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DangerZone 01-05-2018 08:24 AM

Personality Traits You Hate About The Drunk You
 
For me it's

- I don't know my limits. I don't care where I am or who I am with once I have a couple beers I want to get trashed.

- I get violent. I look to fight people, I threatened people while drunk and I knocked a guy out at the bar once for a stupid reason.

- hit on girls who were not single. Whether they have boyfriends, husband or if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't care. I was never one of those 'grabby' drunk guys though. I'd never go that low I respect women but drunk I don't care whether they are single or not. I hate that.

- hooked up with girls I normally wouldn't have if sober

- Spent too much money

- drive drunk

- get too emotional

- I'd drunk text

- I'd use drugs

- talk too much

Conclusion - I hate the drunk me with a passion.

tiredwoman 01-05-2018 08:33 AM

Like this post. Very honest. We have all been there. For me, it's drunk texting, craving weed, getting excessively emotional and spending too much money.

Youcangetthere 01-05-2018 08:38 AM

Love the post,

I hate the slurred speech when trying to have a conversation with my children and the look of disappointment on their faces. Glad I don't have to face that anymore.

ChloeRose63 01-05-2018 08:49 AM

I get careless with money and buy things.

AshleyB 01-05-2018 09:01 AM

For me its:
1. Overly emotional
2. Talk to people I normally could care less about just because i'm drunk and want entertainment
3. Super ego-sensitive
4. Create new interests then wake up the next day like what? lol
5. Stir up topics of the past
6. Lashing out
7. Aggressiveness
8. Feeling drained
9. Being too blunt at the worst times possible lol
10. Not in control of my judgements

readyt0change 01-05-2018 09:06 AM

when i start drinking and smoking weed nothing else matters except my own pleasure

spend all my disposable income on maintaining the bar lifestyle

and a lot of other things which are mentioned in this thread.

DesertDawg 01-05-2018 09:25 AM

Very though-provoking post. I think that for some of us, it could be argued that we really had NO personality when drunk. I refer to those of us who were not social drinkers, but went hard, and alone to Black Out City. I don't suppose that applied to many people...but for me, I just drank to "shut it down." I guess most people were a combination of both sides of drinking, but I know for me, I went out of my way to avoid people because the "personality" that would emerge when I was blotto was not a personality at all, just some shallow being that I didn't want the world to see.

PeacefulWater12 01-05-2018 09:30 AM

I became angry and verbally nasty.

tekink 01-05-2018 09:46 AM

When I'm drunk I think I'm right and won't give anyone else a word/thought edgewise. My wife hated that side of me and didn't realize it was because I was drinking all the time. She mentioned the other day how nice it is I don't do that anymore.

Boxer1 01-05-2018 09:47 AM


Originally Posted by AshleyB (Post 6735080)
For me its:
1. Overly emotional
2. Talk to people I normally could care less about just because i'm drunk and want entertainment
3. Super ego-sensitive
4. Create new interests then wake up the next day like what? lol
5. Stir up topics of the past
6. Lashing out
7. Aggressiveness
8. Feeling drained
9. Being too blunt at the worst times possible lol
10. Not in control of my judgements


This is why I love this site, transparent relatable honesty. This sums me up totally as well and is a great reminder what I’m not missing and keep me on the straight and narrow. Thanks for this:thanks

Lonewolf22 01-05-2018 09:57 AM

I hate the fact I don't know what I am capable when I am drunk. That is terrifying for me.

I become aggressive and insulting.

I become hostile and sort of stick my fingers up at everyone as if they're an enemy.

I am wholly unpredictable, can be nice one minute, going crazy the next.

I hate that I become foolish and an embarrassment to myself.

I hate that I'm vulnerable and have slept with women I wouldn't dream of sleeping with whilst they were sober and ignored the fact I was pissed.

I have had homeless people or people wanting drugs persuading me to draw money out of my bank. I've woke up remembering giving someone over a hundred quid so they could get drugs.

I have no awareness of social boundaries or of reality for that matter.

I've been cocky to people you really shouldn't mess with. I find myself very lucky in these cases.

