Stew1984

I value the ton of support here. It’s absolutely brilliant

Today is day one

Here I go

Caralara144

Hi stew
Take it one day at a time ..
I never thought I could ever do it yet here I am almost 4 months later and I feel so damn good
There's so much more to life than looking down into a bottle !!!
The rewards are plentiful !!
I wish you every success
Caralara ❤️

Dee74

Think of some tangible action to take today Stewy - all the best.
D

Stew1984

I wish my ex well. I recognise though that she was part of the drinking era. And one that is now in the past

D122y

Stew,

When it comes to me and obsessing, I have been having success using perspective.

From my perspective things are a certain way. This is my reality.

From my bosses, my wife, my son, my Dad, etc. There are their perspective s. That is their reality.

I have to accept this and move forward.

Attempting to rationalize their realty is futile and a waste of time unless I really decide to embrace their perspective.

That is a big part of my content life.

Thanks.

ThisHasToEnd

Best of luck! Today is day 2 for me!

Change4good

Proud of you Stewy. It made my morning to wake up and read this from you. You know what to do. And yes, building that bridge between knowing and doing is tough, but you are up for this. You have tools, you have us, and you have resolve.

Make it a good day and keep us posted. Happy Monday!

Stew1984

Thanks all, part of this process is acceptance my ex is gone. That the majority of our time together was booze Stew. I’m sorry ex- I hope you get your happy ending.
I wonder what life is going to be like for sober Stew in the big wide world on his own? It is time I found this out

Rar

Your post was my first of the day and it's a great way to start my day. Great news! You can do this. Stay close! ((HUG))

Change4good

I am glad you have reached acceptance. Break-ups just suck. We have all been there. And it is actually true that time heals wounds. I would suggest using this time for recovery, and don't ruminate on your past with her. Think about your triggers, and manage them. Keep going.

Stew1984

Wishing her well and adopting the attitude that I hope she enjoys a happy life without me is helping.

I’m sure the pain will fade. Especially now I’ve made this decision to be fully present in my own life. Booze has no place in it. Everything will get easier in time

KG77

Great job Stew!! Day 2 here. Let's do this together!! We CAN do it!!!

Anna

I'm glad you plan to stay sober today.

ScottFromWI

Glad you've made the choice stew. Now comes the work. What tangible actions are you going to take today to make it happen?

Stew1984

I’m staying close to the forum and posting. I’m also reading other posts

I’m exercising shortly and I’ve been drinking plenty of water

I’m currently in the middle of reading about AVRT

After exercising, I will not be returning to my bedroom this evening, I will be doing an alternative activity

I’m going to eat now as I’m hungry and getting pangs

Reading and posting more later

LadyBug66

You got this!

ScottFromWI

How about hitting a meeting - I believe you found one that you enjoyed a while back?

You also had made an appointment to see an addiction counselor - did you ever follow through on that? If not maybe give them a call and re-schedule.

You could also call up your therapist and make an appointment too, I believe you had one before that you liked, correct?


Reading here on SR and exercise are not bad things Stewy - but if you are being totally honest with yourself, that's nothing different than you've done in the past when you've made these declarations - and those things by themselves did not work, did they?

Bottom line - you've got to do things differently this time if you want it to work. And you'll need to do things you likely don't want to do.

dwtbd

Now AND Never or Never Now

To paraphrase a great signature " I believe in your ability to recover, even if you do not"
You got this

Ladysadie

Stew! Excellent decision! Very soon I hope you realize how letting go of outcomes for others actually frees you like nothing else. As I've written elsewhere, I struggle with a partner that refuses to stop drinking. I can't blame my choices on him but it took me a long while not to let go because he developed brain cancer and I got involved with his treatment. Not exactly the time to go my separate way as he needed someone in his corner due to the severity of his chemo. The mental disconnect is the hard part, putting you first, detaching, but focus on yourself is crucial. Sobriety feels so darn good, once you get the hang of it you'll fight for it. I think having a drinking buddy makes things insane with the push pull dynamic, which is a major reason treatment centers suggest no relationships in the first year, etc. etc. Good luck with your journey! It's as awesome as you want to believe.

Stew1984

Got to add more to the tool box haven’t I

I’ve scheduled some counselling through local services

I’ve got some through work too

I’ve got to do my interview prep for Friday with 100% clarity

This is the time isn’t it. Got to stop now. Forever