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Old 01-19-2018, 08:19 PM   #41 (permalink)
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I just don't think its a great idea right now. With some sober time behind you, some cash in the bank and a completed education it would be a great idea, a good life adventure anyway.
I've lived here my whole life cept the 9 years I lived in CO, and well, to be honest I hate it here.
My plan is to move back to CO when the time is absolutely right which is when I have some more sober muscles built.
In the end its your choice. You've gotten a lot of great advice from everybody here
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Old 01-19-2018, 08:46 PM   #42 (permalink)
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Well I do have my BA completed in psychology if that counts for anything haha but yes a graduate degree would open much more doors in the long run..wow surprised to hear that you hate it ...why is that?

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I just don't think its a great idea right now. With some sober time behind you, some cash in the bank and a completed education it would be a great idea, a good life adventure anyway.
I've lived here my whole life cept the 9 years I lived in CO, and well, to be honest I hate it here.
My plan is to move back to CO when the time is absolutely right which is when I have some more sober muscles built.
In the end its your choice. You've gotten a lot of great advice from everybody here
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Again,man.. ****...your**** will follow you. I'm not trying to be harsh at all,but as of now,you are who you are. No matter where you go,you can not run from this...it will follow you,IF you don't *fix* it. I could sell my stuff and live alone on an island..and there *I* am. There's NO quick fix for sobriety,bro...it's work! Ex's married..OK? Not your concern. friends moved? OK..cool.. This is about you,man. Again..not trying to be harsh.
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Sure.. I had thought that a change of location would help me get sober. I could travel around for a few months-a year and everything would be fine. Then I started court ordered AA and started really listening to the posters here with some sober time behind them and what 'worked' for them. I'm not an avid AA'er but, when there's a few guys/gals with 10-30+yrs of sobriety behind them it got/held my attention. I realised I want what they have. That meant not 'running away' from my problems/life. I had to face it and still do on a daily,sometimes hourly basis.

An old high school buddy of mine went out to CA about 4 years ago for a 6mo rehab(rich family),he got sober while there and was surfing,ect..basically having a long dry vacation. He built his life back up over the past 3yrs and he called me the other night..relapsed. He told me that while in CA he never addressed his problems at home and within himself. So, now he's going to seek treatment in his home state with some therapy.
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Another thing is my home situation is not too good either. I am not in a good living situation here. So moving into a recovery program would probably help me on that end as well. But I see what you’re saying. I am not “running” I am going towards a better opportunity.




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Sure.. I had thought that a change of location would help me get sober. I could travel around for a few months-a year and everything would be fine. Then I started court ordered AA and started really listening to the posters here with some sober time behind them and what 'worked' for them. I'm not an avid AA'er but, when there's a few guys/gals with 10-30+yrs of sobriety behind them it got/held my attention. I realised I want what they have. That meant not 'running away' from my problems/life. I had to face it and still do on a daily,sometimes hourly basis.

An old high school buddy of mine went out to CA about 4 years ago for a 6mo rehab(rich family),he got sober while there and was surfing,ect..basically having a long dry vacation. He built his life back up over the past 3yrs and he called me the other night..relapsed. He told me that while in CA he never addressed his problems at home and within himself. So, now he's going to seek treatment in his home state with some therapy.
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Another thing is my home situation is not too good either. I am not in a good living situation here. So moving into a recovery program would probably help me on that end as well. But I see what you’re saying. I am not “running” I am going towards a better opportunity.
As long as it's a positive move for you, go for it. I personally can't stand la LOL. I love most of southern CA though(beach areas). If I could just win the powerball.
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I personally can’t stand NY lol
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I personally can’t stand NY lol
Haven't been there since I was a kid and do not plan on ever going as an adult. I couldn't live there, have a few buddies from there and they hated it too.
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Lol so you don’t like LA and not a fan of NY where do u prefer

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Haven't been there since I was a kid and do not plan on ever going as an adult. I couldn't live there, have a few buddies from there and they hated it too.
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There is a major transit line that runs right through Hollywood. You can get a train there that will take you Downtown, to the Santa Monica Pier (beach), Long Beach, Pasadena, East LA. USC is 15 minutes on the train. UCLA about 45. Buses run everywhere.

There's a huge transit push in LA and has been for a number of years. It's finally working. No, it's not like Manhattan and it never will be...things are just so spread out, the "last mile" is always a problem. Transfers can take a long time, and the service is less frequent than the NYC subways. So it can be a lot slower, and you definitely can't get EVERYWHERE, at least without a major time investment. But for the first time in decades, it IS possible to live in LA without a car. A lot of people in their 20s and early 30s are choosing not to get cars, and bicycles lanes are exploding.

Downtown used to be a ghost town after 6pm when everybody left work. Now it's bursting with life and entertainment, and is a very walkable place.

You can plan your living situation near your eventual job and your sober living near mass transit.

I'm not saying that LA is the right decision, but being without a car need not be a major factor on moving there.
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Well I’m not just moving to LA I will be entering an intensive 6 month recovery program....upon completing the 6 mo program I will be residing in a sober living facility that is affiliated with the program...
Sorry - I mussed the word just and thought the rehab was in NY where you are.

so while it's intensive its not inpatient? hence why you need the car - but it's sober house living once the course is finished?

Don't quite understand that, Mister M?
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