Class of July 2018 Part 1
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I'm sorry for your loss too Sober369 and Paige.
Hi Drole - if it was me yes I'd have fallen off the wagon and I'd start my day count again.
Not because I want to punish myself but because I need to be honest - I ould have rationalised for the Olympics.
If I start disregarding drinking again, even if its only 3 beers, where does it stop?
just my 02 of course. It's your journey
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Hi Drole - if it was me yes I'd have fallen off the wagon and I'd start my day count again.
Not because I want to punish myself but because I need to be honest - I ould have rationalised for the Olympics.
If I start disregarding drinking again, even if its only 3 beers, where does it stop?
just my 02 of course. It's your journey
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Sober369-I would like to say that having booze in the house has not been an issue, but it has, including this last weekend. I would not have gone out to buy it, but it was right there and I was rationalizing again. Then the stressful part is getting it replaced the next day so she doesn't notice. Not happening again!
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Originally Posted by bobdrop 
Sober369-I would like to say that having booze in the house has not been an issue, but it has, including this last weekend. I would not have gone out to buy it, but it was right there and I was rationalizing again. Then the stressful part is getting it replaced the next day so she doesn't notice. Not happening again!
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Day 13
Hello everyone. I just joined this website after deciding 13 days ago to stop drinking. I have tried in the past but never really felt like I was committed. This time it seems different. I asked my Dr. for a prescription for Antabuse-medication used to make a person sick if they drink while on the medication. This tool has been helpful as I had serious cravings and was feeling sorry for myself until about day 4. The drug stays in my system for a week or more, so there are no impulsive decisions to drink. I'd have to plan and to me at this time, would seem counter-productive.
I just feel like I need to connect with others to learn more about strategies to move forward. I am 54 and have been a drinker of wine and then vodka over time since I was 14 years old. Working from home doesn't help as it is really never too early for a drink...right? It is better today. I've been running and walking to take the edge off and that has been helpful.
I need to move forward Recognize what is real. Not lying to myself anymore. Thank you for listening.
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I just feel like I need to connect with others to learn more about strategies to move forward. I am 54 and have been a drinker of wine and then vodka over time since I was 14 years old. Working from home doesn't help as it is really never too early for a drink...right? It is better today. I've been running and walking to take the edge off and that has been helpful.
I need to move forward Recognize what is real. Not lying to myself anymore. Thank you for listening.
meb
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Originally Posted by PaigeMasters
Lgrhe and Sober369, if you can believe this, my father just passed away too- on 6/27. I definitely used it as an excuse to get obliterated. Funny thing- my dad died a sober alcoholic. One of the MANY reasons I decided to stop drinking was that I knew he wouldn’t want me doing this to myself.
So sorry for both of your losses. It’s been a painful time for me.
So sorry for both of your losses. It’s been a painful time for me.
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Welcome to the group MeBarry and Forme! Glad you are here.
How strange that three of us recently lost our fathers. It is really sad. Hugs to Paige and Lgrhe. My dad was a really special person. Not my natural father, but raised me since I was five and brought a feeling of safety that had been sorely missing in my life until then. I miss him a lot.
Bobdrop, I totally know what you mean about having alcohol in the house. It does bother me, too. I try to make light of it, but it's an issue. I don't want to ask them not to have it because they drink so little and it's just a little indulgence for them, not a problem. But it can be a trigger. As long as it's the nasty apple beer stuff, it's not as much of a problem, but there are sometimes margaritas and such. That's kind of hard for me. Not sure how to handle that.
How strange that three of us recently lost our fathers. It is really sad. Hugs to Paige and Lgrhe. My dad was a really special person. Not my natural father, but raised me since I was five and brought a feeling of safety that had been sorely missing in my life until then. I miss him a lot.
Bobdrop, I totally know what you mean about having alcohol in the house. It does bother me, too. I try to make light of it, but it's an issue. I don't want to ask them not to have it because they drink so little and it's just a little indulgence for them, not a problem. But it can be a trigger. As long as it's the nasty apple beer stuff, it's not as much of a problem, but there are sometimes margaritas and such. That's kind of hard for me. Not sure how to handle that.
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Originally Posted by Lgrhe
Wow. Sorry for all of us.
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Welcome aboard MEBarry6 and ForMe247
I agree connection and support is very important and you'll both find a ton of that here
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I agree connection and support is very important and you'll both find a ton of that here
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Sincere condolences for those of you who have lost their dad's recently. I too can unfortunately very much relate. I lost my dad 3 years ago, which originally turned me on to my negative relationship with wine. Dad and I were really close. I was originally trying to drown the pain of my grief with wine. Well... Let me tell you, it was a bad decision on my part and didn't work... and drowning the pain turned into a horrible habit of drinking everyday. Now 3 years later, I'm trying to correct my poor decision of wine drinking. My father would not have liked my decision to drink! Now I feel even more connected with all of you! I sincerely appreciate your support and kind, welcoming words. I'm finishing my evening with a clear head and writing in these forums instead of indulging in wine. I'm happy with my decision today and I'm so happy to find this site! I'll be sure to check in again with you all tomorrow!!
I'll be sure to check in again with you all tomorrow!!
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Minion and ForMe- thank you both. It is a very tough journey. But I will say it’s a lot easier now that I am no longer drowning my sorrows in weed and wine. I am much better able to deal with the grief with a clear mind. I am also letting myself cry... I need to do that.
It really is strange three of us are facing this recent loss of our fathers. I wish none of us were.
It really is strange three of us are facing this recent loss of our fathers. I wish none of us were.
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Originally Posted by Sober369
nmd and Bobdrop, I have family who keep booze in the house, too. How do you deal with it? It's my daughter-in-law who lives with me, along with my son and their three children. Fortunately, she keeps nasty apple beer stuff. Hard cider sodas. Sounds disgusting, but sometimes I find myself looking at them, counting them, wondering what the heck is wrong with a person who takes two weeks to drink a six pack.
One way to look at it is seeing the difference between her having an occasional yucky drink without enough alcohol in it to even get a real drinker started, and me, who would have drank all of them and then been sad that there wasn't more. Maybe even made the dangerous trek out for more.
It's two totally different things, her drinking vs. mine.
One way to look at it is seeing the difference between her having an occasional yucky drink without enough alcohol in it to even get a real drinker started, and me, who would have drank all of them and then been sad that there wasn't more. Maybe even made the dangerous trek out for more.
It's two totally different things, her drinking vs. mine.
If i have a case of beer in the house that i like, then im in the danger zone; same with wine or whisky. I poured out my last few beers and tequila i bought. I asked my wife not to buy me any more beer (its important to tell people you dont want to drink if you dont want them to offer you booze). Her beer is a national brand light beer that i dont like.
Some people keep a dry house. Its not unreasonable really, but depends on the people you share your home with. I would prefer that really, just not there yet.
I was sober for 13months and decided to have a beer on my birthday when out to eat. That kind of sums up a lot of stuff that went into relaping:
- feeling like i was missing out/rewarding myself
- restaurants that serve booze are a challenge for me period. theyll have the stuff i dont keep at home
- complacency/boredom with being sober
- some fleeting thought that i might be better and able to handle a drink every now and then
Drinking on impulse is always a bad idea. Ive never once waited and later.decided it would be a good idea. I did relapse though and im thinking about those things that led up to it.
The truth is too, relapse is often premeditated. We will come up with ways to get a drink ahead of time. Fleeting thoughts we call our addictive voice become a plan to relapse. Better to plan how to stay sober!
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