Trapped
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Join Date: Feb 2018
Location: Canada
Posts: 312
Morning Stew. You can get out! There's a bunch of people on here that are living proof, living fulfilling lives, having gotten past the hell of drinking and made peace with themselves. I'm still early in my recovery and it's still pretty raw and painful at times, I get it. Come here and read, talk to your doctor, find a group that works for you and get to some meetings. We're all here to support you.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,313
I felt that way until I picked a side Stewy.
My drinking life was horrible and my sober life was horrible because I never stuck at it long enough to get past withdrawal let alone start to feel better.
Pick drinking and things will get worse.
I drank until I lost everything that was dear to me. Career, family, health, self respect.
Pick sobriety and things are probably still going to be hard for a while before they get better - the longer we drink the deeper the hole...
but the earlier you do something about this the easier getting your life back into order will be.
You need to take some action Stewy.
I've seen you post after you drink, I've seen you post in despair, I've seen you post post declarations of you are going to get sober.,..but I haven't seen you take any real tangible sustained action for change.
Until you do, I think you're right - you're pretty much trapped.
D
My drinking life was horrible and my sober life was horrible because I never stuck at it long enough to get past withdrawal let alone start to feel better.
Pick drinking and things will get worse.
I drank until I lost everything that was dear to me. Career, family, health, self respect.
Pick sobriety and things are probably still going to be hard for a while before they get better - the longer we drink the deeper the hole...
but the earlier you do something about this the easier getting your life back into order will be.
You need to take some action Stewy.
I've seen you post after you drink, I've seen you post in despair, I've seen you post post declarations of you are going to get sober.,..but I haven't seen you take any real tangible sustained action for change.
Until you do, I think you're right - you're pretty much trapped.
D
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Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: US
Posts: 5,095
Hey Stew
I don't post to you often because I'm really not sure what to say. Just know you aren't alone. I know I'm very stubborn and I had to drink until I was so desperate that my only choice was to get help. That's just the way it is for me. I'm just grateful I didn't die before that desperation came.
There are 2 ways that alcoholism ends, recovery or well, to be blunt, death. Its just a fact. The time line is what you don't know if you keep drinking.
I don't post to you often because I'm really not sure what to say. Just know you aren't alone. I know I'm very stubborn and I had to drink until I was so desperate that my only choice was to get help. That's just the way it is for me. I'm just grateful I didn't die before that desperation came.
There are 2 ways that alcoholism ends, recovery or well, to be blunt, death. Its just a fact. The time line is what you don't know if you keep drinking.
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Join Date: Feb 2018
Posts: 674
Everyone has already said it. And I think you know it.
Not making a choice is making a choice. It's already either or. Pick being sober and ride along with some of the others like me here that are new in this. You don't have to do it alone.
Just keep it really simple for awhile. Don't drink today. And then don't drink tomorrow. People are right, you'll start seeing the way.
-B
Not making a choice is making a choice. It's already either or. Pick being sober and ride along with some of the others like me here that are new in this. You don't have to do it alone.
Just keep it really simple for awhile. Don't drink today. And then don't drink tomorrow. People are right, you'll start seeing the way.
-B
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Join Date: Jan 2018
Posts: 327
Originally Posted by Dee74 
I felt that way until I picked a side Stewy.
My drinking life was horrible and my sober life was horrible because I never stuck at it long enough to get past withdrawal let alone start to feel better.
Pick drinking and things will get worse.
I drank until I lost everything that was dear to me. Career, family, health, self respect.
Pick sobriety and things are probably still going to be hard for a while before they get better - the longer we drink the deeper the hole...
but the earlier you do something about this the easier getting your life back into order will be.
You need to take some action Stewy.
I've seen you post after you drink, I've seen you post in despair, I've seen you post post declarations of you are going to get sober.,..but I haven't seen you take any real tangible sustained action for change.
Until you do, I think you're right - you're pretty much trapped.
D
My drinking life was horrible and my sober life was horrible because I never stuck at it long enough to get past withdrawal let alone start to feel better.
Pick drinking and things will get worse.
I drank until I lost everything that was dear to me. Career, family, health, self respect.
Pick sobriety and things are probably still going to be hard for a while before they get better - the longer we drink the deeper the hole...
but the earlier you do something about this the easier getting your life back into order will be.
You need to take some action Stewy.
I've seen you post after you drink, I've seen you post in despair, I've seen you post post declarations of you are going to get sober.,..but I haven't seen you take any real tangible sustained action for change.
Until you do, I think you're right - you're pretty much trapped.
D
I think one of our problems in general is that we are always looking for the "magic pill" or the easy way out, to get the result we want. Look at the diet/weight loss industry.
Quitting drinking is not the "magic pill", but it is the necessary first step.
From there it takes time. Time to suffer through the initial stages, build your recovery plan, and build new habits to attain your new life.
It won't happen overnight, but it will happen if you stick with it and are willing to put in the work.
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 16,945
Welcome back Stewy. You are only “trapped” in the sense that you choose to not do anything about your situation. Not sure how many times you are going to come here and post the same thing over and over, but you will always receive support.
If you won’t do anything to help yourself, why not use your role as a parent and your daughter to get you started towards recovery? Think of how colossally selfish you are acting in relationship to being a responsible parent. I did it too, and so did many other member here...so I’m not singling you out....but thing of what she sees and your parents for that matter.
You have a wealth of options, I won’t list them because it’s been done hundreds of times. Get off the pity pot and do it as they say.
If you won’t do anything to help yourself, why not use your role as a parent and your daughter to get you started towards recovery? Think of how colossally selfish you are acting in relationship to being a responsible parent. I did it too, and so did many other member here...so I’m not singling you out....but thing of what she sees and your parents for that matter.
You have a wealth of options, I won’t list them because it’s been done hundreds of times. Get off the pity pot and do it as they say.
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: W Washington
Posts: 11,589
stewy, there is SO much help at your avail......in fact i don't think there are many other illnesses that plague people for which SO much help is available. you can make that choice at any time, on any day. there is no trap............
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Join Date: Feb 2018
Posts: 274
Honesty is the first step
Not talking about AA, according to AA as I understand it, the first step is about humility and being powerless. But you opened up and are being honest with your emotions and not in complete denial either. Pride is a "mortal sin" sorry I am so Catholic! It was hard for me to ask for help and that is where pride comes to play, but you pretty much need to ask for help, in a supporting community. You already did the leap. You are here.
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Originally Posted by Stew1984
I’m tired of day one day one day one nothing sticking. I know I’m done with this life. I’m done with it
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Originally Posted by Stew1984
I’m tired of day one day one day one nothing sticking. I know I’m done with this life. I’m done with it
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Join Date: Feb 2018
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At least you’re here on this site. You do not have to drink to survive. Your booze brain does not have the final say. Tell it to eff off and let Stew do the thinking. I believe in this forum, the collective wisdom of how to overcome. I dipped my toe in the water, and now I’m in the pool! Please join me—it’s amazingly refreshing here...
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