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I need support
I was sober 6 months. My best friend just died and I fell apart. I’m at my parents and they are watching my son. I am laying in bed and can’t get up or stop crying. I hit a parked car, my son was not with me. The day my friend died. The cops know and keep calling me. My lawyer friend said don’t answer. I’m freaking out. I called in to work all weekend. Then today I put in my 2 weeks notice. Bc I hate my job.
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I'm certain he/she would not want you to lose your six months sobriety because of it, though.
First things first. Get rid of any alcohol. Grief is made infinitely worse by adding alcohol. I know, I did it after my mother and father died.
The accident - I would hire an attorney.
One day, one hour, one minute at a time - you can do this.
First things first. Get rid of any alcohol. Grief is made infinitely worse by adding alcohol. I know, I did it after my mother and father died.
The accident - I would hire an attorney.
One day, one hour, one minute at a time - you can do this.
Aye yi yi...that's a lot of stress to be dealing with all at the same time! Sometimes it feels like when it rains it pours. Tell yourself you will get through this....one moment at a time; one day at a time. I am glad your parents are there to help you. Tell yourself that you WILL get through this. Just think you don't have to go work at a job you HATE. That's good news I suppose. Try not to think too far ahead. I know you are submersed in grief right now....but it's something that needs to be processed one way or the other. Don't be a stranger here and you always have us for support.
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Oh dear- I am so sorry. I did just PM you back but I hadn't read this. Feel free to respond and share or vent or whatever might help. Staying sober today is huge accomplishment enough. Take care of yourself - good or bad those things will still be there to deal with, and I promise it's better dealing with things like that sober.
Hugs.
Hugs.
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend and that you relapsed. I hope that you can come up with a plan to get back on track.
I'm concerned about the advice to not answer the police's calls. This doesn't seem like it's something that will go away. Have you thought about hiring a lawyer for yourself?
I'm concerned about the advice to not answer the police's calls. This doesn't seem like it's something that will go away. Have you thought about hiring a lawyer for yourself?
I'm sorry for your loss LunaBlue - and all the other stuff you have to deal with.
I'd make a priority of stopping drinking - it may be whispering sweet nothings in your ear and telling you its helping - but it's not.
Drinking just keep my wounds fresh I never gave myself time to deal with or get over anything. Consider making from this moment your day one. You'll be glad you did
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I'd make a priority of stopping drinking - it may be whispering sweet nothings in your ear and telling you its helping - but it's not.
Drinking just keep my wounds fresh I never gave myself time to deal with or get over anything. Consider making from this moment your day one. You'll be glad you did
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Thank you everyone. I’m weaning off. I’ve only had one beer today. I can’t go cold turkey, and I can’t go the hospital because I am in the medical field and I know everyone at all the hospitals.
I WILL get through this. It is what my friend would want for me. And what all you awesome people want for me too. And I want it! Sobriety is so much better. I’m almost there.
I will go to a hospital if I need to. My Blood Pressure and pulse are ok now. They weren’t yesterday...very high.
I WILL get through this. It is what my friend would want for me. And what all you awesome people want for me too. And I want it! Sobriety is so much better. I’m almost there.
I will go to a hospital if I need to. My Blood Pressure and pulse are ok now. They weren’t yesterday...very high.
Thank you everyone. I’m weaning off. I’ve only had one beer today. I can’t go cold turkey, and I can’t go the hospital because I am in the medical field and I know everyone at all the hospitals.
I WILL get through this. It is what my friend would want for me. And what all you awesome people want for me too. And I want it! Sobriety is so much better. I’m almost there.
I will go to a hospital if I need to. My Blood Pressure and pulse are ok now. They weren’t yesterday...very high.
I WILL get through this. It is what my friend would want for me. And what all you awesome people want for me too. And I want it! Sobriety is so much better. I’m almost there.
I will go to a hospital if I need to. My Blood Pressure and pulse are ok now. They weren’t yesterday...very high.
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I have been to the hospital before to detox. They don’t even really do detox around here. They did before for me because I have special ties with them.
I know all about kindling. I am aware of withdrawal. I just lost a friend in October to detoxing by himself.
I know they have to be confidential but I’m still scared. It’s a small town.
I had a seizure before out of the blue. I didn’t even think I was that messed up but was in a hotbox apt and could not cool off. I was drinking a beer at the time!
So yeah, I’m scared big time. Thanks for your support. I will keep you posted.
I know all about kindling. I am aware of withdrawal. I just lost a friend in October to detoxing by himself.
I know they have to be confidential but I’m still scared. It’s a small town.
I had a seizure before out of the blue. I didn’t even think I was that messed up but was in a hotbox apt and could not cool off. I was drinking a beer at the time!
So yeah, I’m scared big time. Thanks for your support. I will keep you posted.
Is there any way you can get some time away from work or whatever to go to a different town or region and get some help? I know how small towns can be and how big towns can be like small towns...if you know what I mean...I swear to God our entire state is like a small town...just sayin'....we run into people all the time who know so and so and well, it's a small world...if this is stopping you from getting help that's a shame...as I said before...I so WISH there was no stigma...it's a cryin' shame, it really is...
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I hate the stigma. I asked my parents to just treat me like I’m very ill. Which I am. I said pretend I have pneumonia or diabetes or cancer and just help me. This will kill me. I’ve been drinking since I was 14. I’m 39. **** people who say this isn’t a disease. I would never wish this on anyone.
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Yes I’m going to try to go 45 minutes away to a hospital. But like I’said they don’t really detox people...there is literally no detox center around.
Ugh my friends funeral is tomorrow. I’m not going. He was cremated anyway. So what’s the point if I can’t touch his hand or whatever. I wanted to see him again for closure. He’d understand.
Ugh my friends funeral is tomorrow. I’m not going. He was cremated anyway. So what’s the point if I can’t touch his hand or whatever. I wanted to see him again for closure. He’d understand.
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Hmmm. Well if the cops are calling you that means they have evidence that you hit and run. The misdemeanor has several levels but if you ignore them they will issue a warrant and that gets messy. I'm not sure why your attorney told you to ignore them but that won't make them go away. I'm surprised they aren't just stopping by your house. Maybe they have but don't know you are at your parents' house. Either way, they have you. If it was a hit and run, parked car, no one in it, its a pretty low level misdemeanor here in the US. But if a warrant is issued you change the game. Get a different attorney first then face the music.
I'm sorry for your loss. Death is hard to handle but it is no reason to drink. Hang in there.
I'm sorry for your loss. Death is hard to handle but it is no reason to drink. Hang in there.
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