Weekender 26 -30 April 2018
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Location: Ashburn, VA
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My whole family is very excited! The kids are dropping everything and coming from miles around Saturday night, because we’re getting a spur of the moment visit from my husband’s wacky alkie stoner younger cousin.
He lived with us for six years in the early 2000s; he probably would have stayed longer, but he opted to flee the state when he was facing some serious jail time after his third DUI. He didn’t leave a forwarding address.
He normally did his drinking and smoking late at night, off premises, so he was usually sober and greatly amusing while the kids and I were awake.
My husband, though, is a night owl—so he has heard many the drunken philosophical rambling and melodramatic declaration from his cousin after he closed down the bar.
Since he left us he’s been a tumbling tumbleweed through Pittsburgh, Minnesota and Vegas—and now he’s “settled down” to crashing in his mother’s Florida apartment.
It’s easy for us to love him because we’ve never been responsible or liable for him. He really does love us, especially the kids.
We will be very glad to see him again. We’ll all be interested to see how everyone’s changed since 2007.
He can meet our daughters’ kids and husbands (and be totally freaked out).
I hope it makes him long for a deeper life. He truly is capable of a lot of love and loyalty, and in many ways would be a terrific dad.
So my priorities have been shifted from lounging tomorrow to furious cleaning!
He lived with us for six years in the early 2000s; he probably would have stayed longer, but he opted to flee the state when he was facing some serious jail time after his third DUI. He didn’t leave a forwarding address.
He normally did his drinking and smoking late at night, off premises, so he was usually sober and greatly amusing while the kids and I were awake.
My husband, though, is a night owl—so he has heard many the drunken philosophical rambling and melodramatic declaration from his cousin after he closed down the bar.
Since he left us he’s been a tumbling tumbleweed through Pittsburgh, Minnesota and Vegas—and now he’s “settled down” to crashing in his mother’s Florida apartment.
It’s easy for us to love him because we’ve never been responsible or liable for him. He really does love us, especially the kids.
We will be very glad to see him again. We’ll all be interested to see how everyone’s changed since 2007.
He can meet our daughters’ kids and husbands (and be totally freaked out).
I hope it makes him long for a deeper life. He truly is capable of a lot of love and loyalty, and in many ways would be a terrific dad.
So my priorities have been shifted from lounging tomorrow to furious cleaning!
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Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: FRANCE
Posts: 5,230
Morning all its time to unglue my eyes.
Thank crunchy it's Friday
It's going to rain they say...
Hi Mandy
Congratulations Lady Blue.
Good luck with the cleaning Gilmer.
Hello dzrkling dragon bim hawk Sao and all the weekenders.
Later
Vinny.
Thank crunchy it's Friday
It's going to rain they say...
Hi Mandy
Congratulations Lady Blue.
Good luck with the cleaning Gilmer.
Hello dzrkling dragon bim hawk Sao and all the weekenders.
Later
Vinny.
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Join Date: Jun 2014
Posts: 1,327
Thanks for the thoughts.
I'm just letting things get on top of me...
Dad's still very poorly.
Work isn't a nice place to be and there's potential staff cuts and big move arounds.
Uni deadlines to meet... so lots of late nights... I do uni work most nights and weekends so it's not even last minute panic... just a lot to do on top of working etc. And feeling pretty run down which always means my health issues are magnified.
Sorry to moan. But it means a lot that you care. Thanks.
Had drinking thoughts.... but just left them as thoughts!
Hugs to all xx
I'm just letting things get on top of me...
Dad's still very poorly.
Work isn't a nice place to be and there's potential staff cuts and big move arounds.
Uni deadlines to meet... so lots of late nights... I do uni work most nights and weekends so it's not even last minute panic... just a lot to do on top of working etc. And feeling pretty run down which always means my health issues are magnified.
Sorry to moan. But it means a lot that you care. Thanks.
Had drinking thoughts.... but just left them as thoughts!
Hugs to all xx
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Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Manitoba
Posts: 8,760
Hope you get to see some light at the end of that tunnel soon Petals. Good thing they are just thoughts, sounds like you barely have enough room to breath let alone drink. (Which, we all know would blow a big whole in your schedule and turn everything into a last minute panic). Hugs back.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 88,496
Originally Posted by Mandy73 
Just peeking my head in .. Hi everyone
Hi everyone.
