JunkyTrainwreck

Just found out I'm pregnant. Haven't been able to stay sober longer than 3-4-5 months in my life. Much less 9.

To say I'm terrified is an understatement.

I feel like I'm having a heart attack.

teaorcoffee

You are sober now.
Don't overthink it, just focus right now on staying sober today.

Dee74

I think teaorcoffee is right JT - whatever is happening all we can do is live our lives one day at a time. That goes for recovery too.

You can get and stay sober and you can be a great mom to this little one.

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time2shineagain

You CAN do this. One day at a time. Keep your mind in the present and stay close to this forum. Some face-to-face support may help as well?

DangerZone

Don't worry about staying clean for 9-months just worry about staying clean today. Keep that attitude and you'll be at 9-months before you know it.

Dropsie

You can do this, and be a great mom.

My children were my great motivators.

You got this.

Rar

You can do this! As others have said, "Stay close to SR". Read the threads and post when you need or want to. You are not alone. SR can help. One day at a time.

Vandermast

might just save your life.

you can do this

listen to those who care for you on here.

we can stay sober together, for we are legion.

Zanna

Hey sweetheart - the pregnancy hormones will kick in and trust me, they are a better high than anything you ever drank
Congratulations babe - like others have said ' don't overthink it' but do be aware.
You'll be an excellent Mum - youre already (without even knowing it) reaching out to protect your baby xxx

eyes99

You can do this!!! I was terrified too, but it turned out to be easier than I expected. Focus on the baby, and not the fact that you can’t drink. Think about all of the changes that are happening everyday and how fast and incredibly cool that is - you can grow a person! That worked for me. And when I allowed myself to be happy and amazed about it, it was easier not to drink. When I got down or scared (and I had a tough pregnancy, lots to be scared about), and the happy feelings wouldn’t come, I just thought about having to take care of a child with severe developmental problems for the rest of its life al due to my choices, and that scared me straight. Terrible, but that’s what worked for me.

So, breathe. You’ve got this. And come up with a plan. If you have a “happy place”, give yourself permission to go there as much as you want. And if you’re at all excited about the pregnancy, let yourself feel that fully. Luxuriate in it! Those happy feelings helped me immensely.

Finally, as another poster said, your hormones will kick in. When they do, it’s awesome!!!! I loved being pregnant just for that optimism and sense of well-being that the hormones gave me.

Good luck, mama!!

eyes99

Oh - and use us!!! Lots of drinking mamas (past and present) on here. Lean on us as much as you want to. We’ve got you!

tomsteve

it IS possible AND to do it for more than 9 months, which i HOPE and PRAY is what you want-sobriety FOR GOOD.
it happens one day at a time.

have you looked into f2f support programs?
were you doing anything more that not drinking the other times? any recovery program/plan you were living?

Rar

As Zanna pointed out, "You are growing a person!" How amazing is that!

JunkyTrainwreck

Thank you guys for all the support I've read each and every post and they all have given me inspiration. Going to bed with a smile on my face tonight, appreciating another sober day.

Growing a person. Yup. Pretty crazy stuff.