Half dead and my sponsor has ditched me

Old 06-14-2018, 03:03 AM
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Gotta be honest - I'm not sure thats been true sweetichick - but noone can make you do anything you don't want to do.

If not AA, what kind of things are you going to do to stay sober?

More worried about my chest pains and lack of support. I will get back to you in ten days after I see my cardiologist.
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Old 06-14-2018, 03:13 AM
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No need to get back to me - it's not an exam
Just take care of yourself and stay off the booze - no good for the heart

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Old 06-14-2018, 03:13 AM
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It was somewhere in one of the stories in that section. I have a fourth edition.
sweeti, the personal stories are just that- personal stories. heres something else the stories mentioned:
Many tried everything—hospitals, special treatments,
sanitariums, asylums, and jails. Nothing worked. Lone -
liness, great physical and mental agony—these were the
common lot. Most had taken shattering losses on nearly
every front of life. Some went on trying to live with alcohol.
Others wanted to die.
Alcoholism had respected nobody, neither rich nor poor,
learned nor unlettered. All found themselves headed for the
same destruction, and it seemed they could do nothing
whatever to stop it.

since thats whats in the stories, does that mean everyone should take drinking to that depth,too?
of course not,right?

the program of AA is in the first 164 pages.
heres something from the first 164 pages:

Now about health: A body badly burned by alcohol does not often recover overnight nor do twisted thinking and depression vanish in a twinkling. We are convinced that a spiritual mode of living is a most powerful health restorative. We, who have recovered from serious drinking, are miracles of mental health. But we have seen remarkable transformations in our bodies. Hardly one of our crowd now shows any mark of dissipation.
But this does not mean that we disregard human health measures. God has abundantly supplied this world with fine doctors, psychologists, and practitioners of various kinds. Do not hesitate to take your health problems to such persons. Most of them give freely of themselves, that their fellows may enjoy sound minds and bodies. Try to remember that though God has wrought miracles among us, we should never belittle a good doctor or psychiatrist. Their services are often indispensable in treating a newcomer and in following his case afterward.

if you want to ditch AA, again, thats your choice. however, doing it on your own is how you got in this predicament, with the consequences getting worse,dont you think?. so i hope you decide against that.
i dont know- one month AA, your sponsor,and the members in AA are awesome the next youre not going back. personally it reads like ya heard what ya needed to hear and not what ya wanted to hear. thats just how it is and how it should be. we aint gonna hear what we want to hear all the time- recovery orr not- it ..
ive gotten PMs from mods.sure as hell wasnt what i wanted to read but it was what i needed to read.
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Old 06-14-2018, 03:16 AM
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I hope the chest pains are not too serious
for you.

Just watched the documentary on David Partridge.
Soooo sad to see how his life ended. "So much time
lost or wasted." He thought he was strickened with
Dementia and had chest pains were soooo bad.

Come to find out, at the end of this documentary,
he shared that it wasn't dementia and his pains
were due to his long term alcoholism and liver

Sooooo sad that alcoholism takes so many
because they chose not to face their demons
and remain in denial that they have a serious
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Old 06-14-2018, 03:28 AM
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If your sponsor suspects you’ve been drinking again and not being honest about it, it could be why she distanced herself. The sponsor-sponsee relationship is not a perfect one, as we are all just people trying to stay sober.

HALT is just a mechanism to remind ourselves how important the physical aspect is in getting and staying sober. Many people are triggered by these things and don’t even realize it. In my experience, AA does not have to be a one size fits all formula; it promotes recommendations, but is not rigid in nature. Certainly follow whatever your doctors said before worrying about whether or not you think it conforms to AA standards.

If you were hospitalized for withdrawal, just know that the symptoms you’re experiencing will pass if you continue healthy habits. Diet and exercise are super important in my plan. If anyone told me otherwise, I would choose to disregard!
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Old 06-14-2018, 03:41 AM
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I will find out in 10 days. Hopefully it's just anxiety.
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Old 06-14-2018, 11:53 AM
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Hope everything works out for you. Take care. John
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Old 06-14-2018, 12:15 PM
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Hi sweeti.

Be strong. what I mean by that is, learn to draw strength from yourself.

From this day forward, anytime you catch yourself using someone else or some other program like SR or your sponsor or your diet or needing to quit smoking as an Excuse To Drink, STOP and think for a minute.

It's you.

It's not anyone else, it is you.

Brutal personal honesty. Own up to your drinking and own up to all the finger pointing and blame placing.

Assume that everything that has ever happened to you is because of your choices. Everything. You can edit it later. But first: accountability.

You can't get sober because you can't get honest. Without honesty there is no sobriety. and I will be honest with you: I know a thing or two about disease and if you do not get honest with yourself real quick, this will kill you.

Now. Get a journal and get honest. On paper. About what you have done and what choices you have made, so that you can make different ones.
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I hope your health improves Sweetichick, and I hope you decide to stop drinking for good. I truly think those things go hand in hand.
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Old 06-14-2018, 05:05 PM
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Originally Posted by sweetichick View Post
More worried about my chest pains and lack of support. I will get back to you in ten days after I see my cardiologist.
It sounds like you had a great support system going, but kept making up excuses to keep drinking.
Support is everywhere, but no one can make you get sober unless you truly want to, and will do whatever it takes to make it happen.
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Hi Sweetichick,

Just checking in to see how you're feeling, and how you are doing with not drinking.

Sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

Check in and let us know how you're doing.
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