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Old 01-17-2018, 01:15 AM   #1 (permalink)
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No booze for me today, didnít sleep well but itís preferable to waking up with a hangover. Now Iíve got this time on my hands (like every evening) which is new time for me. Need to fill it. Need to attack the day today and start to build distance between the past me and the me I want to be.
Seeing my nephew today and one of my friends after that, one of the things Iím going to work on is focus more outwardly. My own head hasnít been a friend to me all the time recently. A good day today looks like family time, friend time, exercise later in the form of footie and hit the pillow later aiming for a good nights sleep. Have a good day everyone
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Sounds like a good day👍
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Old 01-17-2018, 01:57 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Great attitude. One more sober day...check!
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Old 01-17-2018, 03:32 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Thanks guys, will update again later just with my nephew at the moment
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Love the positivity!

Stay sober, my friend. You and your head will make up in time.
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Thanks nonsensical, appreciated!!
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Yep, putting together sober time and positive attitude means major
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Old 01-17-2018, 08:11 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Good going, Stew. Not drinking gives us back time to actually do stuff again, it's great.
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Cheers everyone, still going strong, no urge at moment, got footie soon. Will update again in a bit
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Very good to hear, Stewy. See you soon.
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Old 01-17-2018, 01:57 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Back home now, finished everything for the day but a different feeling tonight than any other night. I didnít take the trip to the shops and get the usual beers, got a glass of water instead.
Iíve got mixed feelings and to be honest, I feel like Iíve been overthinking all day about so many different topics. It has not necessarily been productive but Iím pleased that Iíve put the plug in the jug today.
For me, having a clear head means so many different things, it means Iím going to have to face up to things head on- anxieties, worries, challenges. Living life on lifeís terms eh. Hopefully I will have a good sleep tonight and wake in a bit better frame of mind. Iím getting told a lot that Iíve got a lot going for me, itís like there is a difference between what others perceive of me and what I perceive of myself. Iím not sure how to go about altering this seen as Iíve beat myself down with a stick for a while thereís a tendency to just do what youíve always done.
I donít know......I overthink, worry, maybe thatís just me- do I think it deprives me of opportunity- yes.

Anyway, no point in dwelling, celebrate the positive. Iím not drinking today, I havenít drank today, Iím not drunk now, and Iíll be going to bed knowing I achieved what I set out to achieve
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Old 01-17-2018, 03:45 PM   #13 (permalink)
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"there’s a tendency to just do what you’ve always done"

While this is true, Stewie, it is also true that we can change our default settings

I work on catching my negative thoughts and challenging them with truth. It is ongoing work, but, I am starting to notice that my inner thought process is actually changing!

I believed for a very long time, that I couldn't change my thinking, but I was wrong about that.

I hope you have a good rest and see you here tomorrow
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I'm glad you've got a day one down Stewy

I know you're worried about over thinking, but I think you might need a better plan than 'keep busy' - noone can keep busy 24/7/365

what are some other things you might do to defeat cravings if they come, or the fear and loathing, or the 'whats the use - this is my default' feelings that may arise?

Have you considered what you could do for support outside of SR?

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"thereís a tendency to just do what youíve always done"

While this is true, Stewie, it is also true that we can change our default settings

I work on catching my negative thoughts and challenging them with truth. It is ongoing work, but, I am starting to notice that my inner thought process is actually changing!

I believed for a very long time, that I couldn't change my thinking, but I was wrong about that.

I hope you have a good rest and see you here tomorrow
Thank you very much 2ndhand rose
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Iím envisaging a tough ride early on because Iíve literally gone from all to nothing in the space of a day in terms of drinking. I have told my close family about stopping. Iíve been doing a CBT course for the last 12 weeks for anxiety- itís mainly the social side of things Iíve had support for.
I know it is unrealistic to keep busy all of the time, Iím planning during quiet times to play my guitar or read.
I woke at 5:30 this morning which is really weird and started ruminating. I couldnít really tell you what about because it was really to do with nonsense and nothing of great importance.
Iím feeling pretty flat, think thatís one of my main concerns but what do I expect given the punishment of recent months?
Iíve connected up again with some people Iíve previously knew that went on the back seat during my last relationship. I would like to see these people regularly as I believe they will help me with the re building process
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