Pregnant and can't get control
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I can relate to your situation.
My first pregnancy I didn’t drink one drip of alcohol.
During my second pregnancy, I also abstained for 12 weeks and then drank a lot of vodka. Then prob drank 10 times (wine) until I delivered.
It is not worth it, the cravings will pass. The anxiety it causes is pointless. Stop.
I’m am grateful everyday I look at my healthy 3 year old baby girl. But I’m still struggling with my own alcohol issues.. and looking back, I wish I would have quit official and enjoyed more of her life thus far.
Please stop now. Trust me, it doesn’t get better if you keep drinking... it only gets worse.
My first pregnancy I didn’t drink one drip of alcohol.
During my second pregnancy, I also abstained for 12 weeks and then drank a lot of vodka. Then prob drank 10 times (wine) until I delivered.
It is not worth it, the cravings will pass. The anxiety it causes is pointless. Stop.
I’m am grateful everyday I look at my healthy 3 year old baby girl. But I’m still struggling with my own alcohol issues.. and looking back, I wish I would have quit official and enjoyed more of her life thus far.
Please stop now. Trust me, it doesn’t get better if you keep drinking... it only gets worse.
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Hi CGC. Thank you for your very honest post. I wish you and your baby well. I have no children so cannot know what I would do but I do know that NOTHING would make me stop or reduce when I was drinking. And if you don't feel any attachment yet it must be very hard. I just wanted to say I really really feel for you. You must get help but its not all about the baby, you deserve a life too.
Hi CGC. Thank you for your very honest post. I wish you and your baby well. I have no children so cannot know what I would do but I do know that NOTHING would make me stop or reduce when I was drinking. And if you don't feel any attachment yet it must be very hard. I just wanted to say I really really feel for you. You must get help but its not all about the baby, you deserve a life too.
So, I say to the original poster. I relate, that could have been me.
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this is a nice post, I agree wholeheartedly. When I was drinking alcoholically, NOTHING would have stopped me. I hope our members here can remember what that felt like. It is easy to get all worked up about a passionate issue. We all want to protect babies, etc. But it is important to remember how we once were. We have members here who have killed others while driving drunk or from other drunken activities. We have members here who have ruined their profession, broken up families, destroyed lives from drinking. This new member is not unlike us. It maybe didn't happen to you, but it could have. Lest us we forget the famous "YET" You've eligible too. I didn't drink to this level while pregnant, but did drink a bit of wine on occasion. I remember confessing this to another woman in AA, she told me "I got sober before I fell pregnant but there is no doubt in my mind that had I still been drinking I would have drank. I relate, that could have been me"
So, I say to the original poster. I relate, that could have been me.
So, I say to the original poster. I relate, that could have been me.
DS
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Hi Meraviglioso.
I don't know how this forum works or if you get to see this message. I'm the original poster. You're words have stayed with me, even though it's a few months later now, and I appreciate your kindness when i was at one of the lowest points of my life (I had to disconnect from this thread because it was more hurtful than helpful for me at the time). I have been seeing a psychologist and maternal wellness support program and getting support through there. I have not had anything close to that type of binge again. My 18 week ultrasound was normal (but of course, I worry about what can't be "seen'). I struggle with cravings and I have had an occasional drink since, which i was sure to measure out and limit it to no more than a unit, 5 oz glass of wine absolute max (I wish I could say I was perfect in this). I convince myself the research says this is still ok, but of course, I worry that this is a bigger problem that I will need to deal with after pregnancy. (I crave getting drunk, but know I just can't right now. I have a little girl coming apparently). I just wanted to say, thanks for your support when I know lots of people were judging (rightfully so, I'm sure). It's a struggle and keeps being. 26 weeks now. I don't want to do any more harm and pray for the universe to take care of this baby and any harm that may have been done from that intense time of several weeks of absolute binging. Again, just wanted to say thank you for being a source of hope at such a horrible time.
