STDragon

Nice weekend visit with my out of town Brother and Sister-in-law, more family secrets revealed by Dad. 5 years after Moms death, and we learn about how rough her start in life was and the shame she must've felt. No wonder we isolated to another country.

3trees

woo hoo!
on to day 15 tomorrow.

not gonna lie...there were some gut checks this weekend.
but...
i'm
not
going
to
drink
ever
again.

period.

awesome time in chicago. great (and cold) walk by lake michigan with a clear head and happy heart.

monday morning is gonna feel good!

g'night!

(cutest car ever, btw!)

venuscat

Awwww what a fantastic post 3trees!!! Go you!!
And thank you.

And goodnight most beautiful human people. ❤️

venuscat

(((Dragon))) ♥♥

teaorcoffee

Good Morning all. Spring is finally here. Looking forward to a good day.

MidnightBlue

Morning, weekenders.

Beautiful weather outside, though it's kind of irrelevant to me)

Congrats to everyone who made it through weekend sober.

I had a slight anxiety attack just before I fell asleep last night and didn't sleep well.

So, coffee.

STDragon

Good morning. 18 years ago today I quit smoking. Around the same time I stopped going out to drink (it was a smoking trigger). I wish I had quit drinking 18 years ago also.

MidnightBlue

Congrats on 18 of cigarettes-free, Dragon.

My ex used to smoke. And every time quitting came up, he rationalized it with terrific explanations like "I can quit, I just don't want to". And my favorite: "There is no enough scientific evidence that it's harmful for health".

He had PhD in engineering and was always sure that he is te smartest guy in the room.

Along with it he bugged me about my sport activities - "waste of time".

Gosh, sometimes I feel I would use him to practice my boxing and kickboxing skills.

Sorry.

Kudos to your for quitting, Dragon!

STDragon

MidnightBlue

Edit: MOST of time I feel like that

venuscat

Oh please don't be sorry....this just cracked me up. Aussie for very very funny.

Maybe you still have a photo of him? You could stick it on mannequin or a punching bag, he he he....

Oh Suze.....

saoutchik

I quit drinking for a month when I quit smoking and stopped drinking in pubs and bars for a month or two after that as you could still smoke in them in those days. This was before I became an alcoholic. Cigarettes are over £10 a packet now so it is a really expensive habit too.

MidnightBlue

I destroyed all his photos, Suze.

“Burn away, past !” “Burn, suffering !"

I wish I could erase it all from my memory.

Jokes aside, when we were in the process of splitting up, some woman tried to break into the apartment at night when I was alone. I got so scared I couldn't sleep for half a year.

Later on I told him that if anyone tries to pull a stunt like this again, I will break her nose and shove the keys down the throat. Because there is no way I will let anyone humiliate me like this any more.



I wonder, will I ever recover enough to get into the relationships again.

venuscat

(((Midnight))) ♥♥

Oh honey, yes, you will. Because there are some really really really good guys out there. Some of them are here.

I did not go through what you did, not at all, but I felt pretty certain that I was going to spend the rest of my life single.....stay a 'spinster' with complete glee. I loved it. And no way was I going to EVER live with a man let alone marry him unless I absolutely knew he was my person.

We are STRONG women.....when you meet a guy who can really deal with that, a guy who respects you for exactly who you are, you may feel safe enough to put your foot back in the water. I know I am glad I did.

Love you.

All of you.....

And well done Sao and Dragon and all who quit smoking. I did not. Well I did for a while after I got sober....30 bucks for a pack of 25 in Aus now so I couldn't afford them anyway....here they are cheap and I can get far milder cigs. I know it's insane, I have asthma. But I enjoy it so very much.

No excuses Midnight....I know how bad it is. ♥

trachemys

One of the smarter things I've done is quit smoking and take up vaping.

MidnightBlue

Just finishes some brain-sucking work and need an emotional solace.

I think of watching some Nate Diaz fights to put me in better mood .

And tea.

teaorcoffee

Today has been busy and productive.
Lot's of exercise in the mix as well. The downside being so busy I missed lunch, which is not a good idea for me.
Need to plan that piece a little.
MB - it sounds like you have turned things around magnificently. Knowing what you are not willing to give up is incredibly important, but as VC says, you are a different person now. You'll most probably find you attract a different type of guy.

MidnightBlue

Teaorcoffee, meal planning is a game changer.

I usually allocate about 2 hours on Sunday to prepare meals for the week.

Saves a lot of trouble and headache.

And you are so right. I am a different person. Or rather as closer to myself as never before.

And I am sure the Universe keeps a nice guy for me in store)

MidnightBlue

And we are having the first rain this spring and, I think I've heard some thunder roaring!

Yeees!

teaorcoffee

We've had pleniy of raín in with the sun. One of the.smaller local rivers has already broken it's banks.
Looks like sunshine.today though. Bring it on