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It really doesn't matter who's at fault Stewy - it's your decision to move on - or not.
I really hope you'll make a commitment to make tomorrow day one - why not even stop now and get a good nights kip?
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I really hope you'll make a commitment to make tomorrow day one - why not even stop now and get a good nights kip?
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Originally Posted by Stew1984 
I’m so drunk now I don’t know
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Stewy, You & the others are right - you're stuck and unable to move on due to the drinking. It definitely puts us 'on hold' and we stay frozen in time - no growth or healing can happen while we're in that state. I've done the same thing myself. I thought of it as a way to cope, but in reality it was holding me back & making me very sick. Once you get free of it, you'll be able to take steps to change your situation and go after the good life you deserve.
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Stewy, something that might help pull you out of this nightmare is gratitude.
Instead of looking back at your losses, maybe look at what you have right now.
A healthy daughter, both your parents, a roof over your head, food to eat, money in your pocket, the list is endless.
You have a perfect opportunity to stop drinking and a chance to move on to a wonderful fulfilling life.
I know you can do this if you stop sabotaging yourself.
Doesn't matter to me what program you use. I had to find what worked for me. Run through all the suggestions given and choose something that brings you to a place of peace.
Instead of looking back at your losses, maybe look at what you have right now.
A healthy daughter, both your parents, a roof over your head, food to eat, money in your pocket, the list is endless.
You have a perfect opportunity to stop drinking and a chance to move on to a wonderful fulfilling life.
I know you can do this if you stop sabotaging yourself.
Doesn't matter to me what program you use. I had to find what worked for me. Run through all the suggestions given and choose something that brings you to a place of peace.
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Maybe I was wrong about where your coming from Stewy, and if I was I apologize. Maybe your more sincere about quitting drinking than I thought. Maybe you are really stuck and not playing games, but you have to admit your posts make it hard to know where you are coming from. Just wanted you to know that I am on your side and only wish the best for you. I might be one of your harshest critics, but believe it or not, I'm also one of your biggest supporters. John
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Stewy, I drank at my divorce for two years and it accomplished nothing. It was only after I got sober that I saw the marriage for what it was — two well-intentioned yet very different people, each with their own underlying issues. Whose fault it was doesn't even matter now, really.
I've seen others post that getting sober is a selfish (in a good way) act, in that one's own wellbeing is the only thing that can reliably keep one sober. That was definitely my experience. Between the waves of sadness and urges to drink, you've got a helluva beast on your shoulder; actively pursuing meetings or therapy might work wonders.
Stewy, you're worth some peace and happiness — give it an honest chance.
I've seen others post that getting sober is a selfish (in a good way) act, in that one's own wellbeing is the only thing that can reliably keep one sober. That was definitely my experience. Between the waves of sadness and urges to drink, you've got a helluva beast on your shoulder; actively pursuing meetings or therapy might work wonders.
Stewy, you're worth some peace and happiness — give it an honest chance.
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Originally Posted by Opivotal
Stewy, something that might help pull you out of this nightmare is gratitude.
Instead of looking back at your losses, maybe look at what you have right now.
A healthy daughter, both your parents, a roof over your head, food to eat, money in your pocket, the list is endless.
You have a perfect opportunity to stop drinking and a chance to move on to a wonderful fulfilling life.
I know you can do this if you stop sabotaging yourself.
Doesn't matter to me what program you use. I had to find what worked for me. Run through all the suggestions given and choose something that brings you to a place of peace.
Instead of looking back at your losses, maybe look at what you have right now.
A healthy daughter, both your parents, a roof over your head, food to eat, money in your pocket, the list is endless.
You have a perfect opportunity to stop drinking and a chance to move on to a wonderful fulfilling life.
I know you can do this if you stop sabotaging yourself.
Doesn't matter to me what program you use. I had to find what worked for me. Run through all the suggestions given and choose something that brings you to a place of peace.
I hope you are able to get to a meeting today.
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