5 months trying to quit
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Welcome back Gerstner 
You posted in our chat admin forum which is not the chat room, so I moved your post here for more response
Posting here regularly, daily, really helped me break that cycle of a few days off and then back into it.
Its worth a try, surely?
what else have you been doing to try and stay sober?
btw the chat room portal is here:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/achat.php
You posted in our chat admin forum which is not the chat room, so I moved your post here for more response
Posting here regularly, daily, really helped me break that cycle of a few days off and then back into it.
Its worth a try, surely?
what else have you been doing to try and stay sober?
btw the chat room portal is here:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/achat.php
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 6,902
Well, just staying sober is 'abstaining'. It's not really working on your recovery. The Recovery work (for me and many like me) is what helped me to start learning to live life on life's terms without the need for alcohol. At first it meant that I was able to sustain my sobriety. Then later, as I worked more on it and developed new skills and attitudes for living, it meant that sobriety became comfortable. Now, further down the line I can honestly say that I'm LIVING sober, and actually sobriety is preferable to me than my old drinking life.
To a degree our expectations can make life harder for us. I was sorely disappointed to find that just eating well, exercising and abstaining from alcohol didn't leave me feeling great. At a month sober I felt very very far from great. Those first few months are tough! Thing is, when we know and accept that s likely to be the case, we are more likely to be able to accept it and carry on rather than just presuming life will always be **** without alcohol, or we much be doing it 1sl, wrong and having a drink anyway.
Anyway. I would suggest climbing back on and getting back to your quest for sobriety. Just bring along some new, more realistic expectations for the first few months, and a willingness to add more to your recovery work. Healthy eating and exercise are fine and dandy, but theyre just what we should be doing anyway. They are not 'working on our recovery'.
Have you considered trying AA or other local support groups?
BB
To a degree our expectations can make life harder for us. I was sorely disappointed to find that just eating well, exercising and abstaining from alcohol didn't leave me feeling great. At a month sober I felt very very far from great. Those first few months are tough! Thing is, when we know and accept that s likely to be the case, we are more likely to be able to accept it and carry on rather than just presuming life will always be **** without alcohol, or we much be doing it 1sl, wrong and having a drink anyway.
Anyway. I would suggest climbing back on and getting back to your quest for sobriety. Just bring along some new, more realistic expectations for the first few months, and a willingness to add more to your recovery work. Healthy eating and exercise are fine and dandy, but theyre just what we should be doing anyway. They are not 'working on our recovery'.
Have you considered trying AA or other local support groups?
BB
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Join Date: Aug 2003
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Welcome, Gerstner!
I think that after the first few days, you probably start to feel a bit better and lose some of your motivation. It helped me to write down my motives and to make a plan for recovery.
I think that after the first few days, you probably start to feel a bit better and lose some of your motivation. It helped me to write down my motives and to make a plan for recovery.
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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expect the discomfort of quitting and lean into it
it will lesson with time, and the cravings do pass
start engaging in activities and things that aren't related to drinking
get therapy / support to deal with underlying issues that trigger the drinking
realize you do have agency and control over picking up a drink or not
it isn't anyone's fault, and no matter where you come from,
your future path is chosen by you
it will lesson with time, and the cravings do pass
start engaging in activities and things that aren't related to drinking
get therapy / support to deal with underlying issues that trigger the drinking
realize you do have agency and control over picking up a drink or not
it isn't anyone's fault, and no matter where you come from,
your future path is chosen by you
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