I don't know how this forum works or if you get to see this message. I'm the original poster. You're words have stayed with me, even though it's a few months later now, and I appreciate your kindness when i was at one of the lowest points of my life (I had to disconnect from this thread because it was more hurtful than helpful for me at the time). I have been seeing a psychologist and maternal wellness support program and getting support through there. I have not had anything close to that type of binge again. My 18 week ultrasound was normal (but of course, I worry about what can't be "seen'). I struggle with cravings and I have had an occasional drink since, which i was sure to measure out and limit it to no more than a unit, 5 oz glass of wine absolute max (I wish I could say I was perfect in this). I convince myself the research says this is still ok, but of course, I worry that this is a bigger problem that I will need to deal with after pregnancy. (I crave getting drunk, but know I just can't right now. I have a little girl coming apparently). I just wanted to say, thanks for your support when I know lots of people were judging (rightfully so, I'm sure). It's a struggle and keeps being. 26 weeks now. I don't want to do any more harm and pray for the universe to take care of this baby and any harm that may have been done from that intense time of several weeks of absolute binging. Again, just wanted to say thank you for being a source of hope at such a horrible time.
I wish you the best in your pregnancy.
I hope you can find a way to stay sober for the rest of your pregnancy. And, it would be great if you used this time to form a recovery plan for when your pregnancy ends and you will feel it's okay to drink again. Being a new mom is a daunting experience, so if you have any support in place to help you stay sober when the baby comes, it would be so helpful.
I hope you can find a way to stay sober for the rest of your pregnancy. And, it would be great if you used this time to form a recovery plan for when your pregnancy ends and you will feel it's okay to drink again. Being a new mom is a daunting experience, so if you have any support in place to help you stay sober when the baby comes, it would be so helpful.
Hi CGC.
I’d like to apologize for being one of the insensitive people who commented perhaps too rashly. I actually thought to PM you and explain but I couldn’t find the right words and anyway, you’ve received great advice from so many other people here.
I’m glad to hear that you’re doing better. I believe your baby girl will be fine. You stayed away from the sauce the 1st trimester and have really tried to control your intake since your last bad binges.
I hope your diet is stellar, though. This helps ALOT. You will be fine and should look forward positively to having a very healthy baby. You’ll do great.
Use all the resources at your disposal to quit drinking forever. Wish you all the best.
Lava.
I’d like to apologize for being one of the insensitive people who commented perhaps too rashly. I actually thought to PM you and explain but I couldn’t find the right words and anyway, you’ve received great advice from so many other people here.
I’m glad to hear that you’re doing better. I believe your baby girl will be fine. You stayed away from the sauce the 1st trimester and have really tried to control your intake since your last bad binges.
I hope your diet is stellar, though. This helps ALOT. You will be fine and should look forward positively to having a very healthy baby. You’ll do great.
Use all the resources at your disposal to quit drinking forever. Wish you all the best.
Lava.
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Hi Meraviglioso.
I don't know how this forum works or if you get to see this message. I'm the original poster. You're words have stayed with me, even though it's a few months later now, and I appreciate your kindness when i was at one of the lowest points of my life (I had to disconnect from this thread because it was more hurtful than helpful for me at the time). I have been seeing a psychologist and maternal wellness support program and getting support through there. I have not had anything close to that type of binge again. My 18 week ultrasound was normal (but of course, I worry about what can't be "seen'). I struggle with cravings and I have had an occasional drink since, which i was sure to measure out and limit it to no more than a unit, 5 oz glass of wine absolute max (I wish I could say I was perfect in this). I convince myself the research says this is still ok, but of course, I worry that this is a bigger problem that I will need to deal with after pregnancy. (I crave getting drunk, but know I just can't right now. I have a little girl coming apparently). I just wanted to say, thanks for your support when I know lots of people were judging (rightfully so, I'm sure). It's a struggle and keeps being. 26 weeks now. I don't want to do any more harm and pray for the universe to take care of this baby and any harm that may have been done from that intense time of several weeks of absolute binging. Again, just wanted to say thank you for being a source of hope at such a horrible time.
