Starting Day 4. Feel Pretty Well, but....,...... Is there anything I can do about my mooching mother-in-Law? 😉 Honestly, having her around amps up my anxiety. I hate having her there constantly mooching. And then my stepdaughter....... Ohm, ohm, ohm, breath in, breath out. Do not drink. Do not drink. Think puppy dogs, kittens, bunnies, and flowers. My wife is worth it, my wife is worth it. Repeat. Other than that, early sobriety, everything is GREAT!!! :scoregood :a043: |
Ohhh. Does she live with you? My suggestion is buy a house with a separate MIL unit over the garage - or maybe you live in the separate unit and leave the women to it. :lmao: |
Originally Posted by biminiblue
(Post 6881523)
Ohhh. Does she live with you? My suggestion is buy a house with a separate MIL unit over the garage - or maybe you live in the separate unit and leave the women to it. :lmao: Seriously, it makes this process all the harder. As you knows emotions are amped during early sobriety. Thankfully, she’ll be gone this summer for 2 months. And check out this text I got from my 10 year old stepdaughter last week: “If you see chocolate in the kitchen DO NOT TOUCH i’m still making it and DO NOT MOVE IT. K THANKS.” That is verbatim. Never mind I have owned that home for 10 years and she moved in. That is minor to some of the other sh** I deal with. |
How is that text offensive? She's 10. :dunno: Seems a pretty innocent, straight-forward explanation of her chocolate and that she is still working on it. (?) It ended with "thanks." I think this is just all your skewed, Day Four perception. And, you don't have to go to Cancun. |
The kid is a preteen, it will get worst before it gets better. You'd better get used to it LOL About the MIL, you could always get a pet rat (unless she is like me and just love all kind of animals LOL). Anyway, congrats on day 4 and hang in there. Don't sweat the small stuff, early recovery can be a bit raw but it will get better You can do it :hug: |
Originally Posted by biminiblue
(Post 6881545)
How is that text offensive? She's 10. :dunno: Seems a pretty innocent, straight-forward explanation of her chocolate and that she is still working on it. (?) It ended with "thanks." I think this is just all your skewed, Day Four perception. And, you don't have to go to Cancun. I may be skewed. But others I have spoken to about it, including. Therapist have told me that sort of stuff is f’d up |
I may be skewed. But others I have spoken to about it, including. Therapist have told me that sort of stuff is f’d up |
It seems to me like your stepdaughter and your MIL are part of the cycle that keeps you drinking, getting sober, drinking again, getting sober, etc. |
Originally Posted by daredevil
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It seems to me like your stepdaughter and your MIL are part of the cycle that keeps you drinking, getting sober, drinking again, getting sober, etc. |
Originally Posted by Horn95
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Nailed it. In any event, Cancun even with the MIL is better than not going to Cancun at all, I think. |
Originally Posted by daredevil
(Post 6881589)
So what's the plan, going forward? In any event, Cancun even with the MIL is better than not going to Cancun at all, I think. |
does the step daughter have a father in her life? |
Originally Posted by tomsteve
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does the step daughter have a father in her life? |
shes your step DAUGHTER, so yes, she DOES have a father in her life. start acting like a father to her. she deserves it. theres been a lot of selfish self centered talk for some time now from ya. that stuff is a killer. i hope you decide to start working the steps through it all. you'll be amazed at how good it feels to be selfless over selfish. what does your sponsor have to say about it? what does the program have to say about it? |
Originally Posted by tomsteve
(Post 6881633)
shes your step DAUGHTER, so yes, she DOES have a father in her life. start acting like a father to her. she deserves it. theres been a lot of selfish self centered talk for some time now from ya. that stuff is a killer. i hope you decide to start working the steps through it all. you'll be amazed at how good it feels to be selfless over selfish. what does your sponsor have to say about it? what does the program have to say about it? |
Give the kid a break and stay sober. Her mom obviously makes very poor choices. She is only 10 with a dad in prison and a drunk for a stepfather and that's sad. |
Originally Posted by Carlotta
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Give the kid a break and stay sober. Her mom obviously makes very poor choices. She is only 10 with a dad in prison and a drunk for a stepfather and that's sad. |
wow people, you could be nicer |
Originally Posted by Carlotta
(Post 6881639)
Give the kid a break and stay sober. Her mom obviously makes very poor choices. She is only 10 with a dad in prison and a drunk for a stepfather and that's sad. |
Having been in two relationships with men who both have children to a previous partner (that includes the one i am in now) i can honestly say amalgamating two families is an absolute nightmare. Their kids, my kids, their parents and the rules that the other mother father grandmother etc impose on their kids etc well its a recipe for disaster. After the first relationship i swore blind i would never do it again yet here i am. I have kept a very wide birth on my partners kids (11 and 9) but also my two (27 and 25) have their own set of inherited from their father behaviours! Me and other half have been to therapist to try and find a way through (which with adult kids i really do think it beggars belief that there are still bloody issues to deal with!). No advice to give other than go to therapist and discuss and dont drink! May the force be with you. |
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