Feel like death
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
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(((((Stewy)))))
Your ex has moved on and so should you. If I recall, there were problems in the relationship that just couldn't be worked out. Relationship breakups happen to the vast majority of us . We have to get through it and move on.
I am truly very sorry that you are hurting. There is a good life to be lived ahead of you; stay on the path and keep moving forward.
Your ex has moved on and so should you. If I recall, there were problems in the relationship that just couldn't be worked out. Relationship breakups happen to the vast majority of us . We have to get through it and move on.
I am truly very sorry that you are hurting. There is a good life to be lived ahead of you; stay on the path and keep moving forward.
Friendly Folk
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
Posts: 21,718
I know it hurts but, you have to push through it and trust that it is for the best. Things happen for good reasons. It is time to let go and begin a new chapter in your life. This is a challenge so stay sober because you need to face it with a clear, rational mind. This is an opportunity to really show yourself just how powerful you are.
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: northern michigan. not the U.P.
Posts: 15,281
stewy, here is a thread from a few years ago from an SR friend:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ing-peace.html (Praying for peace)
he went THROUGH it all without drinking.
here is a thread from him today:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...w-friends.html (Just a check in for old and new friends)
if you want to get out from under, youre going to have to follow in the footsteps of those that got out from under. this doing it your way and on your own isnt working very good,dont you think?
ill even put myself into it
my fiance tossed me to the curb the day after my last drunk.
it hurt, but i survived and thrived because i got into action. i didnt do it my way. didnt do it on my own. my way and on my own got me drunk every time, just as what is occurring for you.
i had help from from the program and fellowship of AA.
hoping, once again, you decide to get into action with a recovery program. it;ll be well worth it and well worth going THROUGH the crap.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ing-peace.html (Praying for peace)
he went THROUGH it all without drinking.
here is a thread from him today:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...w-friends.html (Just a check in for old and new friends)
if you want to get out from under, youre going to have to follow in the footsteps of those that got out from under. this doing it your way and on your own isnt working very good,dont you think?
ill even put myself into it
my fiance tossed me to the curb the day after my last drunk.
it hurt, but i survived and thrived because i got into action. i didnt do it my way. didnt do it on my own. my way and on my own got me drunk every time, just as what is occurring for you.
i had help from from the program and fellowship of AA.
hoping, once again, you decide to get into action with a recovery program. it;ll be well worth it and well worth going THROUGH the crap.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,443
Stewy forgive the pun....but it's time to stop stewing.
No amount of thinking wishing or hoping is goign to turn the clock back - and if you're really honest the relationship was not that great anyway by the end.
I know it hurts and it's hard to move on but I'd hate you to miss your todays cos you're stuck looking back at yesterday.
This won't be your last ever relationship I'm confident of that.
But theres other relationships you need to focus on now - chiefly the one with yourself, but also the relationship with your daughter and your parents..
Wallowing in self pity does you no service Stew - you need to get busy living, man.
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No amount of thinking wishing or hoping is goign to turn the clock back - and if you're really honest the relationship was not that great anyway by the end.
I know it hurts and it's hard to move on but I'd hate you to miss your todays cos you're stuck looking back at yesterday.
This won't be your last ever relationship I'm confident of that.
But theres other relationships you need to focus on now - chiefly the one with yourself, but also the relationship with your daughter and your parents..
Wallowing in self pity does you no service Stew - you need to get busy living, man.
D
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Join Date: Apr 2016
Location: UK
Posts: 4,553
Stewy please do not pick up a drink tonight. You have fought tooth and nail for your 11 bloody hard earned days. This is the hardest part Stewy. Feeling the pain and learning new ways of coping. It feels raw I know. Escaping to a bottle is not a strategy. That is gone now.
I hope you get yourself off to bed and can wake up to the freedom of day 12 tomorrow. Take care xxx
I hope you get yourself off to bed and can wake up to the freedom of day 12 tomorrow. Take care xxx
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