Naming and shaming the AV
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Naming and shaming the AV
Stewy you need beer to relax each evening (AV)
Stewy beer will help you cope with the relationship demise (AV)
Stewy you are weak and undeserving of love- beer will give you love (AV)
Stewy you were fully responsible for the relationship breakdown- have a beer and reflect on that (AV)
Just some thoughts today and here’s some more
Time to take my life back once and for all, this situation I’ve been in requires a complete shift in my attitude starting now- relationship gone (I wanted out- so it’s a gain), beer gone (wow 2nd gain of the day) job opportunity (3rd gain)
Sorry for moping, sorry for being indecisive (listening to AV), thank you to all of you that look out for me and have continually wished me well over months of back and forth
Positivity will beat this
Stewy beer will help you cope with the relationship demise (AV)
Stewy you are weak and undeserving of love- beer will give you love (AV)
Stewy you were fully responsible for the relationship breakdown- have a beer and reflect on that (AV)
Just some thoughts today and here’s some more
Time to take my life back once and for all, this situation I’ve been in requires a complete shift in my attitude starting now- relationship gone (I wanted out- so it’s a gain), beer gone (wow 2nd gain of the day) job opportunity (3rd gain)
Sorry for moping, sorry for being indecisive (listening to AV), thank you to all of you that look out for me and have continually wished me well over months of back and forth
Positivity will beat this
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You're sounding positive. You can beat this. Listen to the Stewy who wants to be strong and sober - not the slimy AV.
3 gains today is good. Keep it going.
Hang in there and keep on your committed path. Rooting for you.
3 gains today is good. Keep it going.
Hang in there and keep on your committed path. Rooting for you.
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Originally Posted by Dean1978 
Thats great to hear Stewie but what are you putting in place to help your recovery? What plan do you have?
2. Posting on SR
3. Dedication of time each day to look at AVRT
4.Friends and family
5. Deciding not to ever drink again no matter what
6. Working out
7. Learning keyboard
8. Playing guitar
9. Apply for the new job that’s come up
10. Eat better
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Originally Posted by Rar
You're sounding positive. You can beat this. Listen to the Stewy who wants to be strong and sober - not the slimy AV.
3 gains today is good. Keep it going.
Hang in there and keep on your committed path. Rooting for you.
3 gains today is good. Keep it going.
Hang in there and keep on your committed path. Rooting for you.
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Originally Posted by Stew1984
1. Complete mindset shift
2. Posting on SR
3. Dedication of time each day to look at AVRT
4.Friends and family
5. Deciding not to ever drink again no matter what
6. Working out
7. Learning keyboard
8. Playing guitar
9. Apply for the new job that’s come up
10. Eat better
2. Posting on SR
3. Dedication of time each day to look at AVRT
4.Friends and family
5. Deciding not to ever drink again no matter what
6. Working out
7. Learning keyboard
8. Playing guitar
9. Apply for the new job that’s come up
10. Eat better
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Hi Stewy
I'm reading your plan
I play drums I believe in working out
But but but...
I need physical daily real life contact with other recovering or recovered ( contingent upon the daily maintenance of their spiritual condition. Recovered not cured!)
Alcoholics or addicts.
I have a sponsor I call him every day
It's totally different to posting on SR.
SR is a resource most definitely for me. But I cannot over emphasize the importance of alone i/We must do it But we cannot do it alone.
I'm doing steps 1 2 3 this Saturday.
I've been really struggling because I don't interact with others in my physical reality enough.
I'm changing that.
Alcoholics/addicts of my type need so much Spiritual Power to stay well from this illness.
You've prompted me to put up s thread here about what I'm actually going to have to do to stay sober consistently.
I have zero dubious luxuries in the realm of my will versus addiction music family exercise I'm dead!!
I can only share my experience Stewy it's all I've got!
I'm reading your plan
I play drums I believe in working out
But but but...
I need physical daily real life contact with other recovering or recovered ( contingent upon the daily maintenance of their spiritual condition. Recovered not cured!)
Alcoholics or addicts.
I have a sponsor I call him every day
It's totally different to posting on SR.
SR is a resource most definitely for me. But I cannot over emphasize the importance of alone i/We must do it But we cannot do it alone.
I'm doing steps 1 2 3 this Saturday.
I've been really struggling because I don't interact with others in my physical reality enough.
I'm changing that.
Alcoholics/addicts of my type need so much Spiritual Power to stay well from this illness.
You've prompted me to put up s thread here about what I'm actually going to have to do to stay sober consistently.
I have zero dubious luxuries in the realm of my will versus addiction music family exercise I'm dead!!
I can only share my experience Stewy it's all I've got!
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its good to see ya learn on how to implement AVRT,stewy.
remember, more can be added to the tool box at any time.
plus, it isnt a requirement to drink before adding tools to the tool box.
remember, more can be added to the tool box at any time.
plus, it isnt a requirement to drink before adding tools to the tool box.
