How to give 'advice' effectively

Old 06-30-2018, 06:46 AM
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How to give 'advice' effectively

I thought this was a good read.

I hope that actually translates as a link that will open. If it doesn't can someone fix it for me? Duhhhh. Sorry

And I think those in AA know how effective it is to share in the 'I'. Not the 'you', 'we', 'us' 'them'.

I find when I read someone saying 'I've been there. Here's what I did' I am far more receptive. I also feel like posts shared in the 'I' give me a choice. I'm not being told what to do, I'm being asked 'does this mean anything to you'. I'm being invited to consider the post. As opposed to being beaten over the head.

I make mistakes all the time and have to watch posting stuff that is too 'advice-y'. I'm sure I've done it many times. But I do make an effort to post my experience as at least part of the post. If I have no experience with the post, why would I respond in the first place?
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Old 06-30-2018, 07:22 AM
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Great post Frickaflip! I am learning a lot of Buddhist teachings here at rehab and it is always spot on and in your heart you know it is right, true and honest. Thanks for the link xx
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That's a really great article.
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