Weekender Thread 28th June to 2nd July 2018
Goodbyeevan
I understand your Hubby a bit. Sometimes I am reading a thread and I want to help them. There is so much talk about the drinking they did on their relapse that it starts to bother me and make me think about drinks. I see myself in the bar etc. I just move along to another post. I feel awesome talking to someone about their AV and ways to manage it. When they start to say something specific that their AV is calling them to do, if it was the drinks I liked, I struggle.
I understand your Hubby a bit. Sometimes I am reading a thread and I want to help them. There is so much talk about the drinking they did on their relapse that it starts to bother me and make me think about drinks. I see myself in the bar etc. I just move along to another post. I feel awesome talking to someone about their AV and ways to manage it. When they start to say something specific that their AV is calling them to do, if it was the drinks I liked, I struggle.
Good morning to all the weekenders.
It's a pleasure to have you in the weekender SkyFullOfStars !
The forecast is looking good in France too Andy
Strength to those struggling.
Snufkin how are you doing. ?
How are you all doing this fine morning...?
It's a pleasure to have you in the weekender SkyFullOfStars !
The forecast is looking good in France too Andy
Strength to those struggling.
Snufkin how are you doing. ?
How are you all doing this fine morning...?
Welcome to Weekenders skyfullofstars! Congratulations on reaching day 3.
Sorry you are feeling anxious goodbyeevan. The only thing I can suggest is to keep (gently) trying to get him to open up about it a bit more. As a single person I do not have someone close enough that I can open up to but that has not hindered me so far so fingers crossed it will be the same for him.
I woke up with a mild headache this morning, I bingewatched the last few episodes of Swedish crime drama The Bridge last night which may account for it. It was excellent though.
Sorry you are feeling anxious goodbyeevan. The only thing I can suggest is to keep (gently) trying to get him to open up about it a bit more. As a single person I do not have someone close enough that I can open up to but that has not hindered me so far so fingers crossed it will be the same for him.
I woke up with a mild headache this morning, I bingewatched the last few episodes of Swedish crime drama The Bridge last night which may account for it. It was excellent though.
Thanks also for your posts gbe.
Being up early on a Saturday and feeling great is a blessing.
Most of you in the northern hemisphere seem to be having some heatwave. Its mid winter here in South Africa, and although it does warm up to about 20 Celcius during the day, its now about 5!
I watched the first three or four on iPlayer a while back, then went off & found the rest on t'interweb. delayed gratification ... what's that then?
^^ I love Scandi crime dramas too! Did you watch 'Trapped' the Icelandic series? Really recommend, it was excellent!
Happy Saturday, everyone. I will not drink today. Loved waking up yet another day hangover free and feeling rested
Happy Saturday, everyone. I will not drink today. Loved waking up yet another day hangover free and feeling rested
And thanks for this in your signature, it really resonates with me
“Alcohol gave me wings but then it took away the sky“
So very very true
I think I already told you how much I love your username.....it makes me happy.
waves to everyone ♥♥
Sunset hike was beautiful. Found our own private viewing rock. Next time I will bring bug spray!
Wondering about our different paths of recovery. He mentioned tonight about how when I talk about AA it makes him think more about drinking. He says he couldn't go to meetings because talking about alcohol makes him want to drink. Out of sight, out of mind he said. Trying not to borrow trouble. Maybe I'm overreacting. It just seems like the wrong way to go about staying sober. What do I know though? Sometimes I just feel like saying, if you're going to drink eventually, just get on with it! I feel like there's a reservation there and it scares me. He's a hard one to get to open up, even after 6 years together. I love him and don't want to lose our new sober lives together but sometimes I worry. I just went over my fears with my sponsor today and one of my big ones is losing my sobriety so I guess that's why this is on my mind.
Wondering about our different paths of recovery. He mentioned tonight about how when I talk about AA it makes him think more about drinking. He says he couldn't go to meetings because talking about alcohol makes him want to drink. Out of sight, out of mind he said. Trying not to borrow trouble. Maybe I'm overreacting. It just seems like the wrong way to go about staying sober. What do I know though? Sometimes I just feel like saying, if you're going to drink eventually, just get on with it! I feel like there's a reservation there and it scares me. He's a hard one to get to open up, even after 6 years together. I love him and don't want to lose our new sober lives together but sometimes I worry. I just went over my fears with my sponsor today and one of my big ones is losing my sobriety so I guess that's why this is on my mind.
as AA people, we hear the term dry drunk which I do not like at all, but I get the concept....managing this disease without a program of recovery is scary for me. I couldn't do it.
