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I am just now catching your thread, Rar. We have been very busy with a house full of guests. I am sorry that I wasn't here to support you.
So glad to hear that you didn't drink; very proud of you.
Uber and Lyft are very good transportation alternatives.
So glad to hear that you didn't drink; very proud of you.
Uber and Lyft are very good transportation alternatives.
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(((((((Rar))))))
I have ALWAYS appreciated your support. You are strong- you made it to day 98 and day 100 will feel great
How are you doing now? I'd drive you- I used to be afraid of scary crazy big city driving. Now I figure the trick is to drive a beater old vehicle bigger, older and with just as many airbags as the new shiny cars- gives me all the confidence in the world
I joke, well a bit anyways lol. I really like the suggestions so far.
Please try not to let hubs get at you.
I don't know if you are doing AA at all, but have you considered al-anon?
I never felt I had a right to be there until I found out how many "double winners" there were as they told me. When I went I found it strengthened me in relieving my resentments and keeping my sobriety stronger. It's just a thought. You have a right to support in that area too.
Much loves!
xo Delz
I have ALWAYS appreciated your support. You are strong- you made it to day 98 and day 100 will feel great
How are you doing now? I'd drive you- I used to be afraid of scary crazy big city driving. Now I figure the trick is to drive a beater old vehicle bigger, older and with just as many airbags as the new shiny cars- gives me all the confidence in the world
I joke, well a bit anyways lol. I really like the suggestions so far.
Please try not to let hubs get at you.
I don't know if you are doing AA at all, but have you considered al-anon?
I never felt I had a right to be there until I found out how many "double winners" there were as they told me. When I went I found it strengthened me in relieving my resentments and keeping my sobriety stronger. It's just a thought. You have a right to support in that area too.
Much loves!
xo Delz
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YAY! I made it to the Dr's (or lab's) office and back. At the last minute, Husband said he would be driving me because the traffic was heavy, wanting me to wait to drive until tourist season was over, whenever that is. I said, "Im going to drive, , but you're welcome to come along for the ride". , which he did. Hee....hee... When we got home, Husband commented that the more I practice, the smoother I'll get. I asked him what was erratic about my driving. He said, nothing, except that I'll get smoother. Don't know what that means, but I'm sure my driving was fine. 
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So I slayed one of my personal dragons. I wasn't nervous once I got behind the wheel, but the anticipation of driving, even future driving here, still makes me nervous.
Thanks Everyone for the support and encouragement. Because of it, I am on Day 98 and had the confidence to drive.
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. So I slayed one of my personal dragons. I wasn't nervous once I got behind the wheel, but the anticipation of driving, even future driving here, still makes me nervous.
Thanks Everyone for the support and encouragement. Because of it, I am on Day 98 and had the confidence to drive.
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Originally Posted by Rar 
YAY! I made it to the Dr's (or lab's) office and back. At the last minute, Husband said he would be driving me because the traffic was heavy, wanting me to wait to drive until tourist season was over, whenever that is. I said, "Im going to drive, , but you're welcome to come along for the ride". , which he did. Hee....hee... When we got home, Husband commented that the more I practice, the smoother I'll get. I asked him what was erratic about my driving. He said, nothing, except that I'll get smoother. Don't know what that means, but I'm sure my driving was fine. .
So I slayed one of my personal dragons. I wasn't nervous once I got behind the wheel, but the anticipation of driving, even future driving here, still makes me nervous.
Thanks Everyone for the support and encouragement. Because of it, I am on Day 98 and had the confidence to drive. .
. So I slayed one of my personal dragons. I wasn't nervous once I got behind the wheel, but the anticipation of driving, even future driving here, still makes me nervous.
Thanks Everyone for the support and encouragement. Because of it, I am on Day 98 and had the confidence to drive.
. From a male perspective, your husbands comments lead me to believe he has a little guilt, but great job showing him your independence.
It may also be possible that he is not comfortable with driving, given the traffic and if he is drinking.
Guys aren't always the best in opening up.
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Originally Posted by J50
Great job Rar!
From a male perspective, your husbands comments lead me to believe he has a little guilt, but great job showing him your independence.
It may also be possible that he is not comfortable with driving, given the traffic and if he is drinking.
Guys aren't always the best in opening up.
From a male perspective, your husbands comments lead me to believe he has a little guilt, but great job showing him your independence.
It may also be possible that he is not comfortable with driving, given the traffic and if he is drinking.
Guys aren't always the best in opening up.
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Reading your recent posts was so uplifting. I think you should definitely keep driving because it will give you some independence and self confidence. I live in London and try to avoid driving as much as possible because it is frustrating - but the thing is it is not actually as demanding as you thing because everything is so slow.
Anyway, the most important thing is that you didn't drink and so many congratulations for not doing so.
Anyway, the most important thing is that you didn't drink and so many congratulations for not doing so.
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Rar - this is wonderful news! So important that you are able and ready to drive, just for being capable and ready in case you have to be. I'm particularly pleased your husband came through for you too. This is awesomeness in all regards.
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Originally Posted by Ladysadie
Rar - this is wonderful news! So important that you are able and ready to drive, just for being capable and ready in case you have to be. I'm particularly pleased your husband came through for you too. This is awesomeness in all regards.
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Originally Posted by Rar
I feel like drinking. My husband said some hurtful things to me and as a result I said I would drive myself to the doctor tomorrow. I haven't driven in Florida in the 3 years we've been here, so I'm terrified. I'm trying to hang on and all I can think of is that a drink will calm me down. Maybe I'll care tomorrow, but I don't now.. I've gone for a walk (though I'm hobbling with my bad feet) and tried to distract myself, but I'm too sad and scared and keep mulling over the situation. Today is my 97th day. 
How about Uber? It's super simple, very convenient. If need to know how to download the ap and stuff just give a shout. Would be glad to help.
Sorry for the bad vibes.
Edit: Oops, sorry I was late. I can be inattentive to details sometimes.
But still... is Uber an option to substitute for your inclination to not drive?
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