this adrenaline-laden excitement. But I immediately shot that idea down... Itís amazing how sneaky that voice is.

Anyway, nice to meet you all. Itís comforting to know I am not alone in this journey.
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Old 07-10-2018, 03:20 AM
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Good morning all! Weekdays are much easier for me. I got through yesterday without a peep from my AV. The danger at this early stage for me is to underestimate the potential for a moment of weakness. Weekends, restaurants, and literally someone just talking about drinking have been problematic in the past. I poured out any leftover booze i had from july 4. Theres light beer in the house but im not worried about that.

I've been through this a few times unfortunately, but i know what i want and need to do. Its never too late to grow up and get responsible, even in middle age.
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Good morning everyone! Day 2 and feeling much better. More upset with myself for drinking for 3 days than ashamed. Found a way to rationalize it, and that is a killer. I should be on my 7th month if not for rationalizing things a few times. No more. I'm basically a quiet person, but I'm going to be open and honest and talk openly about things now. Nothing gets changed unless behavior is changed.

nmd=You know there's alcohol in light beers, right? Just kidding

Glad you are feeling better Juno. Hang in there.
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Wow!! Welcome everyone who is joining the crew!! Encouraging reads this morning, struggling or not we are all in this together. Those with just a few hours or days, keep posting as it does get easier and things will brighten! Be easy on yourselves and trust the process!! We can do this thing, we deserve happy and healthy! Iím 35 days today, the longest in 2 years... the difference for me this time is that Iím truly done with feeling sick, defeated, resentful, angry, lonely, sad, guilty, selfish... oh the list of crap could go on. Sober feels amazing, not perfect by any stretch, but sooo much better than the alternative. Yesterday was a rough day, didnít feel good, was tired and feeling low but I put into action whatís working for me. I was easy on myself, got myself to a meeting, listened, embraced being understood by others who really understand where Iím at. I came home and instead of allowing the AV to win I meditated and then put on comfy PJís and jumped into bed and read an excellent book until the chatter in my head shut down and I slept. Easy on myself! Iím feeling better this morning after a good nights rest. For today I hand over the control to my higher power to directed my day away from my will. It is working for me and just my journey, Find your journey folks and live it for today FREE and SOBER!! Iím in for 24 more are you? 💕
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