Originally Posted by Stew1984
1. Complete mindset shift
2. Posting on SR
3. Dedication of time each day to look at AVRT
4.Friends and family
5. Deciding not to ever drink again no matter what
6. Working out
7. Learning keyboard
8. Playing guitar
9. Apply for the new job that’s come up
10. Eat better
2. Posting on SR
3. Dedication of time each day to look at AVRT
4.Friends and family
5. Deciding not to ever drink again no matter what
6. Working out
7. Learning keyboard
8. Playing guitar
9. Apply for the new job that’s come up
10. Eat better
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Originally Posted by Forward12
You haven't been able to do it on your own, what makes you think you can now? I think adding AA and a therapist for 11. and 12. would be the most important on the list.
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Originally Posted by biminiblue
I believe you can do it, Stewy.
Keep. It. Going.
Remember that ad? "There ain't an ounce of turnback in it." Be that. It's okay to take a peek at your past, but don't stare!!
Keep. It. Going.
Remember that ad? "There ain't an ounce of turnback in it." Be that. It's okay to take a peek at your past, but don't stare!!
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Originally Posted by tomsteve
its good to see ya learn on how to implement AVRT,stewy.
remember, more can be added to the tool box at any time.
plus, it isnt a requirement to drink before adding tools to the tool box.
remember, more can be added to the tool box at any time.
plus, it isnt a requirement to drink before adding tools to the tool box.
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Originally Posted by Ghoster18
Hi Stewy
I'm reading your plan
I play drums I believe in working out
But but but...
I need physical daily real life contact with other recovering or recovered ( contingent upon the daily maintenance of their spiritual condition. Recovered not cured!)
Alcoholics or addicts.
I have a sponsor I call him every day
It's totally different to posting on SR.
SR is a resource most definitely for me. But I cannot over emphasize the importance of alone i/We must do it But we cannot do it alone.
I'm doing steps 1 2 3 this Saturday.
I've been really struggling because I don't interact with others in my physical reality enough.
I'm changing that.
Alcoholics/addicts of my type need so much Spiritual Power to stay well from this illness.
You've prompted me to put up s thread here about what I'm actually going to have to do to stay sober consistently.
I have zero dubious luxuries in the realm of my will versus addiction music family exercise I'm dead!!
I can only share my experience Stewy it's all I've got!
I'm reading your plan
I play drums I believe in working out
But but but...
I need physical daily real life contact with other recovering or recovered ( contingent upon the daily maintenance of their spiritual condition. Recovered not cured!)
Alcoholics or addicts.
I have a sponsor I call him every day
It's totally different to posting on SR.
SR is a resource most definitely for me. But I cannot over emphasize the importance of alone i/We must do it But we cannot do it alone.
I'm doing steps 1 2 3 this Saturday.
I've been really struggling because I don't interact with others in my physical reality enough.
I'm changing that.
Alcoholics/addicts of my type need so much Spiritual Power to stay well from this illness.
You've prompted me to put up s thread here about what I'm actually going to have to do to stay sober consistently.
I have zero dubious luxuries in the realm of my will versus addiction music family exercise I'm dead!!
I can only share my experience Stewy it's all I've got!
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Stewy, I'm pulling for you! I know you can do it.
I think it's great you are recognizing the AV lines. They are so predictable! One thing that helped me was to come up with comebacks. When it said, "But you deserve it because (X reason)." I now counter with "I deserve better than that." Talk back to it in your head.
When it tells you "have a drink to think about what went wrong in the relationship" say back something like, "having a drink won't make me feel better, it'll make me feel worse, and less able to analyze anything."
Tell it to jump in the lake!
Hang in there.
I think it's great you are recognizing the AV lines. They are so predictable! One thing that helped me was to come up with comebacks. When it said, "But you deserve it because (X reason)." I now counter with "I deserve better than that." Talk back to it in your head.
When it tells you "have a drink to think about what went wrong in the relationship" say back something like, "having a drink won't make me feel better, it'll make me feel worse, and less able to analyze anything."
Tell it to jump in the lake!
Hang in there.
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Originally Posted by Stew1984
Planning on kitting this tool box put with more and more stuff as I go on Tomsteve
Planning on knitting this tool box....
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I know you can do this, Stewy. I'm so glad you are feeling positive and have a plan.
Volunteering has been a big help to me in getting me out of my own space and helping others. In the summer I help at Girls Rock Camp where we teach ages 7-17 how to play an instrument, form a band and write a song. Maybe where you live there are opportunities for this type of musical volunteering. Wishing you a beautiful, sober day.
Volunteering has been a big help to me in getting me out of my own space and helping others. In the summer I help at Girls Rock Camp where we teach ages 7-17 how to play an instrument, form a band and write a song. Maybe where you live there are opportunities for this type of musical volunteering. Wishing you a beautiful, sober day.
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