Wishly

My husband is an alcoholic and has tried and failed in the past to get sober. I have to drive him everywhere because he has 2 dui's. I am very bitter about everything. I ended up having an affair. I told him about it and he wants to work things out. I feel horrible about everything. I dont believe he will ever quit drinking but he makes me feel so guilty about wanting to leave.

Anna

Hi Wishly,

I moved your thread to this forum so more people would see it.

I'm sorry about your situation. You might want to check out AlAnon in your city as a support for yourself. It's important for you to focus on yourself. If you make the decision to leave, I hope that you won't feel guilty about it. As I'm sure you know, your husband will have to make the choice to live a sober life.

Dee74

Hi and welcome Wishly

I'm sorry for what brings you to SR, but I know you'll find a lot of support and understanding here.

Anna's suggestion about AlAnon is a good one, I think.

D

Wishly

Hi Anna, It took me a minute to figure out how to do this. Thank you so much for your kind words. I thought for sure I was going to get slammed. I know I should have just left before doing what I did. I have kids, not to him and that's what makes it hard for me to just walk out. I hide the fact that he drinks and they think he is awesome. Not all of him is bad. I have pleaded with him that I'm not strong enough to worry about him all the time. He acts like he listens and cares but then he just waits a couple of days then drinks again.

iwilltryagain

Hi Wishly, Sorry for all the things that have happened. Hope things get better.

But if you had plan to leave him or move on. You could have been thoughtful about what you did ? you could hurt yourself and him, this could be an ugly situation and it may get better but there is that unhealed dent that will stay. If you have already built relation with other man and things are working and going in that direction, you can work on moving on with other man. If you didn't have kids to your husband then why is it hard to walk away ? ..It will be good for both of you. Each of us is responsible for our actions and their consequences!

Again, above is my opinion and take it with a grain of salt, everyone is different.

least

Welcome to the family. I hope he decides to get sober. In the meantime, take care of yourself. AlAnon is a good idea for support for you.

We have a forum here just for friends and family of alcoholics. Give it a look for more support.

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/