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Old 04-08-2018, 05:17 AM
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Hello to day 1. Unfortunately it has happened too many times.

I got to 11 days in march...which for me, is sadly incredible. And I learned a big lesson...I cannot have a healthy relationship with alcohol.

It needs to be none and done. 2 kids. Stay at home mom ... drinking has gotten out of control

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Dumping it now
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Old 04-08-2018, 05:42 AM
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Hi Bumblebee, it’s easy to let it get control. For me stopping was the only way to be in control, and it really has given me my life back.

Little steps climb big nountains xx
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Old 04-08-2018, 07:09 AM
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Hi Bumblebee,

I can totally relate ...being a mum as well..
Alcohol totally took over my life ..thought of it morning noon & night ..when could
I get my next drink.
Along thinking I was a functioning alcoholic...mother ... wife...
In reality I wasn't even functioning ... I had to hit rock bottom ..which I'm actually
Greatful happened ...
It s been a real battle .. but slowly each day is slightly better... & home life without
The poison is without a doubt 100 percent better.
Stay close ..to SR it's been my life line.
So many kind ...thoughtful people here......Seriously I've made it to 44 days
Good Luck & keep posting xx
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Old 04-08-2018, 08:12 AM
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Welcome back Bumblebee. Have you given any thought about what you might do differently this time? Perhaps trying something different like meetings or counseling or some other self support/help method? There's lots of support here from people who have done it a lot of different ways.
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Old 04-08-2018, 08:23 AM
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Originally Posted by Bumblebee2 View Post
Hello to day 1. Unfortunately it has happened too many times.

I got to 11 days in march...which for me, is sadly incredible. And I learned a big lesson...I cannot have a healthy relationship with alcohol.

It needs to be none and done. 2 kids. Stay at home mom ... drinking has gotten out of control

Posting for accountability
Ready for change
Want to be happy
Dumping it now

Addiction is a symptom of something else that is wrong in our lives. We can't get addicted to a substance unless it does something for us. Their is always a reason and a reward.

It is difficult to quit, unless you find alternative ways to address loneliness, boredom, anxiety, hormone shifts, pain, and so on. You’ve been using alcohol to avoid fixing these underlying conditions so now you either address them or you will inevitably go back to drinking.

When your values trump your addiction, there is no addiction!
Good luck in your self discovery. I'm sure you would be a better mother and my guess is you would agree. You can do it if it is important enough for you. I'm praying for you. 2 Corinthians 5:17
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Old 04-08-2018, 10:13 AM
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Old 04-08-2018, 02:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Bumblebee2 View Post
Unfortunately it has happened too many times.

I got to 11 days in march...which for me, is sadly incredible.
The past is the past. Let it be. Let it go. You are not your past.

And I learned a big lesson...I cannot have a healthy relationship with alcohol.
Great! Simply getting to the point of recognition and out of the cloud of denial is a big deal.

Get some rest and come back around - stick close for a few days while you get your bearings. 3-4?

Be well-

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Old 04-08-2018, 04:16 PM
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Old 04-08-2018, 06:43 PM
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Don’t give up. Just have to keep trying and adding things to your recovery plan.
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Old 04-08-2018, 07:18 PM
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Hi Bumblebee. Though it took me years to get there, accepting that I'd never have a normal relationship with alcohol was pivotal.
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Old 04-08-2018, 07:36 PM
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Hi BBee,

We are glad you are back. I too was a drinking mom/wife, stopping, starting, stopping again, thinking I was "not that bad" and could drink again. Of course that never worked! It was a vicious cycle that every one of us here can tell you about. I wasted years.

Finally, what made me turn the corner, was realizing it's so much easier to just take it off the table as an option. No arguing, rationalizing, bargaining. No wishing, missing, oh poor me. Don't buy it, don't touch it, don't swallow it... 11 days, then 22, and the more your mind and body heals, the easier it will get.

Hang in there. You can do this.
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