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Originally Posted by Horn95 
Giving that bitch $2 million makes me want to ******* kill someone.
try as ya may, it isnt a drink worthy event. what is prolly happenin with the thoughts is the old way of running to a drink when the going gets rough.
today, you have the choice to not allow THOSE thoughts control your actions- you have the choice to do the next right thing.
murder isnt the next right thing.
understandable,though. but THATS progress!
homocide is progress over suicide!
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Join Date: Feb 2016
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As a lawyer, you know the right thing to do.
1. Don't drink.
2. Protect assets.
3. File dissolution pleadings.
4. Don't drink.
5. Use this as a great opportunity to start fresh.
6. Enjoy being single for a while, don't rush into a new relationship yet.
7. The right person will come along, but work on yourself first.
8. DON'T DRINK.
1. Don't drink.
2. Protect assets.
3. File dissolution pleadings.
4. Don't drink.
5. Use this as a great opportunity to start fresh.
6. Enjoy being single for a while, don't rush into a new relationship yet.
7. The right person will come along, but work on yourself first.
8. DON'T DRINK.
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Location: middle of nowhere
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tomsteve - oh gosh. that made me smile. haha. Sorry Horn, I don't mean to laugh but really, a bit of levity right now won't hurt.
Ok going to a meeting is a forward thinking action- what can you do right now? Reach out to a member, or sponsor, or crack the big book, just keep posting.
Make some short term plans like tomsteve says but if you can't, get through the moments and blow the steam out in the healthiest ways possible you can find.
Ok going to a meeting is a forward thinking action- what can you do right now? Reach out to a member, or sponsor, or crack the big book, just keep posting.
Make some short term plans like tomsteve says but if you can't, get through the moments and blow the steam out in the healthiest ways possible you can find.
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles
As a lawyer, you know the right thing to do.
1. Don't drink.
2. Protect assets.
3. File dissolution pleadings.
4. Don't drink.
5. Use this as a great opportunity to start fresh.
6. Enjoy being single for a while, don't rush into a new relationship yet.
7. The right person will come along, but work on yourself first.
8. DON'T DRINK.
1. Don't drink.
2. Protect assets.
3. File dissolution pleadings.
4. Don't drink.
5. Use this as a great opportunity to start fresh.
6. Enjoy being single for a while, don't rush into a new relationship yet.
7. The right person will come along, but work on yourself first.
8. DON'T DRINK.
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: northern michigan. not the U.P.
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Originally Posted by Horn95
Pretty much. I’m ****** in any direction.
you are NOT ****** unless you allow yourself to be ******.
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I thought I was that way once too. I lost all the things I worked hard for. Walked away with my 3 yr old, a very broken family, utterly financially ruined, and a crappy van and a bag of clothes.
It gets better. (that is the choice part)
Staying sober through the worst of the worst- that is some pretty amazing strength. You WILL get through this. Like tom said. Be mad and hurt now, but you don't have to choose to stay there.
It gets better. (that is the choice part)
Staying sober through the worst of the worst- that is some pretty amazing strength. You WILL get through this. Like tom said. Be mad and hurt now, but you don't have to choose to stay there.
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I am so tremendously sorry, Horn: sorry for your pain, sorry for the betrayal, sorry that you would have to give that woman one thin dime, and really very sorry about the amount. It’s an outrage.
I’m sorry that you are not able to celebrate properly such a huge triumph as that deal was.
Are you sure you can’t put it anywhere to prevent her from getting it?
I’m sorry that you are not able to celebrate properly such a huge triumph as that deal was.
Are you sure you can’t put it anywhere to prevent her from getting it?
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Originally Posted by Horn95
Yeah, you’re right. But I am at the “fu** it” stage right now. And I am numb. I have no idea what I will do when reality sets in. And oh by the way, I am about to lose a fu** Ton of money. I didn’t get a prenup and a deal I have been working on is about to yield literally $4-$5 million dollars TO ME!!
And I am going to have to give that fu**ing bit$$ half.
And I am going to have to give that fu**ing bit$$ half.
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Q: why is divorce so expensive?
A: because it’s worth it!
Sorry, Horn. My husband has to pay his ex wife for life. He will be retired by the govt in three years, so guess who gets to pay? Yeah, it’ll eat you up if you let it, so don’t let it. Go punch a punching bag or something, but keep working on making yourself better for the good things that await!
And I like Rar’s question. Maybe push the divorce thru faster due to infidelity?
A: because it’s worth it!
Sorry, Horn. My husband has to pay his ex wife for life. He will be retired by the govt in three years, so guess who gets to pay? Yeah, it’ll eat you up if you let it, so don’t let it. Go punch a punching bag or something, but keep working on making yourself better for the good things that await!
And I like Rar’s question. Maybe push the divorce thru faster due to infidelity?
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Originally Posted by Rar
I'm not sure, but I think the length of the marriage and her contribution to the marriage has an effect on the distribution of marital assets.
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But, the money comes in after dissolution was finalized.
He has to make sure the settlement is not realized until after dissolution is finalized. She can take him to court in separate action if she feels she is entitled to a portion of the settlement. Until then, it's speculative. For all Horn knows, the deal will fall apart, or it could backfire and he could be on the hook for attorneys fees, for which she would also be responsible, so it goes both ways.
He has to make sure the settlement is not realized until after dissolution is finalized. She can take him to court in separate action if she feels she is entitled to a portion of the settlement. Until then, it's speculative. For all Horn knows, the deal will fall apart, or it could backfire and he could be on the hook for attorneys fees, for which she would also be responsible, so it goes both ways.
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Hi Horn
I'm sorry.
I had a long term relationship end with an affair by my partner too.
I was so angry and so hurt and so mad at myself I drank hard - really hard.
So hard I still don't remember any but brief flashes of the next 18 months. It was like I wanted to finish myself off. I still don;t know how I made it out alive.
the years I can remember after that are even worse.
I ended up in a little 3 roomed place drinking from wake up to pass out and I became that guy that mothers shoo there kids across the road to avoid.
I understand the eff its, I understand the anger I understand the fear and I understand the focus on money here in the thread - but there are more important things to lose I think.
Don't lose yourself man - stay with us.
D
I'm sorry.
I had a long term relationship end with an affair by my partner too.
I was so angry and so hurt and so mad at myself I drank hard - really hard.
So hard I still don't remember any but brief flashes of the next 18 months. It was like I wanted to finish myself off. I still don;t know how I made it out alive.
the years I can remember after that are even worse.
I ended up in a little 3 roomed place drinking from wake up to pass out and I became that guy that mothers shoo there kids across the road to avoid.
I understand the eff its, I understand the anger I understand the fear and I understand the focus on money here in the thread - but there are more important things to lose I think.
Don't lose yourself man - stay with us.
D
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