404Notfound

It's a little odd. I wouldn't say that I want to go out and drink...but I feel like I want to go out and socialize.

I have a pretty large group of social acquaintances I generally run into over the course of the weekend while hopping around. And even though I'm not craving a drink, I'm not overly excited about missing out on catching up and meeting new people.

The problem, of course, is that these interactions all take place in bars and clubs and the like...so it is what it is.

I already know, that if I go out, even with the best of intentions to not drink...it will be person after person asking me where my drink is (because, hey...you always have a drink in your hand), and then it'll be magically appearing shots and drinks...and the next thing you know it's the next morning and here we are again.

I'd like to be able to say I could brush off the peer pressure, and maybe that's true for awhile, but not all night, and not on day 2. I guess I know myself well enough to know that.

So I'll stay in tonight and probably shut my phone off. Amazing how temptation and social pressure can reach us no matter where we are now. The double edge sword of technology.

Have a good weekend all, stay strong.

NoBones

Good idea. Stay at home.

Nonsensical

m e e t u p . c o m

Its packed with things to do that do not involve drinking.

Dee74

welcome 404Notfound

I found I had this idea that I could go out - which in my mind meant bars - and be miserable, or stay home and be miserable there.

After a few weekends I worked out there's a million things I could do on a weekend that didn't require me to be around alcohol or go to a bar.

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ething-do.html (Looking For Something To Do?)

Don't get me wring - early on, staying home is the safest place to be - but you don't have to live the rest of your life sitting at home either

Recovery is for living - but it requires a new life and a new way of living and having fun.

D

bluedog97

I used to be addicted to going out too, not just because I could get drunk. The music, the lights, the crowd, etc. all kept me coming back. Some call it FOMO - fear of missing out. It goes hand in hand with a lot of alcoholics.

Im still early in sobriety and avoid all that now, at least until I get more comfortable in my own sober skin. For me it’s about rewiring my brain and learning new activities that don’t require drinking.

Onmyhighway

I can relate. I have several friends that I would enjoy going see and hang out but can tell without a shadow of a doubt that I will not be sober when I leave. I am still trying to feel things out and see what I can handle for the time being and what I can't. Great job on keeping away and knowing what your limitations are. Good luck and look forward to reading your progress.

daredevil

404Notfound,

Staying in during the early days sounds like a good plan.
Cool moniker by the way.

You can always rely on Dee to drop some pearls of wisdom!

least

Best to stay home, away from temptation, in the early days. Once you've developed some sober muscles, it will be easier.

Berrybean

Or maybe go to some AA meetings. Gradually get to know others in your situation who could be people to get together with for weekend activities and socialising that don't revolve around beer.

Also, it's worth taking your phone to the local library and taking photos of events, clubs etc happening in your area that are worth considering. In the longer term, maybe consider volunteering in a role working with something you're interested in (there will be others there with similar interests) or just supporting your community events to get yourself out and about. Marshalling at local sports events (longer distance runs in particular) means that more people involved in the sport get to run for example. I never appreciate my sofa and a takeaway more on a Saturday evening than when I've been busy out and about during the day.
We have to start thinking outside of the usual old box when we get sober.

BB