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Old 03-07-2018, 08:54 AM
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Thanks but saying anything to a GP would make me vulnerable re childcare issues, court orders etc.........I wouldn't tell a GP a thing as it can come back to bite you........
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Old 03-07-2018, 09:00 AM
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I didn't have such issues with the GP - I have 2 children aged 4 and 8. Admittedly I am not on my own, but my husband still drinks. I was asked questions in the addiction counselling I was referred to, I suppose they were checking there was no risk to our girls - they concluded there wasn't.
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Old 03-07-2018, 09:01 AM
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Hi Garvo. Welcome to SR. You have found the right place. You are doing great. I understand what you mean about when something goes wrong. I am just over 2 months and think I am doing well but I know from past experience that the true test is when something goes wrong. The snow last week would have been a great excuse in the past, oh well I can't go anywhere . . .. .. I made it through it.

I had extreme cravings on Sunday but rode them out - with the help of this website, and I am so glad I did. Take care. Keep posting. Keep reading posts.
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Old 03-07-2018, 09:01 AM
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Welcome and congrats on your day 5 Garvo 😁😁
I make it my mission to get on here every day and read, read and read some more it's so helpful and everyone is lovely 😁😁
Good luck with your recovery 🤗🤗
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Old 03-07-2018, 01:07 PM
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Lost my wallet this evening and it was a fright.........and although I lost my temper I didn't think hit the booze..........found it on the car dashboard in the end...crisis averted........everyone is really nice though I have ventured onto other peoples posts now and it does sound rather harrowing. I think damaged people drink a lot and the self destructive element of the process doesn't matter because you think that you don't matter.........I matter to my little boy and that's a good enough reason to try and stay alive and give him a good start in life and good memories of his Dad.......not bad ones............now just after 9pm in the UK......bring on day 6 of sobriety..........thanks everyone here
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Old 03-07-2018, 04:46 PM
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Is the anger a new thing Garvo?
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Old 03-07-2018, 05:11 PM
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Old 03-07-2018, 05:14 PM
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Originally Posted by garvo65 View Post
........I matter to my little boy and that's a good enough reason to try and stay alive and give him a good start in life and good memories of his Dad.......not bad ones............now just after 9pm in the UK......bring on day 6 of sobriety..........thanks everyone here
Yes you do! Our children need us! Congrats on your hard work
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Old 03-07-2018, 11:59 PM
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No afraid not.........but won't share my newspaper clippings!
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Old 03-08-2018, 12:09 AM
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Day six and feeling pretty good..........no experience of any temptation to drink yet....so I am not feeling that proud as I have not had to test my resolve.....so my concern is when will the cravings 'kick in'........? I was sad to read many of the posts here where members have relapsed, the disappointment and self loathing,...so hard when the habits are deeply ingrained ........I have failed in the past but never got the support of a place like this..........by the way I was drinking some alcohol even at 7 or 8......now 52..........many of my close friends from the teenage years are now dead from drinking.......anyway......guess I am rambling now but at least it is a sober ramble..........good luck to everyone on here trying to stay sober today. Garvo
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Old 03-08-2018, 12:48 PM
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Close of play day 6 and in the afternoon some slight temptation to drink but I think it was just connected to nervous energy............went to the gym and did some cardio and a bit of weights and the feeling disappeared.......so tomorrow will be one week completely dry......just writing on here really helps..........
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Old 03-08-2018, 02:30 PM
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As the anxiety lessens, we feel so much better. Congrats on reaching one week tomorrow - we know how rough the first days are.
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Old 03-09-2018, 03:41 AM
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Made it to one week dry...........day 7.........still have ache's and pains from all the weight the alcohol put on.....and also seem to be forgetting things like keys, phone and general things i put down in the house.........a small price to pay........been to the gym this morning and posted my mothers day card.......and not had an argument with anyone.............yet..............garvo......... ....
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Congratulations on 1 week Garvo. Well done!
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Old 03-09-2018, 08:50 AM
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Congrats Garvo on a full week. Keep going!!!!
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Old 03-10-2018, 01:56 AM
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Day 8 and still dry.........I had some conflict with a customer yesterday and the temptation to drink did rear its head......but one thing I think i had not thought very hard about in the past was that the temptation if often fleeting and short lived.....giving in immediately has been a past response but this time I did not give in and the feeling passed.........this morning on waking up with a clear head I felt a little better about myself the potential that we all have to succeed at this thing and have a qualitatively better life and be on the planet somewhat longer...........garvo.......
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'grats on day 8 Garvo

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Old 03-10-2018, 01:44 PM
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Just to say that although I don't have any plans to be with others who are drinking whilst socialising I think it would be very difficult to resist.......i would have to avoid it..........I have been in that situation in the past and was not drinking but felt very uncomfortable, anxious and had no idea what to say.........eventually gave in to temptation and got totally smashed and alone......others probably don't want to be in the company of someone who can barely walk or speak.......so much for socialising..............anyway......looking forward to day 9 sober tomorrow.........teaching online, then gym, movies, teaching again.......
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Old 03-10-2018, 06:13 PM
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A lot of us fall into the way of thinking that there's really two choices - go out with our drinking mates and be miserable or stay home, don;t go out anywhere and be miserable.

There's a world of things to do that don't involve drinking and I hope you'll find that out Garvo

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Old 03-11-2018, 12:28 AM
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I am not unhappy at all and always find things to do..........taking my son to London sightseeing the other week is a good example.......so staying at home isn't an issue.....just saying that social events with lots of people drinking would be something I would want to avoid. So day 9 sober and not suffering from much in the way of temptation and I think my self esteem will improve as i stop looking so bloated from the booze........I do read some very sad and worrying stories on here.........so I hope that my ability to stay sober for 9 days after 40 years or drinking is something positive.........
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