I think the fact that you guys are talking about this is huge....it is not always that easy. We all have different ways of managing this though, and perhaps abstinence only works for some.
Probably a useless post....it is too early in the morning....love you Alex. ♥♥
Hmmm love love love this. I was already planning a sunset hike with my bf but the addition of some snacks may be in order too. I am lucky I have so many mountaintops to choose from.
Hope you're doing ok today Snuf. I think lots of us are probably familiar with that line of thinking, at least I am. Get messed up and have fun but then when you're home and alone with your thoughts the self harm creeps in. Please message me if you want or before you go have drinks with your mates. The last time i relapsed after 21 days of not drinking, I was sitting on my porch railing just wishing I had the "guts" to jump off and break my legs or die. I can't count the times I acted out while drunk and tried to harm myself, sometimes successfully. I wanted attention, I wanted to feel the pain I felt inside, I wanted relief, I wanted help. I woke up the next day after that relapse and went to AA and got a sponsor. Whether it's AA or SR, get yourself someone you can call when the temptation rises. Both the drinking and the self harm. These thoughts are not us. They are alcohol and mental illness. Only with time can we heal and learn to love ourselves as we are. Much love to you today lady.
Hope you're doing ok today Snuf. I think lots of us are probably familiar with that line of thinking, at least I am. Get messed up and have fun but then when you're home and alone with your thoughts the self harm creeps in. Please message me if you want or before you go have drinks with your mates. The last time i relapsed after 21 days of not drinking, I was sitting on my porch railing just wishing I had the "guts" to jump off and break my legs or die. I can't count the times I acted out while drunk and tried to harm myself, sometimes successfully. I wanted attention, I wanted to feel the pain I felt inside, I wanted relief, I wanted help. I woke up the next day after that relapse and went to AA and got a sponsor. Whether it's AA or SR, get yourself someone you can call when the temptation rises. Both the drinking and the self harm. These thoughts are not us. They are alcohol and mental illness. Only with time can we heal and learn to love ourselves as we are. Much love to you today lady.
And snuf honey.....love you to bits.... ♥♥♥♥♥
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I’ve got the weekend alone, and I’m delighted.
So different today from several years ago. Several years ago, I would have been gulping booze down the second my family stepped out the door, and lolling around in a constant stupor—now I am free and able to appreciate and enjoy real experiences instead of withdrawing from the possibilities of life.
So different today from several years ago. Several years ago, I would have been gulping booze down the second my family stepped out the door, and lolling around in a constant stupor—now I am free and able to appreciate and enjoy real experiences instead of withdrawing from the possibilities of life.
Sober Saturday night, we went for a lovely long walk on the beach today, it was just beautiful and very soon I’m going to bed sober for the 7th Saturday in a row it will be lovely to wake up to another lazy Sunday morning hangover-free. These mornings don’t get old, I appreciate every single morning I wake up and remember with a huge sense of relief... “I didn’t drink last night” ❤️
I’ve got the weekend alone, and I’m delighted.
So different today from several years ago. Several years ago, I would have been gulping booze down the second my family stepped out the door, and lolling around in a constant stupor—now I am free and able to appreciate and enjoy real experiences instead of withdrawing from the possibilities of life.
So different today from several years ago. Several years ago, I would have been gulping booze down the second my family stepped out the door, and lolling around in a constant stupor—now I am free and able to appreciate and enjoy real experiences instead of withdrawing from the possibilities of life.
I will not drink today. When you can post those words out loud here on SR, they become very powerful. You externalize your commitment and in turn, those words give back strength.
I will not drink today.
So speaking of AA, the thought of attending a gathering of like minded individuals has been bouncing around in my head. Not 12 step, but the group therapy aspect is attractive.
Good Morning, invisible friends. I decided to join this weekend party because I am home alone after a long business trip and feel I could get a bit wobbly on the drinking front. Thanks all for being here. I'll be checking in again.
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