I don't know how this forum works or if you get to see this message. I'm the original poster. You're words have stayed with me, even though it's a few months later now, and I appreciate your kindness when i was at one of the lowest points of my life (I had to disconnect from this thread because it was more hurtful than helpful for me at the time). I have been seeing a psychologist and maternal wellness support program and getting support through there. I have not had anything close to that type of binge again. My 18 week ultrasound was normal (but of course, I worry about what can't be "seen'). I struggle with cravings and I have had an occasional drink since, which i was sure to measure out and limit it to no more than a unit, 5 oz glass of wine absolute max (I wish I could say I was perfect in this). I convince myself the research says this is still ok, but of course, I worry that this is a bigger problem that I will need to deal with after pregnancy. (I crave getting drunk, but know I just can't right now. I have a little girl coming apparently). I just wanted to say, thanks for your support when I know lots of people were judging (rightfully so, I'm sure). It's a struggle and keeps being. 26 weeks now. I don't want to do any more harm and pray for the universe to take care of this baby and any harm that may have been done from that intense time of several weeks of absolute binging. Again, just wanted to say thank you for being a source of hope at such a horrible time.
DS
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Hi Meraviglioso.
I don't know how this forum works or if you get to see this message. I'm the original poster. You're words have stayed with me, even though it's a few months later now, and I appreciate your kindness when i was at one of the lowest points of my life (I had to disconnect from this thread because it was more hurtful than helpful for me at the time). I have been seeing a psychologist and maternal wellness support program and getting support through there. I have not had anything close to that type of binge again. My 18 week ultrasound was normal (but of course, I worry about what can't be "seen'). I struggle with cravings and I have had an occasional drink since, which i was sure to measure out and limit it to no more than a unit, 5 oz glass of wine absolute max (I wish I could say I was perfect in this). I convince myself the research says this is still ok, but of course, I worry that this is a bigger problem that I will need to deal with after pregnancy. (I crave getting drunk, but know I just can't right now. I have a little girl coming apparently). I just wanted to say, thanks for your support when I know lots of people were judging (rightfully so, I'm sure). It's a struggle and keeps being. 26 weeks now. I don't want to do any more harm and pray for the universe to take care of this baby and any harm that may have been done from that intense time of several weeks of absolute binging. Again, just wanted to say thank you for being a source of hope at such a horrible time.
I don't know how this forum works or if you get to see this message. I'm the original poster. You're words have stayed with me, even though it's a few months later now, and I appreciate your kindness when i was at one of the lowest points of my life (I had to disconnect from this thread because it was more hurtful than helpful for me at the time). I have been seeing a psychologist and maternal wellness support program and getting support through there. I have not had anything close to that type of binge again. My 18 week ultrasound was normal (but of course, I worry about what can't be "seen'). I struggle with cravings and I have had an occasional drink since, which i was sure to measure out and limit it to no more than a unit, 5 oz glass of wine absolute max (I wish I could say I was perfect in this). I convince myself the research says this is still ok, but of course, I worry that this is a bigger problem that I will need to deal with after pregnancy. (I crave getting drunk, but know I just can't right now. I have a little girl coming apparently). I just wanted to say, thanks for your support when I know lots of people were judging (rightfully so, I'm sure). It's a struggle and keeps being. 26 weeks now. I don't want to do any more harm and pray for the universe to take care of this baby and any harm that may have been done from that intense time of several weeks of absolute binging. Again, just wanted to say thank you for being a source of hope at such a horrible time.
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I gotta say, it takes great courage for you to speak out and admit the truth of your situation. I respect that greatly. My guess is 99.9% of people in your situation would just stay silent b/c they wouldn’t be able to cope with admitting the truth.
That said, grab some of that courage and stop. Sober up. If you think the guilt you feel now is overwhelming what you will experience as you dig the hole deeper will makes this look like a holiday.
You know this. You got this. Come here, vent and bark at the moon. If you want you can rant at me in a message a 200 page venting whining life story. But for your sake and your kid’s find a way.
One day at a time. They stack up fast. Stay focused.
Best to you,
-B
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That said, grab some of that courage and stop. Sober up. If you think the guilt you feel now is overwhelming what you will experience as you dig the hole deeper will makes this look like a holiday.
You know this. You got this. Come here, vent and bark at the moon. If you want you can rant at me in a message a 200 page venting whining life story. But for your sake and your kid’s find a way.
One day at a time. They stack up fast. Stay focused.
Best to you,
-B
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