I Need a Plan
I'm not sure the stats you would like to find are truly available. I also don't think meds would make things much easier to be honest. At some point what we have to do is find better ways of dealing with life and relationships and being us than by drinking. When we first get sober it will feel rotten for a while, as we need time to build up our sober life strategies, and learning these strategies is developing our recovery plan. Once we've learnt those things we need to keep using them - working our recovery plan. Just stopping drinking can be unsustainable in the long term if we don't add things IN as well as take that out. Ourveecovery work is what can make sobriety bearable, sustainable, comfortable and (eventually) preferable to drinking. Just BEing sober for me was horrendous. I needed to learn how to LIVE sober. How to cope with feeling emotions without acting out.
The good news is, it's possible to make a recovery plan. There's great support on here, and there would be face to face support from other mums who've walked your path in AA that you could tap into as well. And that s a great way to find some new recovery / sober friends. I was hesitant about AA to say the least. Why would I want to go hang out with a bunch of drunks? Of course, all those folk in the meetings had been sober much longer than I could contemplate (my sponsor had her 40 years sober anniversary a little while ago!) And they were very happy to guide me along the path to recovery and teach me about how to stay sober and find peace and joy while being sober (which frankly seemed pretty impossible to me).
Anyway. Glad you're here and posting. Stay sober today.
BB
The good news is, it's possible to make a recovery plan. There's great support on here, and there would be face to face support from other mums who've walked your path in AA that you could tap into as well. And that s a great way to find some new recovery / sober friends. I was hesitant about AA to say the least. Why would I want to go hang out with a bunch of drunks? Of course, all those folk in the meetings had been sober much longer than I could contemplate (my sponsor had her 40 years sober anniversary a little while ago!) And they were very happy to guide me along the path to recovery and teach me about how to stay sober and find peace and joy while being sober (which frankly seemed pretty impossible to me).
Anyway. Glad you're here and posting. Stay sober today.
BB
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I'm not sure the stats you would like to find are truly available. I also don't think meds would make things much easier to be honest. At some point what we have to do is find better ways of dealing with life and relationships and being us than by drinking. When we first get sober it will feel rotten for a while, as we need time to build up our sober life strategies, and learning these strategies is developing our recovery plan. Once we've learnt those things we need to keep using them - working our recovery plan. Just stopping drinking can be unsustainable in the long term if we don't add things IN as well as take that out. Ourveecovery work is what can make sobriety bearable, sustainable, comfortable and (eventually) preferable to drinking. Just BEing sober for me was horrendous. I needed to learn how to LIVE sober. How to cope with feeling emotions without acting out.
The good news is, it's possible to make a recovery plan. There's great support on here, and there would be face to face support from other mums who've walked your path in AA that you could tap into as well. And that s a great way to find some new recovery / sober friends. I was hesitant about AA to say the least. Why would I want to go hang out with a bunch of drunks? Of course, all those folk in the meetings had been sober much longer than I could contemplate (my sponsor had her 40 years sober anniversary a little while ago!) And they were very happy to guide me along the path to recovery and teach me about how to stay sober and find peace and joy while being sober (which frankly seemed pretty impossible to me).
Anyway. Glad you're here and posting. Stay sober today.
BB
The good news is, it's possible to make a recovery plan. There's great support on here, and there would be face to face support from other mums who've walked your path in AA that you could tap into as well. And that s a great way to find some new recovery / sober friends. I was hesitant about AA to say the least. Why would I want to go hang out with a bunch of drunks? Of course, all those folk in the meetings had been sober much longer than I could contemplate (my sponsor had her 40 years sober anniversary a little while ago!) And they were very happy to guide me along the path to recovery and teach me about how to stay sober and find peace and joy while being sober (which frankly seemed pretty impossible to me).
Anyway. Glad you're here and posting. Stay sober today.
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As Hawkeye has already said above, that’s a great attitude. If you haven’t already done so, google urge surfing. It sounds like you have already developed your own method to practice it.
In any case, over the next few days, take note of when you feel the urge to drink, so that you can build detailed plans based on that. See what works and what doesn’t.
E.g., in early recovery, for me it was simply substituting sugar for alcohol. When I felt a craving for a drink at around 9 pm, some ice cream would fix that. After about 6 six months or so, the sugar cravings went away and my ice cream consumption plummeted!
In any case, over the next few days, take note of when you feel the urge to drink, so that you can build detailed plans based on that. See what works and what doesn’t.
E.g., in early recovery, for me it was simply substituting sugar for alcohol. When I felt a craving for a drink at around 9 pm, some ice cream would fix that. After about 6 six months or so, the sugar cravings went away and my ice cream consumption plummeted!
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As Hawkeye has already said above, that’s a great attitude. If you haven’t already done so, google urge surfing. It sounds like you have already developed your own method to practice it.
In any case, over the next few days, take note of when you feel the urge to drink, so that you can build detailed plans based on that. See what works and what doesn’t.
E.g., in early recovery, for me it was simply substituting sugar for alcohol. When I felt a craving for a drink at around 9 pm, some ice cream would fix that. After about 6 six months or so, the sugar cravings went away and my ice cream consumption plummeted!
In any case, over the next few days, take note of when you feel the urge to drink, so that you can build detailed plans based on that. See what works and what doesn’t.
E.g., in early recovery, for me it was simply substituting sugar for alcohol. When I felt a craving for a drink at around 9 pm, some ice cream would fix that. After about 6 six months or so, the sugar cravings went away and my ice cream consumption plummeted!
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So glad you’re here and talked to your husband. Pray he’s supportive.
Drank like an idiot for a couple of years in high school. Didn’t drink in undergrad. Played sports. Started my love affair during early years of unhappy marriage, at about 27. Quit for a year at 29, then began again until this past Monday.
Have wanted to stop for so very long but couldn’t see a way out—no time for AA during the week. Certainly no time for rehab. I like this forum so so much because I can access it when I need it, any time.
I watched a movie tonight sober for the first time in a really long time and talked about it after because I followed the plot—it was so much more fun! I also got up and walked my dog in the cool morning. It was breathtaking, like a return to my whole self. I have this excitement and spunk about life again. I see beauty and miracles again. This is so much better than living the other way—like a prisoner. Yay liberation from bondage!!
You can do this.
Drank like an idiot for a couple of years in high school. Didn’t drink in undergrad. Played sports. Started my love affair during early years of unhappy marriage, at about 27. Quit for a year at 29, then began again until this past Monday.
Have wanted to stop for so very long but couldn’t see a way out—no time for AA during the week. Certainly no time for rehab. I like this forum so so much because I can access it when I need it, any time.
I watched a movie tonight sober for the first time in a really long time and talked about it after because I followed the plot—it was so much more fun! I also got up and walked my dog in the cool morning. It was breathtaking, like a return to my whole self. I have this excitement and spunk about life again. I see beauty and miracles again. This is so much better than living the other way—like a prisoner. Yay liberation from bondage!!
You can do this.
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