For those of you experienced with 12-steps I really think AA/NA may be the only way I can hope to attain sobriety. I have gone to meetings on and off over the years, and I have a library full of the literature. For those of you who have managed to get clean this way - can you tell me honestly if there is any hope of it working if I am unable to attend meetings every day, or even more than twice a week? Maybe this is an excuse, I don't know but it certainly doesn't feel like one. I have two young children, two jobs and an unsupportive spouse. There is a meeting I can get to on Fridays at noon, and with acrobatics I think I can probably manage another one, but that is literally all I can do. My town doesn't have meetings with childcare. I'm not trying to make excuses, but I can't lose my jobs or leave my kids alone. The stress on my marriage is already something I've used to justify drinking/using, and I'm too early in the process to know how to manage that stress any other way. But how can I learn another way? I've heard that there are online meetings - do those work? Do you recommend them? Thank you! |
Originally Posted by Fiona224
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I really think AA/NA may be the only way I can hope to attain sobriety. I have gone to meetings on and off over the years, and I have a library full of the literature. For those of you who have managed to get clean this way - can you tell me honestly if there is any hope of it working if I am unable to attend meetings every day, or even more than twice a week? Maybe this is an excuse, I don't know but it certainly doesn't feel like one. I have two young children, two jobs and an unsupportive spouse. There is a meeting I can get to on Fridays at noon, and with acrobatics I think I can probably manage another one, but that is literally all I can do. My town doesn't have meetings with childcare. I'm not trying to make excuses, but I can't lose my jobs or leave my kids alone. The stress on my marriage is already something I've used to justify drinking/using, and I'm too early in the process to know how to manage that stress any other way. But how can I learn another way? I've heard that there are online meetings - do those work? Do you recommend them? Thank you! Get the Big Book... read it cover to cover. Then read it again. Get yourself a sponsor - have yourself some recovered friends you can call as needed. Get to work on the steps in earnest. Make what meetings you can. It works. If you work it. :grouphug: |
There are also loads of AA speakers on You Tube, I found this very helpful as I am not able to attend meetings either. The Big Book contains the recovery program, as mentioned above. Lots of Steps workshops on You Tube too. Fantastic help. I have an online sponsor. This has worked very well. If you work hard at it, you will achieve your goal of sobriety. Wishing you all the best. |
Hi Fiona I relate to your predicament. I can share my perspective and what has worked for me so far. I won't attend a meeting every day. Could I? Yes. I won't. There I said it :). For me it's a quality thing......and a commitment thing (she says as she skipped her meeting today to mop the floor......progress not perfection). I go to 3 meetings a week. That is working for me. The noon meeting I go to during the week is good. I learn. I listen. But it's not THE meeting. The women's meeting I attend on Sunday's is THE meeting. I love it. I'm all in. Quality. That is working for me today. Being honest with myself and making my commitments is central. I have to grow daily. If that means more meetings then so be it. But for me the next step is more service. Stay tuned. Be honest. Find a woman's group. Find at least one meeting where you're all in. Share, service, reach out. Just my two cents....I'm learning everyday! |
I agree with Freeowl whole heartedly. Get a Big Book. Read it. Focus in on chapters 4 and 5 and do what it tells you to do to the very best of your ability. A great starting point. Recovery is in actions. The meetings are only a very small part. Doing the steps and living by the traditions are what matter most. |
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