Back to the Lab
Boxer
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Tampa, Florida
Posts: 151
Back to the Lab
Well, thought after passing a number of major landmarks and having almost 8 months sober and losing 30 pounds I had it nailed.
My sister attempted suicide, I was in a serious car accident (several other things as well) and remained sober.
My son (who is my heart) moved to the other side of the country for a job opportunity he couldn’t and shouldn’t refuse last month and that ignited a craving I thought was long gone and I caved. I didn’t drink every night but certainly still have a hollow leg.
I post this for accountability I know the next question will be “what will you do differently this time?” and posting here is one of those things.
I really didn’t think his moving would have the effect on me that it did but here I am. I am also checking for A.A. meetings in my area. I really don’t want to go but if I don’t change anything, nothing changes. Maybe I got cocky, another lesson learned. Getting back to the gym will help too.
Thanks for reading, I’m a long time lurker (occasional commenter), appreciate this site and everyone here.
My sister attempted suicide, I was in a serious car accident (several other things as well) and remained sober.
My son (who is my heart) moved to the other side of the country for a job opportunity he couldn’t and shouldn’t refuse last month and that ignited a craving I thought was long gone and I caved. I didn’t drink every night but certainly still have a hollow leg.
I post this for accountability I know the next question will be “what will you do differently this time?” and posting here is one of those things.
I really didn’t think his moving would have the effect on me that it did but here I am. I am also checking for A.A. meetings in my area. I really don’t want to go but if I don’t change anything, nothing changes. Maybe I got cocky, another lesson learned. Getting back to the gym will help too.
Thanks for reading, I’m a long time lurker (occasional commenter), appreciate this site and everyone here.
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Join Date: Apr 2016
Location: UK
Posts: 4,553
I'm glad you're back too!
Wow I'm 8 months sober and it's posts like yours that keep my fear of relapse alive and remind me that this thing is damned patient so thank you for being brave.
Maybe now is the time to lurk less and post more?
I made myself a promise to post at least once every day and to always be totally honest. I still do and honestly it is so helpful.
Welcome back and I look forward to seeing more of you around xxx
Wow I'm 8 months sober and it's posts like yours that keep my fear of relapse alive and remind me that this thing is damned patient so thank you for being brave.
Maybe now is the time to lurk less and post more?
I made myself a promise to post at least once every day and to always be totally honest. I still do and honestly it is so helpful.
Welcome back and I look forward to seeing more of you around xxx
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Join Date: Jul 2017
Posts: 3,027
what if drinking weren't an option, no matter what?
Cravings really only gain traction if we have left drinking on the table as an option.
Grief will happen. Intense worry will happen. Regret. Pain. Guilt. Boredom. Sadness. Anger.
These are normal human emotions. when they happen again, what do you do if drinking is completely off the table?
So when your brain goes there, you immediately shut it down, because it's not possible. What then?
This is how you cope moving forward. You CAN cope. Remove the option of drinking, and you will find ways to soothe yourself.
Cravings really only gain traction if we have left drinking on the table as an option.
Grief will happen. Intense worry will happen. Regret. Pain. Guilt. Boredom. Sadness. Anger.
These are normal human emotions. when they happen again, what do you do if drinking is completely off the table?
So when your brain goes there, you immediately shut it down, because it's not possible. What then?
This is how you cope moving forward. You CAN cope. Remove the option of drinking, and you will find ways to soothe yourself.
Boxer
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Tampa, Florida
Posts: 151
Originally Posted by joandmelandhan 
I'm glad you're back too!
Wow I'm 8 months sober and it's posts like yours that keep my fear of relapse alive and remind me that this thing is damned patient so thank you for being brave.
Maybe now is the time to lurk less and post more?
I made myself a promise to post at least once every day and to always be totally honest. I still do and honestly it is so helpful.
Welcome back and I look forward to seeing more of you around xxx
Wow I'm 8 months sober and it's posts like yours that keep my fear of relapse alive and remind me that this thing is damned patient so thank you for being brave.
Maybe now is the time to lurk less and post more?
I made myself a promise to post at least once every day and to always be totally honest. I still do and honestly it is so helpful.
Welcome back and I look forward to seeing more of you around xxx
Boxer
Thread Starter
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Tampa, Florida
Posts: 151
Originally Posted by Stayingsassy
what if drinking weren't an option, no matter what?
Cravings really only gain traction if we have left drinking on the table as an option.
Grief will happen. Intense worry will happen. Regret. Pain. Guilt. Boredom. Sadness. Anger.
These are normal human emotions. when they happen again, what do you do if drinking is completely off the table?
So when your brain goes there, you immediately shut it down, because it's not possible. What then?
This is how you cope moving forward. You CAN cope. Remove the option of drinking, and you will find ways to soothe yourself.
Cravings really only gain traction if we have left drinking on the table as an option.
Grief will happen. Intense worry will happen. Regret. Pain. Guilt. Boredom. Sadness. Anger.
These are normal human emotions. when they happen again, what do you do if drinking is completely off the table?
So when your brain goes there, you immediately shut it down, because it's not possible. What then?
This is how you cope moving forward. You CAN cope. Remove the option of drinking, and you will find ways to soothe yourself.
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Join Date: Mar 2018
Location: Australia
Posts: 55
Thanks for the post Boxer, I'm new to sobriety, I'm only a couple of weeks in, but seeing these sort of posts help to instil the fact that I can never be complacent as the weeks turn into to months and then turn into years.
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Join Date: Jun 2017
Posts: 1,276
Glad you came back😊 I had some significant sober time before and started drinking. It took almost two years to get stopped again. I’m now at nearly eight months. This time I posted a lot to SR in the first few months. Maybe you can try that too. I also think it’s a good plan giving AA a proper go. Do whatever you can because this is such a crucial time if you want to get your sobriety back. Best of luck!
Boxer
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Tampa, Florida
Posts: 151
Originally Posted by Stronger2017
Glad you came back😊 I had some significant sober time before and started drinking. It took almost two years to get stopped again. I’m now at nearly eight months. This time I posted a lot to SR in the first few months. Maybe you can try that too. I also think it’s a good plan giving AA a proper go. Do whatever you can because this is such a crucial time if you want to get your sobriety back. Best of luck!
A Day at a Time
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Grand Rapids MI
Posts: 6,435
Alcoholism is a chronic condition. We will have it until the day we die and the best case scenario is we can keep it in remission. For myself I know I’m more than capable of drinking again so I do what I need to do on a daily basis to stay sober.
For me AA worked and continues to work as long as I’m willing to work an active program of recovery.
For me AA worked and continues to work as long as I’m willing to work an active program of recovery.
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