How do you deal with this
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How do you deal with this
Folks, I am in Day 2, but meeting a long time friend who s flying down from LA this week. He has been waiting to do brewery tasting with me and I do not want to embarass him. Is there anyways I can escape from drinking? How do you handle prior commitments made?
Trust that a long time friend will be happy that you're working to make your life better.
Or, put another way, if he prefers brewery tasting to you, then you'd probably want to know that so you can take him off the 'friend' list.
Best of Luck on Your Journey.
Or, put another way, if he prefers brewery tasting to you, then you'd probably want to know that so you can take him off the 'friend' list.
Best of Luck on Your Journey.
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Tell him you’re a recovering alcoholic and suggest doing something different. If he pouts, then he’s not really much of a friend. It’s a brewery tasting, not a once in a lifetime trip to Tahiti. I’m sure skipping it won’t cause that much of a problem!
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Don’t worry so much about what other people think. It’s not worth hurting yourself to avoid “embarrassing him”. A good friend will understand and be supportive.
I used to be so afraid of what other people would think of me. I would pre-prescribe how they were going to feel before i let them feel it! Let that worry go.
I used to be so afraid of what other people would think of me. I would pre-prescribe how they were going to feel before i let them feel it! Let that worry go.
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Appreciate your guidance here folks. It is going to be a slightly difficult / embarassing conversation but I will have to manage. Pretty sure he is going to ask stuff like "Why did you choose this week?. Start next week" and stuff, but I will have to hold my fort.
calm,
Part of my new non drinking bluing process was experiencing drinking activities and not drinking.
It is enlightening seeing a "normy" go from stone sober to intoxicated, coming off the buzz, and seeing them later all tired and in detox.
There is a decent chance that most folks that consider themselves normies are addicted and just haven't realized they are addicted yet.
Telling an addict they have a problem is a great way to spoil the evening. I have actually never opened it up, but my Dad set me up once a while back.
He said that he quit drinking, but started up again saying...he never drank as hard as me so he didn't have a problem.
I said cool...to each their own.
Anyway, hope this helps you.
Thanks.
Part of my new non drinking bluing process was experiencing drinking activities and not drinking.
It is enlightening seeing a "normy" go from stone sober to intoxicated, coming off the buzz, and seeing them later all tired and in detox.
There is a decent chance that most folks that consider themselves normies are addicted and just haven't realized they are addicted yet.
Telling an addict they have a problem is a great way to spoil the evening. I have actually never opened it up, but my Dad set me up once a while back.
He said that he quit drinking, but started up again saying...he never drank as hard as me so he didn't have a problem.
I said cool...to each their own.
Anyway, hope this helps you.
Thanks.
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Cool way he conveyed his thoughts. Thanks for sharing! And it all makes sense. Maybe my friend could be having issues too. I saw many bottles of wine on top of his fridge. Though he says it is only when guests are around.
I can see this happening, but you're right - hold your fort. You're pretty fragile right now. I'd stay away from that brewery.
To tell you the truth I would not tell my friend the truth and say the doctor told me to quit drinking as I have raised liver enzyme levels.I would still go as he is traveling a long distance but fruit juice is the only thing I would be tasting if I made a 100% commitment to quit.
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Most breweries I've visited in CA/CO are family friendly,so they have soft drinks and such. The food is actually really good too,but I'm not in the 'camp' of worrying about 'IPA cheese' on my burger.
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To tell you the truth I would not tell my friend the truth and say the doctor told me to quit drinking as I have raised liver enzyme levels.I would still go as he is traveling a long distance but fruit juice is the only thing I would be tasting if I made a 100% commitment to quit.
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Whether you tell him the truth about why you stopped is your call, but I would give him a heads up before he comes down that you aren't drinking.
Maybe offer a few different ideas of things you can do instead of the brewery.
If he gets upset about not drinking with you then you know he was a drinking buddy and not a friend.
Maybe offer a few different ideas of things you can do instead of the brewery.
If he gets upset about not drinking with you then you know he was a drinking buddy and not a friend.
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J50, Kinda did what you had indicated and he was not at all thrilled. The thing is he has paid 79$ per person(( He is like reassuring me that he wont let me go more than few and it involves much more than just drinking (history, brewing methods etc., meeting new people etc. etc.). I am going to pay up, not an issue but I really wonder if I can bail myself out now. Better stick to fruit juices as i am planning to.
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