May Long Success
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May Long Success
Friday of the May Long Weekend I had plans to go to the lake with my family. I got mad at my mom on Friday afternoon. My mom is the nicest lady ever and we are very close, but she has a seriously codependent relationship with my alcoholic dad. Its never ending drama.
So I set a boundary and told her that I am tired of being involved and with the exact same outcome every single time. I cant waste my energy on it and told her its one of the reasons why I drink and that she needs to get support from other people instead of just me. It was so hard for me too do and I felt really guilty.
I was in a bad mood after that and feeling triggered, so I cancelled the lake. I didnt want to even risk it. Even told hubby that I was wanting to drink and that we were no longer going. He was really supportive. AV was chatting all weekend long.
I just allowed myself to sit with whatever I was feeling and I sort of paid attention to the AV voice from afar if that makes sense. Every time, the craving passed.
There was a party that we were supposed to go to for a friends birthday, which I also declined, glad I did because the snapchat stories were all shotgunning beer.
Not sure where I am going with this but I just feel proud that I am choosing how to live my life, and what will be in my life.
This past weekend instead of blacking out the entire weekend and waking up full of remorse, depression and regret I did the following:
Woke up early every morning to enjoy coffee in the backyard
Worked on the yard with hubby and planted all our veggies and flowers
Went to the in laws for a BBQ and to seadoo and lay on the dock
Suntanned in the backyard and read
Went to the gym everyday
Got groceries for the week
Took the dogs to the dog park
Had a spa day with a face mask and hair mask and a nice bath
Cleaned out my car and washed it
I am in good spirits today!! Thank you SR - I stayed close and read posts when I was feeling down
So I set a boundary and told her that I am tired of being involved and with the exact same outcome every single time. I cant waste my energy on it and told her its one of the reasons why I drink and that she needs to get support from other people instead of just me. It was so hard for me too do and I felt really guilty.
I was in a bad mood after that and feeling triggered, so I cancelled the lake. I didnt want to even risk it. Even told hubby that I was wanting to drink and that we were no longer going. He was really supportive. AV was chatting all weekend long.
I just allowed myself to sit with whatever I was feeling and I sort of paid attention to the AV voice from afar if that makes sense. Every time, the craving passed.
There was a party that we were supposed to go to for a friends birthday, which I also declined, glad I did because the snapchat stories were all shotgunning beer.
Not sure where I am going with this but I just feel proud that I am choosing how to live my life, and what will be in my life.
This past weekend instead of blacking out the entire weekend and waking up full of remorse, depression and regret I did the following:
Woke up early every morning to enjoy coffee in the backyard
Worked on the yard with hubby and planted all our veggies and flowers
Went to the in laws for a BBQ and to seadoo and lay on the dock
Suntanned in the backyard and read
Went to the gym everyday
Got groceries for the week
Took the dogs to the dog park
Had a spa day with a face mask and hair mask and a nice bath
Cleaned out my car and washed it
I am in good spirits today!! Thank you SR - I stayed close and read posts when I was feeling down
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Icandothis is awesome!!! That is several amazing success stories all in one post. Sorry about the issues with your parents. That must be very hard to deal with while you are staying sober. Your mom needed to hear what you said. That doesn't make it any easier, but don't let that be a platform for your AV. Keep at it.
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Join Date: May 2017
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icandothis, you really rocked this weekend! I am so impressed by every single decision that you made. Who knew that there was this whole big wonderful world out there that doesn't involve alcohol. 
Thanks for brightening up my day!
Thanks for brightening up my day!
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