The baby has a cold
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I normally would have had several drinks over that.
remember that over time, you have become conditioned to have a single response to everything.....and that is to DRINK.
I have a tendency to make things larger than life in my head and get incredibly resentful. I was soooo mad at him yesterday!
this is how we set ourselves up for another drinking episode....ratcheting things up to Def Com 2, bombs are incoming, therefore we have no choice but to drink!
as you begin to go thru things and do NOT drink over them, you should notice that you start to come down off the edge. today you are able to look at yesterday with a sober mind and sober recall, and say oh....i guess it wasn't THAT big a deal......altho he totally WAS a jerk.
remember that over time, you have become conditioned to have a single response to everything.....and that is to DRINK.
I have a tendency to make things larger than life in my head and get incredibly resentful. I was soooo mad at him yesterday!
this is how we set ourselves up for another drinking episode....ratcheting things up to Def Com 2, bombs are incoming, therefore we have no choice but to drink!
as you begin to go thru things and do NOT drink over them, you should notice that you start to come down off the edge. today you are able to look at yesterday with a sober mind and sober recall, and say oh....i guess it wasn't THAT big a deal......altho he totally WAS a jerk.
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Originally Posted by tomsteve 
taken from a story for the big book of AA:
Perhaps the best thing of all for me is to remember
that my serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations.
The higher my expectations of other
people are, the lower is my serenity. I can watch my
serenity level rise when I discard my expectations.
But then my “rights” try to move in, and they too can
force my serenity level down. I have to discard my
“rights,” as well as my expectations, by asking myself,
How important is it, really? How important is it compared
to my serenity, my emotional sobriety? And
when I place more value on my serenity and sobriety
than on anything else, I can maintain them at a higher
level—at least for the time being
the rest can be read here:
http://www.guardureyes.com/gue/pdfs/...edintime16.pdf
theres some wise word in that story
Perhaps the best thing of all for me is to remember
that my serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations.
The higher my expectations of other
people are, the lower is my serenity. I can watch my
serenity level rise when I discard my expectations.
But then my “rights” try to move in, and they too can
force my serenity level down. I have to discard my
“rights,” as well as my expectations, by asking myself,
How important is it, really? How important is it compared
to my serenity, my emotional sobriety? And
when I place more value on my serenity and sobriety
than on anything else, I can maintain them at a higher
level—at least for the time being
the rest can be read here:
http://www.guardureyes.com/gue/pdfs/...edintime16.pdf
theres some wise word in that story
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Update: he’s still a grump. He’s generally a great guy and he’s my best friend, which makes it that much harder when he’s in one of his moods. I actually think that he might be depressed, and probably has been for a while. I’m going to talk to him about that.
I guess the point is two fold 1) it’s not about me. Even though it feels like it. And 2) even if it were about me, I don’t have to drink.
I guess the point is two fold 1) it’s not about me. Even though it feels like it. And 2) even if it were about me, I don’t have to drink.
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