Enjoying an early (well not so much now, it's after 7) morning with my cardinals and favourite squirrel.
Sending extra love for you and your dad petals. ♥♥♥♥
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 88,496
So sad....just reading about Avicii...Tim Bergling.
May he rest in peace....so this is now 3 very famous amazing musicians who have taken their lives in less than a year. (That I can think of right this moment...)
All had terrible struggles with drugs and/or alcohol.
We all have the chance to walk through the door to a sober life, no matter what pain lies in our past.
I am glad to be on this side with all of you.
3 and a half years sober today.
May he rest in peace....so this is now 3 very famous amazing musicians who have taken their lives in less than a year. (That I can think of right this moment...)
All had terrible struggles with drugs and/or alcohol.
We all have the chance to walk through the door to a sober life, no matter what pain lies in our past.
I am glad to be on this side with all of you.
3 and a half years sober today.
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Join Date: May 2014
Location: Valley of the Sun, AZ
Posts: 3,458
Swinging by at the start of the weekend. Feeling good, but also feel like I should be reaching out more - you know, to be safe ... and happier
Gilmer, I hope your cousin's visit goes well.
Petals, support to you.
See you all a little later!!
Gilmer, I hope your cousin's visit goes well.
Petals, support to you.
See you all a little later!!
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,202
All the best petals.
Good luck with your cousin in law Gilmer, it should make for an interesting weekend.
It is Friday lunchtime here, I will be SO pleased when this week is done. It has been really tough with some friction between me and one co-worker in particular as well as my boss.
Good luck with your cousin in law Gilmer, it should make for an interesting weekend.
It is Friday lunchtime here, I will be SO pleased when this week is done. It has been really tough with some friction between me and one co-worker in particular as well as my boss.
♥
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 25,373
Friday.
So this is the Weekender thread. If you are newly sober, sober twenty years, on and off, whatever - this thread is a great place to check in and make a commitment to a sober weekend. In early days I had to stay busy and that included exercise, preparing healthy home-cooked meals, and reading a lot of threads on this site as well as reading other recovery materials as needed.
In the words of Mecanix who began this thread and Weasel who kept it going for many years, (Thank You):
*Ring Ring*
What does it mean?
“The first bell is the bell of mindfulness, calling to me and you.
It says stop what am i doing right now, take some breaths, feel my body, am I holding it tight and tense? Relax… calm down… life is a journey and not a destination, make the journey as glorious as possible.
The second bell is the freedom bell and I'm ringing it for you to let you know freedom from drink and drugs is available to you, come and hear us calling out to you.”
Can you hear it? I can!!!
Welcome to your sober weekend!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
(this is bim, now )
The above is something that I still use, over four years after I had my last drink. Sobriety is more than just not drinking, it's about fighting that undercurrent of discontent that wants to gain a stronghold - before it becomes a rip current.
No, I say. Ring Ring.
So this is the Weekender thread. If you are newly sober, sober twenty years, on and off, whatever - this thread is a great place to check in and make a commitment to a sober weekend. In early days I had to stay busy and that included exercise, preparing healthy home-cooked meals, and reading a lot of threads on this site as well as reading other recovery materials as needed.
In the words of Mecanix who began this thread and Weasel who kept it going for many years, (Thank You):
*Ring Ring*
What does it mean?
“The first bell is the bell of mindfulness, calling to me and you.
It says stop what am i doing right now, take some breaths, feel my body, am I holding it tight and tense? Relax… calm down… life is a journey and not a destination, make the journey as glorious as possible.
The second bell is the freedom bell and I'm ringing it for you to let you know freedom from drink and drugs is available to you, come and hear us calling out to you.”
Can you hear it? I can!!!
Welcome to your sober weekend!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
(this is bim, now
)The above is something that I still use, over four years after I had my last drink. Sobriety is more than just not drinking, it's about fighting that undercurrent of discontent that wants to gain a stronghold - before it becomes a rip current.
No, I say. Ring Ring.
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