Weekender Apr 5 -9 2018
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Weekender Apr 5 -9 2018
Its nearly over but Happy Passover to all my SR friends who celebrate it 
I've been thinking about identity this week.
As part of a new scheme I have to jump through a few hoops to prove my disability - yet again.
It's a pain in the butt but no big deal for all that
Thankfully noones asked me to prove my alcoholic credentials
- but I'm reminded of the fact that I quit drinking this week 11 years ago,
I am all those things - and more.
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
I'm happy with who I am and where I'm going.
Can we ask for any better?
D
I've been thinking about identity this week.
As part of a new scheme I have to jump through a few hoops to prove my disability - yet again.
It's a pain in the butt but no big deal for all that
Thankfully noones asked me to prove my alcoholic credentials
- but I'm reminded of the fact that I quit drinking this week 11 years ago,I am all those things - and more.
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
I'm happy with who I am and where I'm going.
Can we ask for any better?
D
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
I'm happy with who I am and where I'm going.
Can we ask for any better?
D
No, I think that’s the best place to be.
I have a tendency to regret my past constantly, even though I’m honestly much different now.
But I’ve begun to see that I gained real wisdom from those past debacles—in fact, had I not suffered them, I could not have become my new, wiser self.
I like your observation that we are a blend of our past and present selves, with heavy emphasis on the value we gained from the work we did to improve.
Becoming fully actualized in the here and now has given us the opportunity to reach our full potential—to become “who we should have been.”
I’m so grateful to have been given a second chance at life.
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I know I'm still a work in progress. I am completely different from the person I was. I find it easier to be outgoing, in fact I dislike being in the shadows, which was my favourite place prior. I've gone from being a weekend athelete (Running, which again is easy to make a solitary sport) to an (almost) full time strummer. Heck I'm even singing out loud.
I have to sing a song this weekend in front of the ukulele class, and I'm really looking forward to it. Something I would have never ever drempt of doing before.
Yes a big part of me is still the guy from the past but so much more good is comming thru since I shed my alcoholic shell.....
I have to sing a song this weekend in front of the ukulele class, and I'm really looking forward to it. Something I would have never ever drempt of doing before.
Yes a big part of me is still the guy from the past but so much more good is comming thru since I shed my alcoholic shell.....
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VICE STOTGUN!
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
I feel very similar, while I was a slave to alcohol I had little personality and no life, all I ever did was think about the next opportunity to drink.
5th April is the day that Spring arrived in London
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
I feel very similar, while I was a slave to alcohol I had little personality and no life, all I ever did was think about the next opportunity to drink.
5th April is the day that Spring arrived in London
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Join Date: Mar 2016
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Trach it does stick out doesnt it
and vice shotgun. enventhough thats just not fair Dragon !
And i'm glad to have a vice stotgun Sao
We will go stotgunning together over the next few days.
They are forecasting a magnificently nice bright weekend.
After a long winter its like waking up from hibernation when you get a few nice days with blue sky....
and vice shotgun. enventhough thats just not fair Dragon !
And i'm glad to have a vice stotgun Sao
We will go stotgunning together over the next few days.
They are forecasting a magnificently nice bright weekend.
After a long winter its like waking up from hibernation when you get a few nice days with blue sky....
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Thanks, Dee. Congrats on all you have become.
I figure I'll grow up someday. In the meantime I try not to let myself spend too much time on negative parts of the past but to be in this moment as much as possible. In this moment all is well and I am safe.
As long as no one shoots one of those stotguns. Maybe it's a cross between a regular shotgun and a stun gun?
I figure I'll grow up someday. In the meantime I try not to let myself spend too much time on negative parts of the past but to be in this moment as much as possible. In this moment all is well and I am safe.
As long as no one shoots one of those stotguns. Maybe it's a cross between a regular shotgun and a stun gun?
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Originally Posted by Dee74
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
For me I gotta change 'should' to 'could'. A minor semantics change, maybe, but I've got a lot of 40-day periods of sobriety thinking about all my shoulds (followed by a face-planting binge) that it's become important for me to think about my coulds.
I've been working on not being such a should-head.
Regardless, I feel you Brother Dee.
IN today
IN tomorrow
IN for life
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Many thanks Dee.
In for the weekend.
Just getting back on my feet after a holiday that didn't go so well. I didn't drink while away but opened wine the minute I got home. I was in a state of terror by the end of the journey (flying phobia) and just reached for the 'relief'. I knew exactly what I was doing and the price I would pay but I chose to do it anyway.