I sometimes spout off all my emotional baggage often threatening to commit suicide

It's just madness really

*cringe*

tomsteve 01-05-2018 09:58 AM

Personality Traits You Hate About The Drunk You

egotistical
dishonest
cold hearted
intolerant
jealous
self pity
self justifying
self importance
self absorbed
self centered
self hatred

justa few

DreamCatcher17 01-05-2018 10:05 AM

Oh Boy, there are so many!
- Oversharing of my life/experiences that should be kept to myself
- Promiscuous
- Cheater
- Drunk Driver
- No respect for self or others
- Didn't care about any but my self
- Overly generous with money
- Would do other drugs, not weed that would make me puke
- There was no stopping, I would just pass out somewhere
- Hangovers kept getting worse and worse which caused laziness
- Overeating when trashed, not good food either
- Drunk texting/facebooking
-Mean, very very mean
- Out of control, been banned from 2 bars
- Walk around my neighborhood half naked (this was my final straw and last experience)
- Call people who didn't deserve the time of day from me, past relationship people. So dumb
- Cause drama, just because I needed to be entertained as my life was sooo boring, spice things up, ya know?

The list is endless

DangerZone 01-05-2018 10:11 AM


Originally Posted by DreamCatcher17 (Post 6735202)
Oh Boy, there are so many!
- Oversharing of my life/experiences that should be kept to myself
- Promiscuous
- Cheater
- Drunk Driver
- No respect for self or others
- Didn't care about any but my self
- Overly generous with money
- Would do other drugs, not weed that would make me puke
- There was no stopping, I would just pass out somewhere
- Hangovers kept getting worse and worse which caused laziness
- Overeating when trashed, not good food either
- Drunk texting/facebooking
-Mean, very very mean
- Out of control, been banned from 2 bars
- Walk around my neighborhood half naked (this was my final straw and last experience)
- Call people who didn't deserve the time of day from me, past relationship people. So dumb
- Cause drama, just because I needed to be entertained as my life was sooo boring, spice things up, ya know?

The list is endless

We got a lot in common DreamCatcher17... It really is crazy how much alcohol can change someone's personality.

Rodney18 01-05-2018 10:14 AM

I can relate to 90% of things listed.
When is blackout I always wondered at everything I did/said when I’d hear about it later. Nothing I did seemed like anything the sober me would do.
And it got worse the more my boozing increased.

DreamCatcher17 01-05-2018 10:32 AM

DangerZone,
Yes it is so very disheartening how much a different person I (we, I am sure) were while in active addiction. I could not imagine doing ANYTHING i did drunk while sober... I was just beside my self with everything I had done. Like while using I had no shame, maybe that is why I always wanted the party to continue, so I didnt have to deal with the **** I had done...

I am just so happy to be on this, sober, side of the fence so that evil me never has to be around.

january161992 01-05-2018 10:46 AM

funny i had bad personality traits and then after high school i took my first drink

im the problem not the drinking

the drinking was the symptom of the real problem which is me

:thanks

EliL 01-05-2018 10:51 AM

I act like every other person in the world would when they consume far too much alcohol, based on my personality type that is! Lots of stupid stuff; done I wouldn’t do sober and some I would.

The problem is I never learned from my mistakes and of course that isn’t solely alcohol.

lola1987 01-05-2018 10:57 AM

I love this post. I hated so much about myself. The one big thing is I lied so much. God knows why. I never needed to at all. But it was like I was trying to impress the people around me constantly. I would make up crazy lies. I actually lost someone very close to me over this. It still hurts to this day.

I was always an annoying drunk. I talked to much and bragged. I went on like a complete gobshite.

I was an angry drunk. Bringing up past issues that had been resolved just to start an argument.

I was foolish. I slept with many men drunk. I let my guard down completely. I went to people I never would dream of sober. Obnoxious men.

I was a bad mother. I spent so many days hungover. Every day. And I completely let my daughter down. Now I relish our time together. The money I spent on drink easily added up to over €100 a week. Now €30 of that weekly on toys for my daughter as a little treat and save the rest towards college for her future. Something I never thought of while sober.

I was an all round bad person. I lied cheated done everything possible that is wrong.

Today I'm proud of the woman I am. I have come out the other side. This is my only shot at life. We only get one shot. And I'm gonna make a damn good run at it 😀

Lonewolf22 01-05-2018 11:24 AM

^Awesome :)


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