But I'm back and on day 4 sober. I have worked out that I have been sober 290 days out of the last 300. I didn't believe that was remotely possible a year ago. But these 'slips' and falls are not what I want. I want to be able to say, like you Dee, that I am over a decade sober. I want to be able to say and believe that I will never drink again. I have learnt a lot about this
addiction of mine but I still have some growing up to do. I also have to deal with my fear differently. I don't expect to become fearless but I would love to stop being so scared of life.
Hope everyone has a joyful and safe weekend.
In for the weekend.
Just getting back on my feet after a holiday that didn't go so well. I didn't drink while away but opened wine the minute I got home. I was in a state of terror by the end of the journey (flying phobia) and just reached for the 'relief'. I knew exactly what I was doing and the price I would pay but I chose to do it anyway.
But I'm back and on day 4 sober. I have worked out that I have been sober 290 days out of the last 300. I didn't believe that was remotely possible a year ago. But these 'slips' and falls are not what I want. I want to be able to say, like you Dee, that I am over a decade sober. I want to be able to say and believe that I will never drink again. I have learnt a lot about this
addiction of mine but I still have some growing up to do. I also have to deal with my fear differently. I don't expect to become fearless but I would love to stop being so scared of life.
Hope everyone has a joyful and safe weekend.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Its nearly over but Happy Passover to all my SR friends who celebrate it
I've been thinking about identity this week.
As part of a new scheme I have to jump through a few hoops to prove my disability - yet again.
It's a pain in the butt but no big deal for all that
Thankfully noones asked me to prove my alcoholic credentials - but I'm reminded of the fact that I quit drinking this week 11 years ago,
I am all those things - and more.
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
I'm happy with who I am and where I'm going.
Can we ask for any better?
D
I've been thinking about identity this week.
As part of a new scheme I have to jump through a few hoops to prove my disability - yet again.
It's a pain in the butt but no big deal for all that
Thankfully noones asked me to prove my alcoholic credentials
- but I'm reminded of the fact that I quit drinking this week 11 years ago,I am all those things - and more.
One of the best parts of recovery for me is becoming who I always should have been - a little of the old me, a little of what it took for me to get here, and a little of the person I've become.
I'm happy with who I am and where I'm going.
Can we ask for any better?
D
And as one of your Jewish friends ~ thank you.
♥I am not happy with who I am right now.
Not at all.
Too much change has left me unable to find the peace I long for and I am raging. I don't like this.
I need to change this....thinking that the sun out will help....I need to walk....I need to breathe in fresh air and listen to the birds....
Just being honest.
Love and welcome to the new guys.....
Onto the weekend....another sober one.....it never gets old.
♥
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Originally Posted by DarklingSong
Many thanks Dee.
In for the weekend.
Just getting back on my feet after a holiday that didn't go so well. I didn't drink while away but opened wine the minute I got home. I was in a state of terror by the end of the journey (flying phobia) and just reached for the 'relief'. I knew exactly what I was doing and the price I would pay but I chose to do it anyway.
But I'm back and on day 4 sober. I have worked out that I have been sober 290 days out of the last 300. I didn't believe that was remotely possible a year ago. But these 'slips' and falls are not what I want. I want to be able to say, like you Dee, that I am over a decade sober. I want to be able to say and believe that I will never drink again. I have learnt a lot about this
addiction of mine but I still have some growing up to do. I also have to deal with my fear differently. I don't expect to become fearless but I would love to stop being so scared of life.
Hope everyone has a joyful and safe weekend.
In for the weekend.
Just getting back on my feet after a holiday that didn't go so well. I didn't drink while away but opened wine the minute I got home. I was in a state of terror by the end of the journey (flying phobia) and just reached for the 'relief'. I knew exactly what I was doing and the price I would pay but I chose to do it anyway.
But I'm back and on day 4 sober. I have worked out that I have been sober 290 days out of the last 300. I didn't believe that was remotely possible a year ago. But these 'slips' and falls are not what I want. I want to be able to say, like you Dee, that I am over a decade sober. I want to be able to say and believe that I will never drink again. I have learnt a lot about this
addiction of mine but I still have some growing up to do. I also have to deal with my fear differently. I don't expect to become fearless but I would love to stop being so scared of life.
Hope everyone has a joyful and safe weekend.
So much love. That is a lot of sober days love.... a LOT.
Onward together my friend.
♥
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